My ex wife and I got a divorce about a year and a half ago. I found out she had an affair with a supposed friend. After I found out we talked and were going to try and work things out but while i thought she was getting help she cheated again and left me and our two boys. After the divorce she asked about getting back together but i just couldn't forget all that she had done. It has now been over a year since the divorce and she now has another child by someone else and lives with a guy that is not the childs father. Now again she has been asking if I want to try and work things out. We have two boys together that live with me. When she asks I always think of them because all I want is to make them happy and if having there mom back does that then I will try. I still have some feelings for her but i still can't foget all that she has done. Plus she has a child by someone else which makes things even harder. So should I try and work things out for us and our boys or just move on.
2007-01-07 08:00:20 · 10 answers · asked by bo51679 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't see how this could be that tough of a decision. She'll continue cheating so do you really want to keep dealing with that? People divorce, that's just a fact of life and children seem to cope far better with that than they do growing up in a home with screwed up parents that stay together for the children's sake.
2007-01-07 08:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My ex wife and I got a divorce about a year and a half ago. I found out she had an affair with a supposed friend. After I found out we talked and were going to try and work things out but while i thought she was getting help she cheated again and left me and our two boys. After the divorce she...
2015-08-18 19:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by Emmaline 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your life but if it were me the first time my husband cheated on me it would be over same as if it were reversed. Some couples find it in their heart to forgive and try to patch things but she cheated on you 2 times. You did no wrong here she walked out on you w/ another man and has another child w/ another man I know you already know this i am just trying to open your eyes here. She could of done many things like end the affair,not had an affair. You are a great guy and you are thinking of your children but if you get back w/ her this soon you are still going to be hurting and full of anger i am sure. She will always be their mother you dont have to get back w/her for their sake do it if you feel its right and think alot before you decide to try to make thinks work. But if it were me I would move on it might take you a while to do it but it will happen again someday when you are ready good luck I hope i helped.
2007-01-07 09:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by 2wild4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're going to have feelings for her, she is the mother of your children and your ex wife.
If I was in your shoes, and I'm not, I wouldn't get back with her. She doesn't sound like a good enough woman to be loyal to you.
Stay busy with the boys, they should be the focus of your life right now. I have one son and I enjoy every minute with him, even the ones when I want to pull my hair out because he won't listen. You have two sons, how great is that?
Be the best Dad you know how to be. Cherious those little guys.
Good luck man.
2007-01-07 08:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by t t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-02-05 20:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater will always be a cheater. You get divorced for a reason. Just getting back with her will hurt those kids. You will give them hope then disappointment if it doesnt work. If she is living with a guy right there will tell you something doesnt it. She needs to stand on her two feet get her own place,her own job then maybe consider it. I definately wouldnt do it right now. She has to prove to you that she is a better person now. Then before. If you really want to try then just you 2 go on a couple dates and she if she has changed. Dont involve the KIDS. Then you decide what person she is.
2007-01-07 09:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that people break up for a reason, and that getting back together is a mistake, because the issues of the past don't get resolved. So I would say stay away, no matter how much you think that it would be better for the kids, it wouldn't when they see mommy and daddy argueing constantly and breaking up again.
2007-01-07 08:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-10 16:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest and tell her the trust is not there and besides being apart for that long you actually don't want commitment to anyone
if you can remain friends great tell her.the saying goes they'll do it again so it really is up to you or not if you want to take that chance if so all the best in making things work out .if thats not what you want than be upfront and tell her.
2007-01-07 08:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋