I asked a close female friend that we need to lose contact for awhile(no time limit set)-so that I can get over my feelings for her. She said that she don't deserve my feelings. She also said “If thats how you feel sweetheart,ok and that maybe you do need time out”.She only wants to be friends.The conversation ended with an argument, with her calling me 2 faced and selfish.(asked her if she ever felt anything for me and for her to be truthful).Why would she call me this? We're close friends-we were never a couple. We've not spoken for a month....tried to get in touch(apologising,explaining myself)---she's not responded at all.Txt\phone\card wth message. IS SHE HURT???SHE HATE ME??? She said that we're only friends---could she have possibly fancied me?If so why didn't she tell me? Wanted to be a true friend---thats why I asked for no contact for AWHILE---not for good.... ANYTHING I CAN DO TO RESCUE THE FRIENDSHIP???IT FINISHED??
2007-01-07 08:04:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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We’re ATTRACTED to each other, flirt with each other, we’re in touch practically everyday(before falling out), can only open up too me, feels very comfortable with me, enjoys spending time with me etc
2007-01-07 08:05:04 · update #1
she's been hurt really badly she did like u alot from what u're saying. keep phoning her but not too much like 3 times a week
so tht she can get time to think about if she wants to still be friends or not and tell her why u asked for the no contact thing and keep telling her tht u REALLY like her and dont want to lose her as a close friend and tht u still want to be friends... but nothing more and tht u hate urself for saying tht to her.anyway if u like her and she likes u y did u want to get over ur feelings for her?! hm... she would still talk to u if she didnt like u more than jst a friend so yeah... well goodluck anyway.... hopefully everything works out!
2007-01-07 20:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by em-tastic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying, but don't get desperate or pushy. The ball's technically in her court now because you've tried to make amends but she's not ready. Give her time. She most likely liked you and when you said you wanted a break, she probably got mad and decided just to give up on you all together. Her thinking is probably either all or nothing. But don't give up, you can probably still salvage this friendship. Maybe get a friend you both share to throw a party where you could meet her face to face and try to talk things out. But don't blame her for anything, that will just make things worse. Being a guy, you gotta take most of the heat. Just suck it up and if you really want to be friends, you shouldn't care. Just give a heart-felt apology. Hope this helps :)
2007-01-07 16:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by junithedog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try sending her some flowers and tell her you still admire her friendship, and to add if you want more than just friendship, then tell her that.. Maybe that's why she got upset., or is it you that only wants friendship. Sounds like you two might be falling in love with each other.. Trust me, been there done that in this very similar way.. I wish you both the best.. If you think you love her than tell her that.. I think you do, you sound scared.. Life is risky honey, only thing you can do is TRY!! good luck :)
2007-01-07 16:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what i have read, she probably does have feelings for you, maybe she doesnt want to get hurt, or maybe she doesnt want the friendship to be ruined just incase the relationship doesn't work out. I dont know what really too suggest though, i doubt that the friendship has finished. Maybe if you didnt text her for a while or try to get in contact with her for a while, she will probably come round. hang in there though, won't be forever xxx
2007-01-07 16:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by sweetness_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably just back off for a while. Let her come to you or just let the situation have time to fizzle out. If you keep on the way you are, she definately won't want anything to do with you. If your friendship was strong, it will probably bounce back. If not, then she wasn't a true friend. I say just wait it out for a while.
2007-01-07 16:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by bamagurl722 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, mate. To me it sounds like she really likes you as a friend and nothing more. You wanting to take it further has complicated your friendship, and she needs to get it at a distance.
Give her time. She may contact you again but don't push yourself on her.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 16:08:19 · answer #6 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called the Complexity of Love and emotion.
Focus on what you want, tell her how you feel, if you Love her and leave the rest to her. If she wants you, she will let you know and if she doesn't then she will move on to pastures new. The most important thing is to leave her in no doubt as to your feelings for her.
2007-01-07 16:57:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys consider becoming just FWP? All the perks and release of the physical relationship with none of the romantic entaglements. Something to think about.
2007-01-07 16:08:11 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she didn't realize how she felt until you ask for time apart.
Give her a break with the messages, I don't want her accusing you of harassing her. Let her sort herself out. She is probably giving you your time out in her mind.
2007-01-07 16:09:02 · answer #9 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go for now. If she really likes you then she will come back to you or call.
2007-01-07 16:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋