Why do some men hit women?

Question

Does anyone know? I'd like to find out the psychology behind it. Anyone any theories?

Answer 1

it can sometimes be what they have seen growing up

it can sometimes be because they are just a bully

it can sometimes be because they have anger issues

it can sometimes be because they cannot vocalise feelings and emotions

it can soometimes be because they are just idiots, who know no better than to slap/punch/kick/bite/burn and generally maim a womans body! sad fact is that this does happen - to men too - and that people accept it. they shouldn't.

Answer 2

I have only heard one true story covered by the news which was male celebrity tying up his wife a female celebrity and beat her up. Both celebrities are still famous now and it seemed to be just one story behind their divorces that nobody else bothered anymore. As a woman I have never been beaten by any man, but then again I am not a belingerent voracious type of woman. I do not allow men to use the word "love" to control my behavior and decisions, but when I am in a relationship, I try not to cause jealousy or suspicion from quick-tempered and possessive man that will invite violent actions towards me.
Modern woman living fast paced life knows that we are capable to excel in fields that were mostly dominated by men, and men know this too. But we forgot that we are equal to men, not above them. How we want to be treated by men, that's how we should treat them. Some men were violent due to their upbringing and wrong examples by their parents, but there were also women of this type, and all of them need help or probably put in jail forever.
It seems today this issue has been considered "one of those things" where fines or alimony can solve "the pain and anguish".
I guess deep inside everyone realizes that this is a much bigger issue that will involve parents, media, life in general, old emancipation issue - all that are way too big to handle all at once.
Sorry I can't come up with any theory, that's all I can tell you from what I learned and heard in real life.

Answer 3

I doubt that many answers here are inaccurate for the majority of occasions, but they are too simplistic and emerge as a 'One Size fits All' philosophy which is dangerous.

I have been 'nagged' and 'verbally abused' by my wife in the past to the point where I simply walked out of the house ~ and have been 'taunted' with 'Can't take it, can you,' as I left.

At a dinner table with guests, she once asked out loud, "What are you, a man or a mouse?" ...though she claimed later to not remember asking.

Much later, confessions from her include the fact that 'she wanted me to "Behave Like A Man," which included 'throwing her onto the bed,' 'striking her' and 'taking what I wanted,' proving what I felt and wanted ~ hence the tirade from her.

So, if I am 'a REAL Man' (ho ho) then I'm in deep smeg. If I behave otherwise, then I'm not a 'Real Man' but some kind of wimp / loser (if you've a mind to use such terms). But one way or the other, I'm on a hiding to nothing.

Perspective and the Rights n Wrongs of situations are fascinating ~ from hindsight.

Incidentally, the local Police stopped me on three occasions when out walking the streets, and agreed with me that I'd done the right / safe thing. My wife agreed to ~ though much later, after the damage was done.

Sash.

Answer 4

quite frankly even being a man i really have no clue, to me this is just rude arrogant and dammed disrespectful in all facets no matter which way you look at it...

my guess from a physiological point of view would be that it either has to do with lack of self respect or the inability to handle frustration.

either way it is unacceptable!

I know men are geared different to women but frankly even as a man it is still a choice that you choose to hit a woman.

myself I would never say never but it would have to be something close to a life and death situation for me to hit a woman

Answer 5

Some men hit women because they were taught that it was ok. They don't know how to deal with there anger. A real man is Man enough to not hit a woman and walk away.

Answer 6

Power and control, and because the women let them. No person in the world has the right to assault or harm another. You are the only person who is in control of your life. You say what you like to eat, drink etc so why accept abuse. If you accept it for whatever reason you are just as much to blame as the perpertrator.

Answer 7

Makes them feel they are in control - usually because they are not in control of other areas.

Why do some women let them - because they are scared and ironically - the woman feels more in control (safe) being close to the guy than suffering the consequences if she were to leave.

Then one glorious day, the scales tip and she realises it will be safer to leave.

Answer 8

My Husband said he would never ever hit me, or any women for that fact. His Father brought him up to beleive three things, Never hit a man when he's lying on the ground, never hit a woman, and the third's gone. He grew up respecting this and now it's engrained. By God if he aint hit me by now he never will, cos I am a nightmare. Lucky for me I married him

Answer 9

Same reason some women hit men,lack of communication skills and anger management issues.

Answer 10

It may come from a dominance thing. He may feel inferior or incompetent and want to dominate and they only way he can show dominance is by hitting. It is a very childish thing to do, sort of like having a temper tantrum.
If you are being hit by a man, please get away from him fast. There are many good men out there that don't hit.