but the deal is ,she has never met them & wants to go there first without me .and then after 6months to a year she said that i can move there too.if i want to .after she gets an apt. do you think thats a good idea or should i just stay where i am at and carring on without her ???? we have been together for 12 years or just let her go .she can be so stubborn . she says that i can write ,if i want & maybe call 1or 2 times a month . the state is 12 hundred miles away from where we now live i am just consurend about her well being & safety . thanks for all answers
2007-01-07 06:57:44 · 11 answers · asked by dirtdevil215 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if i don't let her go there without my blessing's then i am just being selfish and care about her feeling's & iam only thinking of feelings .and no 1or 2 call's a month not visit's
2007-01-07 07:21:13 · update #1
this all sounds a little fishy to me. Why would she have to just move there? why couldnt she just go for a short time to meet them? why cant she just start a relationship with them from where you live? I mean, what if they end up not getting along? I would say your wife is ending your marriage and using that as an excuse
2007-01-07 07:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not see the big brush off here? You can write 1 or 2 times or call? Sounds like she is breaking things off with you. Just let her go, especially since she can't be honest enough with you. You deserve better and hopefully you find someone who will treat you better and be more honest with you soon. Sorry to be so harsh, but it seems like I am not the only one who feels this way. I wish you the best. This is an addition. Apparently if she is causing you to feel selfish because you won't give her your blessing says she is controlling and selfish on her part. She is not playing fair. If she wants this marriage, then she needs to act like an adult and stick with the vows she said before a witness and God. Marriage is not for convenience. She is most likely having an affair and is slightly on the defensive side. She is making excuses to make herself out to innocently do something that stinks like an affair. It isn't healthy to stay in this relationship...especially one that makes you second guess your gut instincts. Leave while the getting is good. Trust me...been there done that and now I'm gone!!!
2007-01-07 07:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all you need to sit down with your wife and tell her she needs to think about how it will affect her to just pick up and move. Tell her the positive and the negatives of moving right away. Be there for her right now. She is so happy she doesn't know how to control her thoughts but listen to her first and then say that you have to say. Try to come up with an agreement and see if you and her can visit at least 3 times a month and take it from there!
2007-01-07 07:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by debbie cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im glad your wife found her biological brothers and dad, it's obvious she would want to spend time with them, but to want to leave your husband to make up on lost time is just plain crazy.
in your question you said to call 1 or 2 a month, what you really mean is visit? cause that's just plain mad. is she leaving her job where you are now? does she have a job where she wants to go? you wife is acting like a spoil child. she's not thinking out of the box. you need to chat seriously with her.....let her know exactly how you feel about the situation
2007-01-07 07:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by gustine_girl98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
something else is going on with your wife besides her just finding her biologicals. i have a feeling that maybe there is another man in that state as well. i'm adopted and this whole thing makes no sense to me at all. if you have never even met the people that you are moving closer to, why even go. just because you live closer does not mean that they will want a relationship with her. if she moves, i say divorce her. that's pretty much what she's asking for anyway.
2007-01-07 07:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Harboring a fugitive, or helping and abetting a criminal, will require reason, meaning your brother is conscious he's doing something incorrect. If he would not recognize, there's no violation of the regulation. basically "questioning" someone is needed isn't adequate to get your brother in hassle. He has to attraction to close. i imagine he has higher complications. Does he really opt for to stay with someone like that?
2016-10-17 00:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by duperne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SLAP YOURSELF AND WAKE THE HELL UP
you know many woman just marry the first guy that comes along. Especially adopted woman without a supportive adopted family.You are on the back burner for sure.Tell her she is welcome to go.
THE KIDS AND PETS STAY "HERE"
She wants her cake and eat it too.
Tell her you will wait at home.And SHE can write when ever SHE wants however.
Keep up the appearance of the good family man for one year.
In the meantime...call Cheaters... lol cuz she is.
2007-01-07 09:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you may as well go ahead and file for a divorce. She is using her biological relatives (if she has even truely found them) as an excuse to leave you behind. It really does sound like she has another man tucked safely away back home.
2007-01-07 07:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something else is going on. It seems to me that since she has no reguard for you it is time to do what is in your best interest, whatever that might be.
2007-01-07 07:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by KitterKat2310 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's going to choose them over you, then get a divorce.
2007-01-07 07:00:34 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋