Should Parents let the Babysitter punish the Children?

Question

So a hypothetical: You are the mother of 3 children, 9 & 10 year old girls and a 7 year old boy. The children are well behaved when you are around, but when they are left with the babysitter they become little demons. This is a household that relies on spanking for punishment, and the children know that the sitter won't be able to punish them, and that they can get away with a lot more and escape getting as severe punishment later from the parents.

Should the parents give permission to the babysitter, (who is a 16 year old, well rounded good girl who they trust) to spank the children and keep order in the house while the parents are away?

If not, what else should be done?

Answer 1

Woah, NO WAY. A babysitter should not spank someone else's kids! Omg. That could count as child abuse. The babysitter should punish the children another way, like sending them to their room without dinner or taking away all their toys. Stuff like that but never spanking. I think the parents should do the spanking, not a babysitter. Yes, the babysitter should keep order in the house. But still, don't let the children get away with everything. If they say something like: "Hey, we are going to jump off a cliff. Ok, see ya." The babysitter is just not going to say:" Ok, have fun." No! Your going to tell them no and they should do something else. They should actually be the babysitter and sit them! Be strict when they are doing bad stuff. Don't just sit back and let them. Remember who is the babysitter and is the child. Good luck.

EDIT: I agree with the user "mom". =)

Answer 2

No, father and mom could no longer let babysitters punish little ones because the babysitter would punish the little ones in a merciless way. alongside with whipping, puncturing, choking, and so. What could be carried out is this. You, because the figure, could tell the little ones, "Now be good for the babysitter, and if you're good and the babysitter comments no issues, then i'll (do some thing that they could like yet no longer too outrageous).". Then, everytime the babysitter comments that your toddler or little ones have had no issues, you are able to advantages your toddler or little ones. in the experience that they do no longer behave even as the babysitter is modern, then you definitely, your self, after the babysitter has left and stated that the toddler or little ones were misbehaved, you are able to then punish the little ones by any ability as a figure after the babysitter has left.

Answer 3

I don't think you should,but it's up to you really.
I have a 16 year old daughter who abused the right...that she really wasn't given, she just thought she had spanking permission.lol And she is normally a good child too.

Here is what i do....
Give the babysitter a permanent marker.And a note pad/chalk board.

For each misbehavior, have her put a mark on the offender's hand.And right the offense down on the note pad/chalkboard.

Each mark will signify a spanking when the parents return home.

But, in order for this to work, the parents MUST follow through with the spankings or other type of punishment depending on the offense.

You can even make a misbehavior chart.Where particular offenses have particular consequences.
And follow though with them.

If you stay persistent, the children will comply and begin to respect the babysitter...mind her better.

Btw,this marker method works in the grocery store too. lol.
I give mine 3 warnings and then if they still misbehave, i put a mark on their hand and then when we get home they get a spank.

Answer 4

The babysitter should NOT spank the kids, but she should definitely be allowed to discipline them. Tell your kids that if they misbehave, the babysitter is in charge and she will give them a time out. Sure, it's a different form of discipline but one that I'm sure the babysitter will be more comfortable with. When you get home ask the babysitter if anyone got a time out and talk to the kids that do about how they behaved, if you need to spank them, do that, but don't have the babysitter.

Answer 5

NEVER! Do not let the babysitter spank the children. Let her punish them by making them sit on the step for either 10, 9, or 7 minutes, and then when you get home you should spank them.

Answer 6

I can tell you this much - if I was the babysitter - NO WAY would I feel comfortable at all spanking someone else's kids, and if the parents insisted I do so, I probably wouldn't babysit them anymore.

If you are (hypothetically, of course) the mom, maybe now you have an understanding of why spanking is not an effective form of discipline, hmmm?

Answer 7

no. if spanking them is your form of punishment then you should handle it when you get home from wherever you were. you should never let a babysitter lay a hand on your child because they might get carried away. how do you know if what she is punishing them for is a reason you would punish them for. your babysitter may have different views and plus the babysitter herself is young. i dont think young people should be in charge of that kind of punishment. also she may hurt them...maybe unintentionally but something could go wrong

Answer 8

If the only method of punishment you are using is spanking, then you need to find a better way to punish. Spanking alone isnt going to teach them anything except to expect/fear pain when they do something wrong.

Even dogs respond to non-physical discipline, try it with your kids!

Answer 9

NO WAY!
Hire Mrs. Doubtfire to watch the lil demons! Or someone of that like!
By the way, all kids are like this. It's up to you to set and maintain the rules of your children and if it means you can't go out that night because they are treating the babysitter badly, then cancel to let your children know you are serious. I still say hire a fellow mom or granny for real babysitting!

Answer 10

I don't think so but I would say that the sitter using time out would be appropriate or a smack on the bottom but a spanking I don't think its her place
but that's my opinion and they are your children and you should do what you think is appropriate for your children