I'm mormon and i'm 17 and i've had sex with my boyfriend (unprotected) for the first time but i feel guilty...

Question

Should i tell my parents? Will i go to hell?

Answer 1

Why are you telling a bunch of strangers on yahoo? Hun, yes, tell your parents. And stop having sex, expecially unprotected!

Sex is a sacred moment that you will want to share with your husband. A true man will wait for you. Trust me, I'm a convert to this church and I wish I had waited until I was married. But I didn't know what you do.

Talk with your parents and your bishop. You won't go to hell. God promises that we will be fogiven, if we truly repent. So do as He says and truly repent. You've already started that process. You feel badly about what happened. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how it made you feel. Then talk to your parents and your Bishop. Then the most important part - don't do it again... that is, of course, until you are older, and married. Don't throw away something so precious at such a young age. Good luck hun.

Answer 2

So what if you have had sex at 17? It happens. Just make sure you are not pregnant. You are too young to be carrying a baby at this age. There are so much more for you to do in life like going to college etc. Are your parents the type that can accept things? Think about how it will affect your relationship with them if you tell them. Is it worth it? Sometimes its best to keep quiet about certain things. Make sure you don't do it next time or if you really cant control the urge make sure you use condom. There is no need to feel guilty over something which cannot be undone. You won't go to hell just because of this. Sex can wait, but responsibility cannot wait. You have to take responsibility for your life. Think about all the pro and cons of regarding your actions the next time. Weigh it carefully, will it be worth it? Don't wast your precious young life and get into problems like becoming teenage mother.

Answer 3

if you tell mom & dad, what will happen? Will they be happy? WIll it help them to know? Think about the consequences.

What kind of pain and trauma will your family go through if they are strict Mormons?

Most Mormon parents would make you go see your Bishop and talk about what happened. It wil typically mean you will get some sort of counseling from him and he will ask you to repent, which includes promising not to make the same mistake again. He might ask you to stop seeing your bf if he is not LDS. If he is Mormon, he will have to speak to his Bishop too.

As far as what might happen at church, you might be disfellowshipped, or not allowed to take the sacrament for a period of time, depending on the circumstances.

But most church leaders are human and can be very understanding if you want to be faithful going forward.

And no, you won't go to hell, more people have had sex before marriage than you might think--Mormons included. No one is perfect, so don't stress too hard!

Be careful like everyone said, use condoms, etc. if you keep having sex.

Cheers!

Answer 4

Yes, you should probably tell your parents. It's better they find out from you than someone else. Trust me.
I had sex with my boyfriend before we were married and I always felt SO guilty, I knew what we were doing was wrong. But obviously we didn't stop and that is one of my biggest regrets, that we had no self-control. I didn't get to have a "honeymoon" and that is something I was really sad about.
No, you won't go to hell. That is what repentance is for. You will need to talk to your bishop about it and he might suggest that you not see your boyfriend anymore or at least stay out of situations where you are alone.
My suggestion is talk to your parents and your bishop and pray to your Heavenly Father. He will hear you and help you know what to do. Believe me, it is a huge relief once everything is taken care of and you CAN feel "clean" again.
Good luck.

Answer 5

The mature thing to do is to get some contraception after seeing a doctor to ensure that (since you already had risky sex) you don't have a Sexually Transmitted Disease or are Pregnant. Sex is a natural urge, yes we are suppossed to save ourselves for our husbands and yes in God's eyes you made a mistake. The thing is the God is a forgiving being - once he forgives you - he doesn't go back on his word. You made a mistake - you ask him for forgiveness and then move on.
Don't panic. I think that you weren't ready to have sex mainly due to the fact that you were not protected and now you have regrets.
You will have sex again (whether married or unmarried) the trick is to be an adult about it. Don't give it up to each and every guy that comes your way (the obvious: guys will think you are easy)
Don't be fooled - when a guy tells you that he's got no disease or that he's allergic to condoms Always use protection. Trust no one! Cause at the end of the day you only have one body - you are the one in charge - you will be held responsible if you get pregnant; contract AIDS or any type of STD. Oh, and by the way -we live in a messed up world - there are men out there that know they are infected but will sleep with you anyway.
As for your parents, be very careful when you tell them (if you want to tell them). Please have a family member ready to take you in (in case they do something drastic like kick you out of the house) or have money allocated for an apartment or some type of housing in case your parents freak out.
As for your boyfriend or future boyfriends : I suggest that he come along with you to the doctor's office and sit down and discuss with the health professional what types of contraception are available and what outcome should be expected if one day you should become pregnant (abortion/adoption)
Please be mature and handle the matter responsibly. I am giving you my advice because In my neighborhood on a daily basis I see teenage girls either pregnant or pushing strollers with no man in sight. Also, in some studies published women are at more risk to contract sexual diseases without even knowing their partner had anything.
Please be smart. Please be safe. God loves you. Ask him for forgiveness and move on (the right way).

Answer 6

It all depends on the relationship you have with your parents. It's great if you have a good relationship and can talk with them because sex is a highly emotional thing and when you're young it can cause extra burdens children (young adults) don't need. However, it is not necessary that you do. I would definately talk to your Bishop. This may seem like an uncomfortable situation and you may be hesitant, but it will be a great experience. You most certainly will not go to hell, and I hope you would not this, that God is loving and very forgiving, as long as we are willing to trust in Him. Good luck.

Answer 7

First off, get yourself on birth control....you'll get pregnant, hon. Got to your local woman's clinic, or Planned Parenthood. "What do they call people who do not use Birth Coltrol?"?????? Parents....

Secondly, no, you won't go to hell, but to raise a child out ouf wedlock is just about as close to hell as you can get., hon. Don't wait, go tomorrow, call tomorrow. Look up the number on Google

Planned Parenthood. It has all sorts of numbers and answers questions about birth control, and abortion, should you have become pregnant. But hon, if you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to take responsibility to prevent a pregnancy. You are way tooooooo young to be a mom, you have no education, and no way to support yourself... Wake up, sweetie. Sex is fine, mormon or not, who the hell cares. Just don't bring a child into this world you cannot support, and at this stage in your young life, you're aren't even raised yet yourself!!!!

Answer 8

Well, like the other answerer commented, your major concern should be that you didn't use protection (why the heck not, might I ask???)not worrying about going to hell.

Hopefully you won't get pregnant. Maybe your guilt over possibly going to hell will make you think twice about having sex again. And if you do, use protection!! Pregnancy can happen the 1st time you have sex. There is no magic shield!

Think about your actions and why you do what you do.

Answer 9

You should feel guilty! Protect yourself!
Guilt serves no purpose but to ease a guilty conscience. You ******, didn't you? Did you like it? Try it again and see. This time with protection. If you think it wasn't right for you, live according to the rules which you feel are right for you. Although I don't understand how ******* can be wrong. Killing and bringing up hateful repressed children are something else. You will not go to hell. Continue being a loving empathetic person. Your parents who may be angry, repressed and afraid for your well-being might permanently traumatize you. Are you personally ready to have sex? Is he? Talk to someone outside your faith but who understands how fanaticism can affect one's psyche. ALWAYS USE PROTECTION. GET YOURSELF CHECKED OUT BY A DOCTOR OUTSIDE YOUR COMMUNITY.

Answer 10

Of course you are not going to hell........If you become pregnant you should tell your parents. If you feel wrong that sex before marriage is wrong STOP HAVING SEX! If you plan to do it again make sure you and your partner have protection for diseases more impotantly..