as far as age gap, mother's body, etc...
I wanted the kids to be about 2 years apart... but that would mean I would have to have had a baby ...now.
So, if we were to get pregnant NOW, our son would be about 3 when the baby arrived. BUT- hubby wants a bigger age gap...
So- what is ideal? Him and his brother were 18 months apart. And he says they were very competitive and didn't get along at all. My sister and I were 4 years apart, and got along mostly up until I started puberty... So... Does it just depend on the kids whether or not they get along? or is it really better to be closer in age?
2007-01-07 08:24:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think it toatlly depends on the family. My sister and I are 2 years apart and have never gotten along. My first two kids are 15 months apart, and are best friends. I love having them close together because they can still be playmates. They do everything together, and will only be one year apart in school. My third is 2 1/2 years younger. He is only 13 mo, but still seems to fit in well with the older two. We have 4 1/2, 3 1/2, and 13mo old children. Next one will be 20 mo. younger.
Having a larger gap means that your children will be at totally different stages all through childhood, and may not be such good playmates for each other, while they may still be close and good friends. Ultimately, you will do what suits your family. We have been open to children throughout our marriage and have been blessed. Remain open to children and you will be blessed too.
2007-01-07 08:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by katester 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reasons for siblings not getting along could be from many different factors other than age. My children are almost two years apart the oldest is a boy the youngest a girl. They get along some and argue some. Just like all siblings. But, they are very protective of each other and love to play together. I think it is better to have them close together because its harder for the oldest to remember "life as the only child" sometimes this feeling can lead to resentment. But, sometimes, having them farther apart will allow the older one to form a strong bond with the younger sibling as the "big brother/sister".
So, the time gap will not determine whether the siblings will get along or not. Different dispositions and personalities will also have a large impact. Remember these aspects when you decide what age gap will be best for you.
2007-01-07 16:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you dont want there to be a huge gap then the older child will not be close with their siblings. My brother and I were 7 years apart and still to this day we dont talk . My kids are 3 years apart and get along really well, both are boys. I think it just depends on the child. Good Luck
2007-01-07 16:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hit or miss. you can't really tell how they'll get along until you have them. My kids are 2 1/2 years apart, and they get along for the most part. It also depends on the sex of the children. I think 3 years is a good gap.
2007-01-07 16:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as the mother's body being ready my doctor suggested waiting until my first was two before becoming pregnant so my body could rebuild it's storage of iron and stuff.
I now have a 5 and 2-year-old and I think the age difference is great. The first was potty trained before the second came (huge bonus). They play together really well!
2007-01-07 16:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by bb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 11 months between my first 2, it was hard work but im getting the benefits now, i.e they are both at school full time lol, my third well, my other 2 kids were 2 and 3 when i had him, and none of them get along lol, my daughter has the scars to prove it, theres never a "right" age gap i dont think, but i think you can leave it too long....
2007-01-07 16:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by bunnykins 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-01-07 16:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted one child out of diapers before having the next one. My oldest is 5 yrs older than the next kid and that kid is 3 1/2 yrs older than the baby.
2007-01-07 17:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by tessasmomy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are spaced very far apart, there are pros and cons...but I have no regrets. My oldest and I were talking about it the other day and he feels the same. (They are all very close, just don't share as many common interests. I noticed one person said they won't be close far apart, that's not true in my experience.)
2007-01-07 16:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋