I have a strange situation. My 19 yr old sister is pg and due in 3 wks. My husband seems to think that we should help her out by letting her move in to our home. Currently she lives with our dad but he doesnt want her living there when the baby is born. Now, my grandmother told me that she would help out my sister if she needs it. I dont want to have her living here in fear that I will turn into "mom" with her child.
So, here is my problem. I want to have another baby. My husband does also but thinks that we should wait and see what happens with my sister. He also doesnt want to have a baby born between the months of Nov-March. So this would mean that I need to get pregnant within the next few days or we wait until July. I dont want our lives to revolve around my sisters life. I want a baby now and dont want to have to wait till July.
How do I go about telling my husband?
2007-01-07 07:40:43 · 5 answers · asked by ea1825 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think the two of you should go for a nice dinner or make a nice dinner at home and then just tell him exactly what you wrote here. It was perfect and right to the point yet gentle and kind. If he doesn't like to talk about those things well, then maybe get a nice card and write him a note in it so he can read it and take his time thinking about it a little. If your sister does move in with you, you need to have a set of ground rules all ready to go prior to her move. You are right, she does need to be responsible for her own child. It sounds like she has plenty of help in the wings and shouldn't have to move in with you. Good luck!
2007-01-07 07:55:17 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy A, RN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a bit jealous just a bit thinking and caring about others life should solve your problem sorry to say that but i can see that in the way you talk "i want to have a baby now and i don't want our lives to revolve around my sister's lives..." in case you missed something from the situation you've got already, i think you are a bit jealous You should take care of your sister if she's in a bad situation. Anyways talk with your husband.
2007-01-07 16:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Hello 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If he's a resonable guy, just tell him. Say " Honey, I apprecaite that you want to take in my sister, but I don't want to be a mother to her child. I know that we want to start a family, and now is a good time." If need be, bribe him with his favorite dinner. LOL
2007-01-07 15:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by BoomerFamily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your body and your mind, you guys are married tell him how you feel and if he gets upset then you tell him to go and carry a baby for 10 months and have his body ruined and deal with all the pains that come along with pregnancy he will eventually understand, dont have a baby to make him happy have a baby to make each other happy~
2007-01-07 15:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is my man
2007-01-07 16:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by nay- nay' 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋