According to many male friends and books I have read, most men cheat, even the men who are in healthy loving relationships. It seems there is very little women can do to prevent this. Most men will cheat with a young beautiful women especially if there is no chance of being caught. So with this information, how can I not be disillusioned when I decide to get married one day?? Isnt there anyway I can tell??
2007-01-07 08:20:37 · 35 answers · asked by Qgirl14 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't believe that all men cheat. Because that would mean that all men lack self-discipline and self-control, and I refuse to believe that. I think that is a cop out and and excuse for men to follow their lustful hearts and to do what they know is wrong.
There is no way that I know of to tell if the man you are with will or will not cheat. I think there are things that both sides can do to prevent infidelity, things like making sure they are paying attention to their loved ones needs, both physically and emotionally.
There are no guarantees in life, especially in love. You just have to decide if the chance is worth the risk involved.
Good Luck to you!
2007-01-07 08:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by Angie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not even a question any more if men will cheat because women also are cheating almost as much. The most important thing in a relationship, and I cannot stress this enough, is open and honest communication. There should be an environment that is safe for difficult discussions. It has been my experience that when the communication part breaks down, so does the relationship which leaves an open door for cheating.
People cheat for various reasons, but I think if you are dealing with a good man, that man will want to communicate his feelings and work on a relationship. If they do cheat is usually because they feel alone and that they are not being loved or valued.
You asked if there is anyway you can tell...go with your gut. I went with mine and unfortunately I was right (however , my ex husband was an abusive man and not in the Good Man category)
2007-01-07 08:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by A M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately men and women cheat. Cheating for men is like a built-in feature developed by peer pressure and mainly by the little or no concern maintained on this moral issue. A man can sleep with more than one woman in a week and he lives to brag about it. Understand that many married men will not have a g/f relationship b/c they are afraid to get caught but they will pay a pro... for her service. This group maybe labeled" good men" until/unless they take home to mama something that she does want. I do not advocate cheating but I say it the way it is. An untrue statement"men will cheat with a beautiful woman" True statement"men will cheat given the opportunity" specially after a drinking party when"the animal" is loose. So Lady, get married one day, don't be disillusioned: remain faithful and if there is something wrong, blame him.
2007-01-07 09:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating really has more to do with the Cheater rather than the Cheat-ee - some egos have a hole that they are trying to fill- and subconsciously or consciously they feel entitled to more attention, affection, affirmation... It has nothing to do with love- it's really more about self-loathing, and perceived needs versus actual needs. When men or women cheat- they know it's wrong, and it's wrong because hurting someone else is never good for yourself. Some people live in a deeper state of denial than others. They may rationalize cheating by telling themselves that they deserve tru love or happiness- but both of those start from within. Love is a choice- so is happiness, and you can distract yourself with new people or experiences, but sooner or later you catch up to yourself and then you have to start all over again or fix the problem.
2016-05-23 04:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to believe that my husband of 6 years would never cheat on me because he loves me and would never want to hurt me that way. I dont think he would ever cheat on me but I dont know if he would. I trust him and love him but the fact of the matter is, is that he's in the Navy and has been for 8 years, I'm sure that there might come a time when he's deployed that he will feel lonely and I wont be there to fill the need. I know that IF he cheats it's not because he doesn't love me, it's because he had a need that needed to be filled I at that time I couldn't do it. When he's home we are always together, when he's gone I know that theres a chance but I trust him enough to not want to hurt me that way.
You cant worry your self about if your husband or what ever will cheat because you will never fully trust him and it will make you and him crazy. I believe that the men who cheat are the ones who's women are too clingy and possessive, that only pushes men away.
2007-01-07 08:36:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can think it's a generalized statement that most men cheat. It is true the a lot of men will cheat if a beautiful young woman throws herself at them but there are many including myself who will not do it. I was in a similar situation a couple of times but as I love my wife, I did not do it.
2007-01-07 08:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody can cheat. Any one of us can have a weak moment, but most men look because there is something that is not being fulfilled in their relationship.
Forget teh cheating part and look for someone with all the qulaties you want in a man for a husband and a father. Someone that you can spend the rest of your life with and learn to love. Someone who will take the good with the bad and that you both can forgive each other for making small mistakes.
If you marry someone for that you will be able to trust them and they will not break your trust.
My dating test was ho they treated their mother. Often it is similar to how they will treat you.
2007-01-07 08:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Missy Lyons 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just because a boy has a girlfriend, you can't flick a switch and make him stop noticing other girls. Some people are born with the flirting gene, whereas others can't flirt for bread. The point is that a flirting boy isn't necessarily a bad boy. Boys like to feel that they've got freedom, even if they are in a serious relationship, and flirting is a way of getting that out of our system. It doesn't have to lead anywhere. It's just something they do. It doesn't really mean anything, so don't get too worked up about it.
2007-01-07 08:26:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ramona S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It works both ways and you never know someone until you live with them. Women are just as bad as men about cheating and it's like a 50/50 chance, that your going to find the perfect person that want have wandering eyes, it's just human nature..
My Best To you.
2007-01-07 08:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many men do not cheat. In a study, Women cheat more then men. Especially when they're ovulating
2007-01-07 08:23:18 · answer #10 · answered by stephanie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋