I keep hearing that to marry a divorced woman is adultery. I am currently married, miserable, and lonley. I have stuck throught my marriage like a trooper, and have no doubt that I'll end up in a clinic for depression if I stay with my husband or he will cheat or leave me. If he leaves, do I have to stay married to him? I'm not interested in putting my faith (which I am trying to develop) in jeapordy because he's horrible to me! If he does divorce me or cheat, am I stuck? Can I ever get married again? I didn't know that he would get this way! Please help me out.
2007-01-07 07:17:12 · 20 answers · asked by kswildangel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, if it is for any other reason ( i.e. Irreconcilable diferences, or she can't cook, or she has gained weight)than adultry (sex outside of the marriage) because the marriage bed has been defiled.
But that scripture is referring to two saved people. They can seperate, but they can't divorce. A woman can leave her husband and remain single, or be reconciled back with her husband, but she can not divorce him. 1 Corinthians 7:10
But if two people are married and one is saved, and the other is not, if the unbeliever (not saved) chooses not to stay married to the believer (saved) , then the beliver can get a divorce, and only remarry another saved believer. 1 Corinthians 7:11-15
I would suggest reading the entire 7th chapter.
I also want to say, that God is faithful and just to for give any sin except blaspheming against the HOLY SPIRIT.
I hope I helped. I will keep you in my prayers.
2007-01-07 10:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by ladysea8 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are miserable, and God does not want you to be with someone who treats you horribly. No, this is not adultery.... getting a divorce will give you another chance at happiness. Yes, of course, you can get married again. A divorce means your marriage has been terminated in the eyes of the law. When the divorce is final, you will have no more ties with this man again. You will be liberated and free to love again. Now, are you able to support yourself? If not, do you have family or friends who can take you in until you can get on your feet financially? Think od a plan of action before you walk out.... and he does not need to know you are leaving. Just do it and don't look back. Good luck.
2007-01-07 07:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Biblicaly, the only grounds for divorce is adultery. That's because the marriage is no longer pure. A person still commits adultery even if they remarry, because you were already married to someone else.
But the Bible states, that adultery is takes place in the heart when a man looks upon another woman. I would be led by the Holy Spirit in this matter.
2007-01-07 07:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not stuck in a bad relationship with someone who cheats or mistreats you. God doesn't expect you to be abused or hurt in that way. Adultery is only if you cheat on your wife/husband while you are married. It would be better to get divorced first. You can carry on with your life and marry again. Just take a bit more time and be more careful next time.
2007-01-07 07:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's time to have a long talk with your husband. You need to try to find some common ground even if it's backing up to when you first dated.
Second, I'd see a counselor or minister that you can talk to. Either with or without your husband. If you don't get help for what's wrong in this marriage, you'll be looking for the second marriage and mess that one up too.
I recommend a book entitled, "A Marriage After God's Own Heart" You can find it on Amazon.com. I give it to young people I know that are getting married.
2007-01-07 07:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It says in the bible that you can only get a divorce if there is unfidelity and that if the man cheats on you that you can give him a divorce. There is alot of people that get divorced and the bible does say that if a man marrys a divorced woman that it is considered adultry. It says in the bible that you should only remarry after the death of your spouse. I have wondered the same question because my hubby cheated on me, but I forgave him but i always wondered about the adultry part if we divorced and I remarried. Maybe you could ask a priest, or someone over your church!
2007-01-07 07:47:32 · answer #6 · answered by Kendra M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
technically, it depends on what religion you are if you can get remarried or divorced. some say yes and others say no. however, these so called "rules" were put into place when times were much simpler and people didn't have to worry about cheating partners and so on. many don't even apply to today's society. do what makes you happy. you can have all the faith in the world but it won't matter if you aren't happy enough to even get out of bed in the morning.
2007-01-07 07:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look it, if he is horrible to you why wait until he leaves, leave him and do what you need to do to survive and for your own well-being. I am a Christian woman who divorced and I know other Christian women who divorced. Religion aside, survival is the top priority as is health whether physical or mental.
If you are divorced you can marry again.
2007-01-07 07:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Corinthians 7:15, NIV: But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman ***is not bound*** in such circumstances; God has ***called us to live in peace.***
My pastor just said it this morning: There is a difference between divorcing someone and being divorced by someone. If he leaves you and/or cheats on you, you're free.
I'm fighting the same battle, as a divorced Christian. Thanks for bringing up the subject.
2007-01-07 07:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by cruztacean1964 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, if u r catholic u can get ur marriage annulled if things just aren't working out and if u have a good reason. i dont think getting divorced is adultry! i hav no clue where u would've heard that, but the two are completely different things. i seriously dont think that God wants u to be miserable and lonely, especially if ur husband is cheating on you and you've tried to make it work.
2007-01-07 07:21:28 · answer #10 · answered by lalalua 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋