how about adopting a child before marriage?

Question

hi i am thinking of adopting a baby girl before marriage bcoz i am well setteled and have a lot of money and afford a child i want ur suggesstion
thanks for ur kind suggestion

Answer 1

Why not? If you have a lot of love to give go for it. It is awesome that you want to provide a good home for a child that does not have one.

Answer 2

I am not sure you will be allowed to adopt a "baby" girl. There are tons of two parent families who are in line to adopt a baby and single men or women are not allowed in that line. Your choice would be an "older" child and it would not be a girl. Why would an adult man want to adopt a "baby" girl? Any social worker evaluating you would ask that question and I am not sure there is an answer. You would be perceived as doing it for someone - what, your mother wants a baby girl? - and therefore not in the best interest of the child. There is also a reason you want to adopt "before marriage" and that is because you want sole choice of the sex and look of the child. What is behind that? You say you are "well settled." That says that you do not have any plans to become unsettled with a wife. You say you have "lots of money" which, if true, tells us you are someone who either gets what he wants or builds a picture of what he wants and that is not someone who will get married and have to share anything. Also, you use the adolescent spellings of "ur" and "bcoz" which suggests that you are immature as all get out or that you are under 18. In any event, you do not get to adopt the baby. Sorry.

Answer 3

I think it would be fine for you to do that, though the child should also have some kind of permanent female figure in her life (your mother or sister, perhaps).

However, you may find it difficult to convince an adoption agency that a single parent can rear a child. You will have to show that you not only have plenty of money, but will spend a sufficient amount of time with it and can provide a stable home environment.

If public adoption agencies won't allow you to adopt, you may need to seek a private adoption, which is more expensive, but less restrictive. Good luck! :)

Answer 4

As a father of an adopted child I would suggest you get married first. Adopted children, even when adopted at birth, can have tremendous insecurities. They need a very, very stable family life to feel secure. Raising an adopted child can take a lot of work and both parents must be totally committed to each other and united on how they raise this child. Security and structure are crucial for their success and I cannot say this enough.

Answer 5

Being a single parent is tough, but it is not impossible. If that is where you are at in life, and ready to take on the challenges of pareanthood on your own, then go for it. There are restrictions against single parents when it comes to some religious adoption agencies, as well as foregin adoptions, some countries will not allow single parents to adopt from overseas.

There is a ton of information available on the web concerning adoption......adoption.com being the best!

Don't forget to check out the http://stepparent.adoptionblogs.com for information on stepparent adoption. Once you get married you will want I am sure, your new spouse to adopt your child!

Answer 6

Please don't do this to a child. These children from adoption have a lot of emotional baggage no matter how young they are when you adopt them. I think it's only fair for them to start out with a solid Mom and Dad. Do they have to endure stable Dad dating and romancing their might be Mom. Going through a wedding and a honeymoon and then a big change in Dad and a Mom to get use to.. Why not be married, comfortable and then adopt?

Answer 7

Wa alaykum salam Really we Muslims could adopt children before or after marriage Based on hadith marriage is filling half of our deen so we should plan on marrying if we believe as the ummah or followers of Muhammad pbuh We should adopt children of poor parents who could not afford to raise their own children or orphans whose fathers died so Allah will reward and bless you greatly Ameen

Answer 8

if u and ur partner r sure about ur relationship and is working out for u then y not?! it's a good thing to help someone else share a good life with u 2, and if u don't hv a partner and thinking of doing this ur self u should see if u r capable of being a good parent not only b.c u hv money makes u a good parent.

Answer 9

You don't have to be married to raise a child just supportive, caring and patient. If you are ready and can give a child a good home for life, remember this is a life long commitment, then go for it. Best of luck

Answer 10

Go for it. You don't need a husband or wife to raise a child. Good luck.