We've been together for 3 and a half months now, and her parents have invited me over numerous times now, to stay the night or to have dinner. And she has stayed around mine quite a few times. She's 17 and i'm 20 and at uni. Recently, her parents have been denying her access to see me. And they refuse to let me in the house. I have not done anything wrong, and i have not said anything to upset them or her. In fact, my girlfriend couldn't be happier until this began. Her dad controls her life. (ie. locks down the internet at home to all but web pages and msn). Her mother changes her mind about things like the wind. How can i deal with her parents, and convince them to let me see her again without sounding like a complete and utter idiot?
2007-01-07 07:43:54 · 13 answers · asked by captain_whitehurst 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's going to be tough to do. You are a legal adult in college, she is a legal child in high school. If you have sex with her (and if you are or not is irrelevant, what matters is what they think you are doing) you could be committing statutory rape in many states.
They may dislike you personally, or they may simply want her to date someone her own age. There is not a lot you can do about it except try to show that you are a responsible upstanding individual. You may also have to accept that when you choose to date a child living at home with strict parents, this goes with the turf.
2007-01-07 07:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to know I'm serious when i tell you this I have a daughter and this would work for me...it may sound a little out there...but give it a try ( first of all let me tell you my 17 yr old girl would not be dating a 20 yr old...maybe that's part of the problem ) anyway try this...invite he parents with on a date...maybe a movie you would all like...let them see how you treat there daughter...really...give it a try...bet it works...I sure hope your not sleeping with her..where I live that would be against the law...her being only 17...be good...show the parents that you are , and it will be OK.
2007-01-07 07:54:01 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will never like you. Best thing you can do is accept that and go on with life. You are dating the girl not her parents.
DON'T EVER say anything bad about them to her. They are still her parents; you need to respect that. She is going with you for who you are; if you change yourself to try to make them happy you will fail (they will never like you anyway, and you will be different than the person your girlfriend likes, so you will lose her.)
Have a nice day.
2007-01-07 07:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by r s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they've suddenly heard some rumour about you or something. Or maybe something has happened within the family or to one of her parents friends' families. Sounds like you'll have to start your relationship with her parents again. I really don't know what to suggest, but maybe they just need some reassurances that you are a nice guy really.
2007-01-07 07:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by pinkhyenas 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you considered that mabey she is the one who is instigating this mabey she is not ready for a relationship
i know your my age but think about how much you have changed since you were 17 she has a lot of changing to do to so tell her parents straight up i respect whatever decition she has made and when she is ready for a commitment i will be waiting for her
its a win lose situation it shows her parents you have integrity wihile you are also showing you have respect for her and if they cant respect that then you need to find someone in your own age group or wait for her but time takes its toll
2007-01-07 07:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by mama penguin of destruxion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you dating a seventeen year old man. I'd say wait till she's 18 and her parents no longer can legally control her. They probably don't like you because you're older, which they find scary that their junior/senior in high school is dating a kid who would be a sophomore/junior in college.
2007-01-07 07:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound unstable....are you sure this is the kind of family you really want to be involved in?....The apple doesn't usually fall far from the tree....otherwise....as time goes on....your girlfriend might end up having many of the same characteristics of the parents....yikes!
2007-01-07 07:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit it out and wait, she'll keep pushing against them to let them see you, and usually one parent cracks under such pressures, but you'd probably get a stern talking to by one of them the first time you're allowed again to see her.
2007-01-07 07:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prove them wrong. apologize for your actions. get on their good side. be a little bit of a "kiss ***".. but not too much. buy them things and act polite. take my advice, beofire you end up on that MTV show "parental control"
2007-01-07 07:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is worth it, wait a year
when she is 18, she can do whatever she wants
if she isn't worth it, find somebody else, maybe even just in the mean time
2007-01-07 07:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋