How should we tell her parents she's pregnant?

Question

I am 17 years of age, and I have been sexually active with my girlfriend. We are scared that she is pregnant, because she hasnt started her period. The problem is her parents would kill me if they found out. Also, her father is a cop and I think he would kick my ***. So, we don't know how to tell her parents. I mean even though he is a cop its his daughter, I bet he would be pissed enough to kick my ***. So help me out im stressed out, what should we do?!

Answer 1

oh damn, what if her dad files statuatory rape charges against you.

Answer 2

Telling one's parents that they are pregnant is very hard and scary, because of the expectations a parent may have of their "child" and also the fact that one does not know how the parents will react. But most parents would rather hear this news from their child even though it may be shocking. It's therefore important that parents should know.

If there is good communication between your friend and her parents then it maybe just a matter of timing and choosing the right words. Your friend should sit down with her parents and tell them how she feels, showing the parents that she has thought about the situation and has made a decision and is ready and willing to take the responsibility of having her baby and would like and also needs their support. If she can't do this, arrange to have a counselor, a priest, a pastor, a religious person to be with your friend when she tells her parents. Think of an adult that she trusts, loves and respects. Maybe an aunt or one of her mother's friends, someone who would be willing to help her and be there with her when she tells her parents. Maybe it would be best to have this special person tell her loved ones first and then she could meet with them all together. She can also try writing a letter and have it handed to her parents by an adult friend who is willing to be with her.

Good luck and know that everything will be okay once the baby is born!

Answer 3

First, be sure that she is pregnant. Secondly, if anyone gf's father or not, hits you, press charges. Thirdly, come up with a plan; what are you going to do about it, how will you afford it, school, work, money, etc. So you don't look to immature to handle it. If you really think her parents are not able to react like reasonable adults, take them to a neutral place and ask your own parents to go along. Your mother will not let a strange man beat you up I'm sure. I know that this sounds childish, but adults act different around there peers. It sounds like your girlfriends parents are the type of people who think teenagers are idiots and can't be talked to like normal humans. The presence of your parents could smooth that out.

Answer 4

If you both chose to keep the pregnancy going then I would tell them after my first trimester (when miscarriage is not as likely). Maybe get your *** kicked, but heal and get over it knowing you had it coming. Then you will be able to get support from her parents and not have to continue the lies. It would be worse for all of you if you waited until the end and then sprang it on them. Act like an adult and own up to what you both did. In the long run you will be happy you did.

Answer 5

First of all, you should have thought about all of this before having unprotected sex. I doubt he would kick your *** but you didn't say if she is or not, why don't you buy a test first before worrying so much about this.
There is no way to sugar coat soemthing like this you just have to approach both parent's and just say it "i'm pregnant"
Yeah, they will be upset, but, you're right, that's their daughter, you both knew the consequences, now you have to be grown up enough to start making decisions, not just for yourselves, but for your baby - if she is pregnant!
Cop or not, he'll understand and since you were man enough to have sex, your man enough to face the consequnces - right?
Just get them in the same room, stand by your girlfriend, support her and let her parent's know that you'll be a man and stand up to your fatherly duties!
Good luck.

Answer 6

It's probably not as hard as you think it will be. Are you sure she is pregnant? Get one of those EPT test, and make sure. In my opinion, the best way to approach the subject is telling her mom. However, if you are serious about your relationship...just ask to all sit down and have a talk and let them know. Sometimes being honest and responsable does the trick. Good Luck=)

Answer 7

1rst I would wait until you know if she is or not for sure.... no need to get everyone all fussed up for nothing.... then if she is, the 2 of you need to go together and tell them when there is no other stress, and when they are in a good mood... before hand though.. you and your gf need to figure out how you will handle this, so that you both are prepared to answer any ???? they may have.... Yes they will be mad and dissapointed, however... (if you are a good man), you are going to be this baby's father adn they will have to accept that... it may take a while, but they will eventually come to terms with it... they have no choice...... Good Luck!!!

Answer 8

well, first of all just make sure she's pregnant for sure and take a test, then the best thing that you can do is be honest with her parents, you can press charges on the dad if he hurts you because you are underage. keep ur head up high and try not to stress too much

Answer 9

First off all get a test done, you can buy them in your local pharmacy or get them done at your doctors. I ve been in your position where my parents hated my boyfriend and it was thye most nerve wracking thing ever. My child is two now and he is spoilt by both sets of grandparents. They may be angry but it will be a different story when the child is born. Try to get all the parents together to tell them or tell the one that you are best able to talk to first. Best of luck and don't worry too much, there's always worse that could happen.

Answer 10

First and foremost, find out for sure if she is pregnant. You can go to a free clinic to find out. Planned Parenthood is a good one. Then you worry about telling them. Just be a man and tell him. He is probably old fashioned so you might want to think about marrying her. If that is the case then go to him, sit down and say "I love your daughter with all of my heart. Unfortuantely we couldn't wait to concimate our commitment and now we are going to have a baby. I hope you will give me you permission to marry your daughter." If you don't want to get married, then just tell him you will be there in everyway you can for her and the baby.

Answer 11

He may kick your @ss, but he will respect that you went to him, like an adult, and you are taking responsability.


But think of it like this,
You come out clean and you might get your @ss kicked, but if they just see her getting bigger and bigger,
No doubt you'll be DEAD!!

It's always best to come clean,
But MAKE SURE SHE IS BEFORE YOU TELL THEM
If you break the news, and it turns out she isn't, then you can only imagine what will happen.