my mom fell in love with him when i was 4 but now he is just ruining my life he is totally wrong for her but she dosnt even know it he is boring and a workaholic I NEED HELP boo hoo boo hoo
2007-01-07 08:38:55 · 17 answers · asked by Liddybug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Life isn't perfect. Soon you'll be grown up and gone, you can do whatever you want then. Until then, be good and work hard in school. It won't be forever.
2007-01-07 08:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After reading everyone Else's opinion I think I will strike out on my own with the exception of Julie C
You want him to pay more attention to you.
He seems unaware that you have grown into a different stage of your life. You need him right now. He may be really stressed at work trying to get ahead? You take the lead then. If you are old enough to ask this kind of question you are old enough to help make it happen..to make things come true for yourself at last!!
Send Dad a note that tells him you know he has been busy and that you cleaned the garage to take some stress off him.You also vacuumed his car. It will make him feel so good he will offer you money or ask what you want.You can just answer honestly....Some time from you. . He married a whole family when he married mom when you were 4. he knew that.
don't get discouraged if it doesn't work the first time...It hardly ever does...keep thinking!!!!! It will take about a week.!!
Good luck and e-mail me if you get stuck...
a step mom
2007-01-07 09:14:36 · answer #2 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be more to this than what you have said. If there is not and it is you just do not like him, give it some time. My stepfather passed away in January and I never got the chance to say how much I really did love him, even though I was the one to always give the biggest fit about anything he tried to tell me to do and he was the love of my mothers life. So, if it is just that you feel he is controlling right now, look at it from another perspective. If your mom is happy, then please try to be happy. True love only comes once and a great while.
2007-01-07 08:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by AnGie0607 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother obviously doesn't see him as boring and there are a lot worse things than a man who works a lot!!! She loves him; she wants to be with him. You need help but it's not what you think it is. You need to have some counseling on how to blend in with the family, not ways to put a wedge between yourself and your stepfather or between him and your mother. Your time "at home" will end when you are grown. Their relationship hopefully will be for a lifetime. I see some selfishness and immaturity at work in you which, as you mature, should lessen. Give it a chance. You haven't said anything about your stepdad that makes him seem like a bad guy.
2007-01-07 08:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so the good news is that most kids hate their parents at one point or another. Boring is good in the grand scheme of things, and a workaholic also means that he is making money. I don't think that you hate him, it sounds more like you desire a better relationship with him and want him to do things with you, and not work so much. Have you tried talking to him and telling him how you feel?
2007-01-07 08:51:58 · answer #5 · answered by Julie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, try not to let the hate ruin your life. I presume that you've done your best to break up their relationship and it hasn't worked. That's too bad because it would be nice if you could have. Then you'd have your mom all to yourself. Since that wasn't successful, what other options do you have? Can you live with you dad? How 'bout a children's home in the area. You could go there and live in a cottage with a bunch of other kids and house parents and then you'd be away from this bum. You might call child protective services and have the guy investigated. Maybe they could get him for child molestation and he'd go to jail.
2007-01-07 08:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Things could be a lot worse. If he's boring or a workaholic, I'm pretty sure she knows it. If she loves him you should support her and know that when you are old enough you can make your own choices. What kind of help do you want exactly?
2007-01-07 08:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think You Should Mind Your Own Business And Let Your Mom Be Happy.When Your 18 You Don't Ever Have To See Him Again..
2007-01-07 08:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by amber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that happens. All the time. I guess you just have to take the lessons that your mom doesn't understand and apply it to your own life. Make sure you don't end up with the same kind of guy.
2007-01-07 08:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh...me too. My dad died when I was three months old and my mom remarried when my twin sister and I were two. He is gross and fat and I seriously hate him. I don't want to hate him because I don't want to hate anybody but I don't want to like him either. He is sooo messy and he favors my half-sisters over me. He always gets mad at my mom when she backs me up but I'm glad she does. Apparently he and my dad were friends when my dad was alive but what kind of person marries their friend's wife? How old are you? I'm fifteen and I just kind of ignore him. He's nice sometimes like when he helps me move stuff but other than that I can't stand to spend too much time around him because he is gross.
2007-01-08 15:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋