My ex-husband keeps putting pressure on me (leaving voicemails and sending e-mails) for me to move with he and my daughter to another state where he has a good job offer. He seems to think that it will be good new start for us as a family.
He keeps saying that starting over with someone else is just passing time and not as "pure" as being with your first spouse/ love.
He also sends me e-mails "beating me up emotionally" when he is frustrated. He asks me how I can look at myself in the mirror when my child is living with him and needs me.
I tell him to send the child to me and he says that the I don't deserve for the child to be with me because I am selfish in his eyes.
I don't know if I would be making a big mistake by not listening to his advice about putting the original family back together.
2007-01-07 08:13:43 · 15 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is your child with him? Is it because you feel you can't handle the child alone? Just think, if your ex is beating you up emotionally, what the poor child must be going through! BUT, in no way would I even think of going back to that creature! Even for the child's sake. That would hurt the child even more in the long run. If anything, try to get him to send you the child, it sounds like he's at his wits end with the child anyway. You need to wash your hand of him! It didn't work for the two of you before, and it probably for sure won't be any better. No therapy has been done, so what would be different? He sounds demanding and controlling! Two things NO ONE wants in their life. You need to stop returning any communication with him-period. If anything-get an attorney to try and get your child back. Good luck!!
2007-01-07 08:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by sue d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You Can't Be With A Man Just For Your Kids. It Just Never Works..You Wont Be Happy If You Go Back AND If You Leave Again It Will Be Harder For Your Child To See You Leave For A 2nd Time.If Hes Not Good To You While Broke Up What Makes You Think He Will Be If You Go Back To Him? What I Would Do Is Take Him To Court And Let The Best Parent Have The Child And The Other Child Visit.There Are Alot Of Happy Kids That There Parents Aren't Together.Shame On Him For Calling You Selfish..Good Luck.I Know Its Hard But There Is Still Life After All This And Its Up To You To Make It Happy For You And Your Child..
2007-01-07 08:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by amber 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i have a ex husband too. He wants his family back together. We tried and tried to make it work again. I look at this way. He wanted a divorce and he got his divorce so why do now he wants to get together? They are just going to use you and then they get sick of you and then you will be back where you started. So I think you should stay no and move on with your life. Its like he is asking you to choose him and the child or nothing. well you will still have your daughter you dont need him
2007-01-07 08:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, run from this man!! He says he wants to start over; he's asking you to pull up stakes and go to another state. Then when you don't agree, he demeans you by saying you're selfish; don't deserve to have the child. A new start, he says. Yes, a new chance for him to be in control of you. If he was motivated by love, he would not be emotionally abusing you. He's using the child as a tool against you. Don't fall for his story.
2007-01-07 08:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's got full custody he can't keep the child from you. He also can't say that you have to live with him in order to see the child.
You might be able to take this to the courts. Examine the situation the child's in a little closer, see what may be able to be done.
And as above, he is bullying you. Don't let him guilt you into anything you know isn't right.
2007-01-07 08:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Elly M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on , the ex is just that, the ex. Everything happens for a reason and there is a reason that he is now your ex. If you want to irretrievablely dig yourself into a rutt you thought you would never sink to, plan your life around the advice and suggestions of your ex-husband. You don't need him and kids dont miss what they dont have.
2007-01-07 08:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in. It's tough but don't go back to him. As the other posters mentioned, he is just bullying you. That will never change. You may end up jobless and friendless in the other city.
It would be a big mistake to go back to him, given his attitude and blackmailing.
2007-01-07 08:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!!!!!!! He's bullying you! Plain and simple, like a child, do it my way or else. He's your ex for a reason. You obviously don't want to be with him - or you'd be. Tell him move on - you'll have your visitation and he can have his life. He need not tell you what to do.
2007-01-07 08:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweety why you refuse to go with your husband to another state talk about him about your thought &ideas listen more to each other i think that you miss your sweety husband alot and missing you lovely child more and more try and go there discover this new life let him feels that you are great mummy and wife that you listen to him and go to him to care about your small family letting your husband away chances to have another women will bee found alot being away also make your baby angry may his daddy say look your mummy disagree to come she did not love you you must go there and prove that coz you love your baby &husband you must do more and more in your best for thier eyes for thier sake you are so great your kind heart and good thinking will lead you to the best (be with your small sweety family) good luck for you,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2007-01-07 08:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-28 08:12:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋