So I've been dating this guy on and off for 6 years. Recently we have been together for bout 3 months now. I was 22 when we met, now 28. I was totally different then. Back then we also cheated on e/o, so the trust factor is not there. So now, I'm really into him, and I let him do whatever he wants, ex:stay out until 4AM partien. But when its my turn, he freaks out. Accuses me of cheating. So I have secluded myself, and now I'm getting pissed that he can do these things and I can't. I think of all of my actions beforehand, and how he would feel, but he doesn't do the same for me. I'm not cheating, and I don't believe he is either, I'm trying to let him live his life, but I am not living mine. Frustrated 28 y/o, justs wants him to let go and trust me, and let me not give up my friends to be w/him. Do you think it's possible?
2007-01-07 07:45:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do what you want to do. If you're not cheating on him, and you're just trying to have a life, and he can't take it, show him the door.
2007-01-07 07:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by white.devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww 6 years is a while :)
And explain to him that when you guys cheated on e/o, that was back then, and you've grown up. Tell him its his turn.
The fact that you let him do pretty much whatever must make him pretty happy, maybe hes accusing you because he is still cheating on you. Just a possibility...thats what some people do,
but i understand why you hate being accused of things you arent doing, my bf does it once in a while, and it sucks, cause when your being faithful and truthful with someone, and they just dont even realize it, go out with your friends one night while hes out, and have fun. then you two will come back that night and have maybe a long talk, thats when u can tell him you really care for him and dont want to be accused for things like that, and you want trust. <333
2007-01-07 07:59:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His reaction is probably because he assumes that when you're out, you're doing what he does when he's out! I'd lay money that he is cheating on you. Even if he's not, he definitely doesn't trust you and it sounds like you need to look elsewhere. Break it off again and this time, make it stick. I'm guessing you guys are just each other's fallback. Stick it out, be happy being alone if you must. Do things you enjoy doing and you'll meet someone you'll be happier with.
2007-01-07 10:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by sweetredbeachlvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope .. you both set the pattern for this relationship so many years ago.. tell him he eighter quits going out or you get to do it also .. if he still has a temper tantrum about it then leave.life is to short to be unhappy
2007-01-07 12:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to change your way of life for anyone. And certainly NOT for him. Please enjoy who you are, and wallow in you independence. He's not worth your time and effort. You've already wasted too much precious time on someone who's too insecure within himself.
2007-01-07 07:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself - trust factor is not there. Might be time to move on.
2007-01-07 07:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him and call me
2007-01-07 07:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOPE
Move on
2007-01-07 07:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋