Answer this please, its urgent!!! thanks?

Question

10 down few to go. I bet you are wondering what are these. These are the number of unsuccessful relationships that my friends had. And every day the number increases. What can I do after giving them a big hug and my advice which is always helpful and I happen to be starting with; "I told you so..." Well after all theses I happen to think that all guys are the same, they have what they want and then throw the unwanted things away!!! I am not young, I am about to finish the secondary school. I used to believe in fairytales and everlasting relationships, well even at least a year, as the longest my friends had is about a month. The problem is that they do not leave, they get dumped. that’s not fair. Now I have lost faith and I am thinking is a week of relationship worth you crying over it for months? Well that’s what my friends going through and I am not happy. So I was wondering if you have got any advice both for me and my friends, and what should we do. Thanks

crist, its not me wanting relationships, it my friends!!! I just feel really sorry 4 them and dont know what to do, nothing i do for them works no more

as however hard they try they still get dumped, and lets face it 16 is not *too young*

i dont even want 1, its them i am worried about

sp please do not judge me, i have done nothing to be judged

sp please do not judge me, i have done nothing to be judged

Answer 1

I think you and your friends need to be more careful about who you give your hearts to.

It appears to me like they keep falling for the same guys, who treat them the same way and leave them feeling unwanted so they repeat the process just to feel loved again.

I don't believe in one week dating, I only give my love to guys I really care about and I know care for me. If you and your friends draw out a list of qualities you want in your next boyfriend and stick to it, you'll find that although you may pass alot of guys down at the end of the day the right guy will come along and treat you in the way you deserve.

Give yourself standards and don't just let any guy in, you are unique and have something to offer that no other girl has. If you keep letting in every guy you meet then your faith in relationships will falter because guess what? guys can be jerks.

Don;t allow yourselves to get hurt by all these quick date guys, save yourself for someone you genuinely care about and you'll find that those 'fairy tales' you used to believe in can still exist.

I hope you all find love. Gd Luck and god bless x

Answer 2

Very few people get a relationship right on the first try . Practice makes ... well as close to perfect as possible. Play the field have fun do not take it that seriously. Every time you go on a first date there is a good chance there will never be a 2nd. Do not take this as a failure. Chalk it up to experience and something fun to do not a failure. Ending longer relationships and I mean Years not days or months are sad. Do not compare the last guy with the new ones. That is not only unfair it means you have forgotten what went wrong with the previous relationship.

A relationship is only a failure if it is destructive or abusive. Any relationship where you can end it and still respect each other is a success Use it to learn how to show a deeper respect for someone new.

Answer 3

I don't really see a question. But secondary school, that's middle school right? Well that's pretty young for a long relationship. Let me tell you now, if you're lucky you'll find your life partner but most aren't that fortunate. It gets worse in High School, and believe me, the patterns keep going on. You learn from your mistakes, and no matter how many times you get hurt, you always get better. There really isn't any advice, just when the right guy comes, you'll know it, or maybe you won't, but don't be searching for guys all the time, let fate do its trick, let it happen. You can't plan love.

Answer 4

Your still young...im leaving secondary school next yr...as for relationships and stuff like that it will all become more clear after a while...you say you dnt believe n fairytales etc...well why are you talking about giving up on relationships..or something along those lines..if you were old you'd be old enough to understand that at our age you have to just find your feet...your not old enough until your wise enough and if that means being dumped a few times then so be it..tell your friends to move on..there more ppl out there...what doesnt kill you will make you stronger...good luck x

Answer 5

In this generation, I would think that a woman does not need a man to identify her. Grab your friends and have some "girl time". Forget the boys for awhile....take a class together. I used to be "YOU" always worried about being a part of someone else and getting dumped. I finally figured out the magic bullet....ignore them and get busy living your own dreams and lo and behold you will meet someone with substance who treats you like your should be treated. As "Phil" says..."a relationship is not 50-50; it is 100-100". I kissed many a toad, was the dumpee and the dumper...life. You are worth the wait!
Cheers!

Answer 6

Come on - grow up and live a little before you start worrying about guys and heavy relationships. There's a big wide world out there - get out and see some of it while you can. If you're all so desperate for a guy and a relationship now - you'll be married with kids by 19 or 20 - dont throw your youth away on guys - you need it.

Answer 7

if you are about to finish secondary school then sorry to say , you are still young . Take my advise you DO NOT want to be in a serious relationship now and neither do the boys you date and hang around , go out and have fun ,enjoy the time you have , remember , you only live once.

Your firends need to get out and meet as many people as they can , who knows next year some of them might want to travel around the world but if they in a heavy relationship with someone it going to make it very hard.

Answer 8

You may think that you are not young but you say you're in secondary school which i think means high school. Trust me you are still young eventhough to you it doesnt seem like it. At that age you cant expect to have a real/meaningful relationship. Guys are not thinking about who theyre going to spend the rest of their life with. Its all fun and games at that age. You shouldnt take these relationships too seriously. Just enjoy it while it lasts. As you get older it will get better.

Answer 9

Get used to it...it's high school. Four months is practically impossible to reach. Just don't put out quickly so you don't grow as attached (oxycotin in the brain). Look for a guy that you've known for a while who is trustworthy and try him out and stop going for the random "hot" guys with that smile. It's a trick of the get laid quick and often trade. That's pretty much it, it works better that way when you know someone a little beforehand.

Answer 10

"It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all". If the moments in the relationship were great and memorable, then yes, the tears are worth it. One day of love and happiness is worth a year of tears and heartache. So I believe anyways. But if the relationship was nothing more than a simple comfort from being alone for a momentary amount of time, then no, it is never worth it.

Jonesy

P.S. It takes a strong person to love, but it takes a stronger person to never give up.