My highschool sweetheart of 15 years had an affair and we recently divorced. The reason for the affair we figured out was both of our faults. She has moved on but I still love her so much! Did you lose the love of your life and realized in time it was a good thing? Did you find someone better? Or do you just go through life missing what you had and wanting to do it all over?
2007-01-07 08:35:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ummmmmm, yea, its your fault that she cheated
you sound like you have been brainwashed to believe that so that she would not have the burden of the guilt for doing what she did, after all, it is easier to live with something if you blame someone else for it.
did she try counseling before she cheated? did she try working on the relationship before she cheated? did she confront you and say that she is not happy and divorced you before she cheated?
i am assuming that she didn't, classic self defence mechanism is to blame someone else for the problem, even better if you brainwash them into really believing it was their fault
here is a news revelation for you, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT SHE CHEATED, IT IS HERS ALONE, SHE CHEATED, NOT YOU, SHE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR HER ACTIONS AND CONTROLING HERSELF, NOT YOU
2007-01-07 09:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The love of my life and I were too young, and both of us were too stubborn to admit that we had both made some mistakes. Had we been able to work things out between us, we would of had an amazing life together.
What hurts more NOW is that I lost my best friend. He and I were so close before we went out that when things ended, it was a double hurt.
I don't go through my life missing what we had. I don't want to do it all over. I do find myself thinking of him from time to time though.
2007-01-07 16:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More then once.I'm married now for almost 5 years, before that I had a far distance relation, the man could not make his mind up.
Meanwhile there was someone(over there) interested in me, without I knew it, I tough it was a setup of the pub lady over there(who always interfered in relations), much, much later I found out that that man also had feelings for me when I was already married.I wonder why he never did more effort and I also wonder if he's happy, I don't think so.
Also my life would be totally different.
2007-01-07 16:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have but one love of your life, Yes you can lose them but never stop loving them as being the person that still has your heart. You may go on with your life and meet someone that you really love but you never quite get that love of Your Life out of your heart. If you ever see them even if you have been married a long time and have children are perfectly content. You see them and your heart feels like it is in your throat, and your blood rushes to your head, your knees get weak , your just all shook up and really want to get the hell out of there as fast as you can. It is really hard to take and you feel that way for a week.
2007-01-07 16:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to me. He was cheating, I finally got out of it, & thought I would always be on my own (with 3 kids) and just when I wasn't looking, I found someone that has made me happier in the past 7 years we've been together then the 1st so called Love of my Life. (sometimes you can have more than one)
2007-01-07 16:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened. But I live a much richer life now. Being stuck with someone who may not be all bad, but that your life together just don't work out is not a good idea. There are always better candidates if you really open your eyes. Life is beautiful.
2007-01-07 16:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... I was married for almost 10 years. That jerk ran off with a 21 year old (we were both 30). Who, to my absolute joy and happiness, dumped him like week old bread. I have since met a wonderful, intelligent, honest and interesting man. Please don't dwell on your ex. Move on. Believe it or not, there really are plenty of fish in the sea. And you will find someone who loves you for who you are. And you will hopefully be happier than you ever believed you could be.
2007-01-07 16:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by SchrodingersTigress 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I did lose the love of my life but it was my fault and now I go through life missing what I had and wanting to go back and do it different but life goes on I can't go back even as much as I would love to
2007-01-07 16:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost the love of my life, I got on with it and have been married for more than 10 years. I never forgot my love, but you can't live your entire life in sorrow. Make the best of it. Who knows, you might get another chance later in life.
2007-01-07 16:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the love of my life did leave me for another. I thought I would never recover from that ordeal, but I finally did. You do sometimes miss what you had in the past.
2007-01-07 20:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋