she is unhappy and she is about to move to the east side w/ her husband she wants to have my baby because she says im very good looking she will raise it along w her little girl and husband
2007-01-07 07:54:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bad idea, this is a very complicated subject and you would not want to put a child in the middle of this.
There will be questions later her present husband may resent the child for th rest of her life and the child will feel like an outcast even if it is not intentially done. I have a friend who was born in a similiar circumstance and she knew she was always different from the way she was treated and I assure you she was well off...if she wants you she will choose to be happy and not take a little piece of happiness in her misery. Your whole realtionship dynamics will change as a result of this decsion...think of your potenital unborn child.
2007-01-07 07:58:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it dude.. In the first place if she had a baby by you, and god for bid, if anything went wrong, her husband would end up finding out its not his kid.. If she want a kid, tell her to have it by him, instead of you.. Not sure where shes coming from, but she sounds a little out there!! If shes unhappy, thats her problem.. If she is that unhappy then tell her to get out of the marriage, and consider the pg fact after shes been divorced for a while.. She sounds very unsecure in who she is.. Sounds like she has some of her own issues.. Reconsider dude.. Just remember she'll hit you up for Child Support sooner or later.. The truth always comes out in the end.. Good Luck... Peace!
2007-01-07 08:23:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could you even consider such a thing... do you really want your child growing up thinking another man is his father?
What sort of person even considers such stupidity??
Why would you mess with a married woman anway? Chances are she'll never leave her husband...and you're stuck being a loner! She'll see you only when it's convenient for her...and you'll have to go out and do things normal couples do alone! Not a very good life!
Now...put yourself in her husband's shoes...how would you like to be married to a woman...have a daughter with her...and not know she's secretly seeing another man...and worse what if the second child she has ends up wtih some sort of illness and blood tests reveal that child does not belong to you...your life would be devisated...everything you knew would be a lie!
And trust me...she's feeding you a line of bull! I'm sure she tells you she's in love with you...typical! She's probably saying she and her husband never have sex...he doesn't treat her good...he's mean...maybe even says he hits her...that's the typical cheaing woman's line to excuse her wrongs and make you think it's okay to go on with it. What sort of woman cheats?? I'll tell you, a lose one! You may think you're the only one...but statistics say there has probably been more, maybe many more, and maybe more than you right now!
My advise to you is to get out of this relationship...it could be dangerous! You don't mess with a married woman! If her husband finds out, he could hurt you, or even kill you. You may think you're MR. Tough guy....but if you don't know he's found out...and he walks up to you from behind with a pistol and shoots you in the head...you don't have a chance...you're just gone! You're taking some huge risks here!
Get out of this relationship and find someone who can give you a real one! A married woman can never give herself completely to you! You end up spending your nights alone and most of your time trying to find a way to see her...
I hope you open your eyes...and I honestly hope you don't consider letting her have your baby! That's just plain stupid! And even if you decide not too, she could trick you into getting her pregnant...then what??? Get out now while you can!
2007-01-07 12:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you say " she will raise it along with her husband"? Well obviously she just wants to have sex with you otherwise she would be here with you and not going to the east side. Look you are nothing to her. I bet if you tell her that you would help her with the divorce and give her what she wants she still wont leave her husband for you. Women like that give us nice girls bad names.
2007-01-07 08:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are ready to involve yourself in a mess of custody hearings, child support and dealing with an angry spouse I would recommend you:
A) Stop seeing her immediately... or if you choose not to
B) ALWAY use birth control as woman have been known to "get their way" in a situation like this.
One final thought, don't believe her if she says she will not ask you for support or that she won't tell her husband. The fact that she cheated on him should be a big sign that she's less than honest.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-07 10:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm she might want to get a divorce first if she is that unhappy she wouldn't be moving with her husband you would think right?she sounds a screwy wanting to have your child cause your good looking and to stay with her husband whom she unhappy with something just doesn't add up there.maybe shes in need of more money where she can take you for child support down the road.if i were you i would back up a bit and find someone that is single therefore you won't find your butt up in hot water.lol lol
you might want to shake your head a bit.
2007-01-07 08:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
while you're married than you are able to desire to be chatting with your husband. The ex is an ex for a reason. in case you notice him out on the line, then say hi, yet do no longer sit down on the telephone with him. while you're sitting at homestead with the infant with no longer something to do, get a interest reason chatting with different adult adult males will purely reason difficulty, merely like him chatting together with his ex does. the only distinction is he has a baby with this female and that they do have some ingredient to speak approximately, you do no longer. forget approximately the previous because of the fact it rather is going to adversely result your marriage. purely a tip once you write in Capital letters it potential which you're shouting, no longer speaking, and that's extra good to envision.
2016-11-27 02:19:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unhappy in her marriage, and cheating oh her husband, why on earth would you want to help to bring another helpless child into that situation??? Be happy that she is moving away, cut ties with her and find someone who is worth trusting and loving.
2007-01-07 08:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Julie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS this for real? Sounds like a jerry springer episode. What you are doing is so wrong I cant even begin. She needs to tell her husband that she is unhappy and you need to get out of their life.the liitle girl she has needs her mom and dad NOT YOU! Grow a brain and stop thinking with your dick
2007-01-07 11:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well be aware that in most states whomever she gets preg by if married. The child is legally her husbands unless he goes to court to denounce paternity. I was seperated from my 1st husband 6 yrs. we just never got around to filing for divorce. Well I met a guy, we moved in together. I got preg, we filed for divorce...Because I was still legally married at the time of conception, my ex had to denounce paternity so that my current husband could have his name on the birth certificate....so, if you have no prob w some other guy raising a child you fathered but have no legal rights to...more power to you...kinda sad to involve a child in her life seeing it isn't stable if you ask me.
2007-01-07 08:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy G 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋