I dont have to wear a bra anymore. I have no confidence and dont feel womanly at all. Its causing relationship problems with my husband too. I dont want surgery, but cant carry on like this. Im already on anti-depressants. What can I do?
2007-01-07 06:56:36 · 9 answers · asked by jamiehattie 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
im not quite sure why you have downgraded after kids. I have 2 kids myself and before i had my first i had no boobs now im struggling to get a bra that fits, im in a c now but might need to go bigger. Dont go for surgery!! your fella will love you boobs or no boobs, if its for confidence just buy extra padded bras. i think you feel that because you dont have any anymore your fell wont be interested but your wrong. Men like the bum more and these days dont take much notice to boobs. You shouldnt worry he loves you
2007-01-07 08:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so discouraging that even in today's day and age of "confident" womanhood, there is still so much emphasis on the "perfect" female form. I do sympathize as my breasts are smaller now than they were before I had children and it took several years to think about my changed body in a new way.
It is refreshing to hear that you don't want to have surgery. It won't solve the underlying problem anyway which is that you seem to feel you have lost your "womanhood." If you enlarged your breasts, you would likely focus on something else that has also changed such as your abdomen or hips.
I encourage you to see a counselor to explore how to "find" your womanhood again. Afterall, what is a woman? Is she just someone with big knockers and a round bootylicious backside, or is she the magnificent creation God made that can grow and nourish another human being with her body and whose kisses magically cure their little one's boo-boo. Do not fret. You will regain your confidence, and believe me when I say that if your husband is anything like mine, he still finds you immensely hot.
2007-01-07 07:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you lost weight? Loss in weight can cause a decrease in cup size. As for how you're feelings...maybe talking to a professional about how you feel is your best option. I have also read studies that have shown that anti-depressants alone aren't as effective if you don't seek couseling or therapy. There's always a stigma attached to getting emotional help...but once you do, you'll start to feel better. If you aren't comfortable talking to a therapist, try just keeping a journal. Sometimes just the expression of your thoughts (in any way you feel comfortable) can do the trick.
Best of luck to you!
2007-01-07 07:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really is just about your breasts which it may or may not be only you know that, there are ways and means of making your boobs bigger without the extreme of surgery. Most oral contraceptives have breast enlargement as a side effect I have just gone up a cup size since starting the Mini Pill.
Talk to your doctor and make sure you get the best advice you can and don't let them fob you off.
Good luck hun
2007-01-07 07:22:23 · answer #4 · answered by Yoga Wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is how you feel about yourself. If you feel less womanly to yourself then you are transferring your feelings to your husband. Suppose you had breast cancer and needed a mastectomy? The size of your breasts is not the real issue. A man who loves you will see past the physical, especially considering that you are the mother of his children. Ask him if he would consider it right for you to leave him because his penis is smaller than the penis of some other guy.
2007-01-07 07:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to speak to a professional.
have you lost alot of weight lately?
have you tried putting on weight?
i have the opposite problem.
i dont have kids and im not pregnant.
i havent lost or gained weight.
i keep going up in cup sizes.
im now a 36ff
its annoying but all men see me for is my breasts.
it affects my confidence aswell.
saying that think of my auntie this week she had a double removal because of cancer. she has gone from a c cup to nothing and she doesnt have the option of surgury even if she wants it.
2007-01-07 07:27:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because you had your children. Be happy about it, it shows you are a mother, a wife.
You could wear a push up bra, or get those silicone things you slip in you bra for the appearance of fullness.
But really, it is YOUR body, How do YOU feel about it??
2007-01-07 07:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by Popsicle_1989 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would speak to a therapist about it, possibly with your husband if that is the main issue and work through other problems which may be making the situation worse.
2007-01-07 07:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by agius1520 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a boob job!!!
I don't know why people act like they are so bad!
XOXO
2007-01-07 07:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by xoxobeautifulstrangerxoxo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋