Me and my husband start counselling today and I just want to know what happens there?Neither of us has been before and I want to know what we are getting into before hand!
2007-01-07 08:23:38 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See ya in divorce court, sorry, but it never works doing the last resort marriage counseling thing. Based on 15 years divorces.
2007-01-07 08:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling will work only if both parties want the same result. Approach it wit a open heart and mind. You might hear things that you dont want to hear so be prepared to possibly be hurt, but look at all of it as a way to solve your problems. You will tell what your problem is exactly and what you hope to get out of this. Most of the time the counselor is an outlet to explain your troubles and together the counselor and you will come up with things to try to resolve your problem. Its not always easy but will work if you agree to try the suggestions. But on the other hand, counseling doesnt always resolve everyones problems for whatever reason and relationships do end sometimes after counseling. So like everything in life there is no guarantee, counseling will work. Good luck
2007-01-07 16:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling will help you two to understand not only each other but yourselves. This will be a great learning experience. It may get bumpy but hang in there. Many times people will find out things they didn't know about the other in counseling. Meaning their true likes and dislikes. This is a big but very helpful step in your lives. Be very honest in counseling. The counselor can't give you an honest opinion if you are not telling the whole truth. Remember the true will set you free from all the things you don't understand.
2007-01-07 16:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a great thing!
You will learn alot. The person will help you sort stuff out.
I have gone alot in my life starting at 10 and I'm glad for it. I got away from it because at times one tends to hook up with a Counselor ya don't "click" with, and I found I'm better off figuring out issues on my own.
I felt the last one was telling me how to live my life, AND this can happen too! All depends on your "Repoire" with the Counselor you get.
Note......... you can go to your appts. for the amt. of time they specify, like you might need the Counseling for 6 mos., (just an ex.) at once a wk. It depends.
Anyway, what you and your Husband are doing is a good thing. You will learn alot about each other and you will get alot out of your sessions!
Stay with it and I hope the attendance helps in your marriage.
2007-01-07 19:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it does or not. I've been to counseling alone and felt good. I learned a lot about myself. Husband and I are planning counseling, but there are no guarantees. Both parties have to be willing to work on the marriage. If there have been problems already, that means the couple already has a history of not working together.. sigh.. Let us know how it turns out..
2007-01-07 16:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not something that is stereotypical. Ones experience with counselling will not be the same as another. Just approach it with an open mind and be willing to change yourself, not go in with the expectation that your spouse will change. It's not magic but if two people really want it to work, it can.
2007-01-07 16:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by ima_averagejoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. If the counseling works you each will learn things about yourself that you probably were not aware of. If your counselor is good you will learn about Defensive Behavior. What it is, what causes it. You will learn about conflict. What it is and postivie ways to deal with it. Good luck this could change your lives and marraige in a very big and good way.
2007-01-07 16:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Bullwinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋