My husband and I have been wed 8 years. The past 3 we have worked at the same place, and had lunch together. That's fine. But in the past year, I moved over to his building and now we see each other every single day, have lunch together and NOW we have our breaks together too! There is a thing as WAY too much togetherness, and I'm about to crack! We own a house together and 2 cats, I don't want to divorce him, but how do we separate ourselves???
2007-01-07 07:41:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Bring up the discussion gently, don't focus on the fact that you need the space, but focus on the fact that both of you might be missing opportunities of networking and might be seen as unprofessional by colleagues/clients. Another disadvantage that you can point out is that there may be a possible conflict of interest. May be a good idea would be to start getting busy during break and start bringing in other people for lunch. Divorcing him because you don't get any space is quite extreme. Look for another job if he is hurt by your efforts. Be patient (unless he is the jealous, possessive types and you want to divorce him for other reasons).
My husband and I worked in the same building, but from the first day, while we went to the office together, we never had lunch/coffee etc. together. We maintained our separate "groups" and our distance from each other.
2007-01-07 08:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is way too much time together. It sounds like every moment of each of your lives are spent together. That's unhealthy and will eventually ruin the relationship. Find another job, or go back to the other building.
2007-01-07 15:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by mike9626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
l would be honest with him in a kind way. Tell him you need some space and time with other friends. When each partner has some time to themselves they have more to contribute to the relationship because they are refreshed. If you explain the positive benefits of having some space he will be able to receive it better. This is certainly not worth divorcing over unless this is just a surface issue.
2007-01-07 15:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by mjohnson1422 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your breaks with some other coworkers. Everyday do something that doesn't bring the other into it.
2007-01-07 15:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Mellow_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to another office.
2007-01-07 15:47:52 · answer #5 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to luch with friends occassionally.
2007-01-07 15:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would change jobs. give each other the chance to miss each other again.
2007-01-07 15:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by biancajh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you have friend at work?
spend couple lunches with them!
2007-01-07 15:46:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet_summer_breeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u want some u time
2007-01-07 15:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by destinee h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change jobs
2007-01-07 15:44:52 · answer #10 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋