Hi there. I dont know what to do. Im wiv a guy, 1,5 year. I love him more than i ever loved anyone, im really attractec to him, and im not talking just about physical attraction.i really would like our relationship work, but it just doesnt. I know he loves me, and i love him so much. but he makes me so miserable. He is very VERY jealous, and everyday of our relationship i have to answer many questions about everything. just simple things, like if i look at someone just for a moment, im asked why did i look, what did i feel, if i liked the guy, if i fancied him, why did i do that..... and my boyfriend goes on and on, same questions, and i cant take that nemore. I have to defend everything, what i do. why i talk to my friend, why i went to shop, if people looked at me, if i think they liked me.... bla bla bla.i really like him, cause except this problem,everything is really good.I tried to explain many times,that he is making me really unhappy.That it is not easy to put up with all this
2007-01-07 07:46:23 · 6 answers · asked by Eli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
because it is not just questions, i know, that if he gets answer, he is not happy with that, and he keeps diging and diging, and he makes me so angry, cuz i feel so frustrated, so i get really angry, and shout a lot. I dont want to loose him, but dont know what to do anymore.im so agresive now, because it just frustrates me a lot. i dont wana defend everything what i do every day. I feel so frustrated and angry with all world, that i was thinking, i should start taking some antidepressants, because im all the time annoyed with everyone, because of this what is happpening. I dont even know why im writing this, i just want him to stop this, cuz im only human, and i will have to leave him, cause he isnt giving me "any other option. and then he makes me feel bad, like im horible, cause i cant take "just few" questions. But for crying out loud, it has been 1,5 year of "few questions". im out of my energy.
2007-01-07 07:48:31 · update #1
which antidepresives, what to do? i want us to be happy, but my mind is just so poisoned by his behaviour, that im just being horrible to him all the time cause of his never ending questions. Do you think, that there are actually people, who can put up with that without problem? I mean having to discuss their every step, why they did this, and that, and bla bla bla. Im tired.
2007-01-07 07:49:16 · update #2
the reason im considering atidepress is cause I HAVE BEEN depressed for over a year now. Im very annoyed all the time with anyone, from friendly girl i became quiet, sad, mean to people to avoid them liking me, angry, agresive-not violent, and so on.
2007-01-07 08:06:03 · update #3
I'm sorry. I don't think you are going to like my answer. I haven't looked at the other answers yet but I'm guessing they'll be similar and that should tell you something.
Get rid of him. Do you want to spend a lifetime having someone else control you and being incredible jealous and making you feel miserable? Do you want a miserable life? Things WILL NOT change (unless he seriously goes into long term counselling).
You deserve to be trusted. You are a free human being and should not have to recount every minute of your day (unless you want to, of course).
Breaking free will be a wrench but in the long term you WILL be happier.
Do you want to still be living like this 5 years down the road, 10 years, 20 years???
Yes, it will drive you crazy and I do mean crazy, is that what you want?
Think about what you have said above, 'antidepressants????!!!!' OMG, you would go that far to put up with depression and medication and being grilled daily just 'cos you don't want to lose him???!!!
No way!!! Don't. What are you afraid of if you are not together??? YOU WILL BE SO MUCH MORE HAPPY> Trust me.
Lay it on the line to him....time to get tough!
Best wishes
2007-01-07 07:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a very toxic relationship. This guy is obsessively jealous over you and that is a danger sign. You shouldn't have to answer to someone else for every single move you make.....especially when they argue with whatever you say anyway. A relationship should make you feel good about yourself and your life....not turn you into a depressed, angry person. Get some help with a counselor. It would be great for you to have someone to talk to about your feelings. They could help you with anti depressants also. Get some help so you can get your life back. Get out of this relationship. Good luck.
2007-01-07 16:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need antidepressants. You need to leave him! Despite what you would like to think, he is not making you happy and he obviously cannot trust you even though you have not given him any cause for suspicion.
I'm afraid it's time for you to grow up quickly and face the facts as they really are before he ruins your life.
You will probably find that, as soon as he realises that you mean to go, he will become very apologetic and will promise to change. Don't be fooled, he won't change.
I wish you very good luck and I hope that, one day, you will find true unconditional love.
2007-01-07 16:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by dawleymouse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you considering anti-depressants? The problem is not with you, it's with your relationship.
You have to tell your boyfriend that his jealousy is upsetting you. If he doesn't give you a break then you'll have to leave him. As much as you love each other, it's not fair of him to give you such a hard time but it will be very hard for him to stop being so jealous.
Please forget about the anti-depressants though. You wouldn't be able to get them unless you were diagnosed with depression anyway.
2007-01-07 15:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by merihell75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont think you need anti depressants it sounds to me like he has the problem not you. He obviously has some major insecurities and unless you address them with him it will make you ill or lead to you two splitting.
You cannot carry on like this I know you say you love him but with love comes mutual trust.
2007-01-07 15:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by sarahlou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a man you can never please! If there is no winning then there is no point in beating yourself up, you will never be happy and everyone deserves happyness. He has issues mabey he is the one creeping around. Nobody wants to walkon pins and needles all the time. If he cant trust you he is not worth it hell never change.
2007-01-07 15:55:49 · answer #6 · answered by Starchild 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋