I have always wondered to those of you that are gay, Do you believe that you were born this way? I honestly do not judge or care how others choose to live, I'm only curious because I have two brothers (out of 3) that are gay, but it's not discussed in my family so I think they'd be uncomfortable with me bringing it up to them. Only one of them has came out, the other one never has. They are both in their late 40's, We share the same father and when our father died we didn't see each other except for every 3/4 years or so, I was only 5 when he died and they were adults so they were already gone from home when our Dad passed away.
Thank You,
LdySha
2007-01-07 06:54:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not sure I need to mention this but our father was an alcoholic, and from what I understand he wasn't very good to one of my brothers, It's the brother that is the oldest and the one that hasn't ever came out. I don’t remember our dad because I was so young, only recently did I find out what type of person he was.
2007-01-07 06:59:52 · update #1
No, I do not believe that anyone would choose to deal with the BS that sadly comes from ignorant people in this world. I am just hurt for my brothers one of them being almost 50 and never being able to show his true self without fear of being judged, this I would blame on that sorry *** father of ours.
2007-01-07 07:08:14 · update #2
I was born gay.
There was no matter of choice.
Just wasn't attracted to girls in a sexual way.
My father was a bad alcoholic and the biggest bigot ever.
So after my first paycheck arrived I bought my own house.
Bit by bit got stuff in it:had a truckload full already in our Attic.
The first time he got over and thought to tell me it was no good:i politely asked him to leave me be:and send him on his way.
The rest followed soon,as my bf moved in.
Never regretted to have kicked them out.That's over 30 years ago.
Still my upbringing has it's downsides as well.
I can loose my patience at times.
Or get lost in weird thoughts.
I think that your brother got stuck in the past maybe,I can imagine that totally,
I feel for him.
Greetings:Rob.xxx
2007-01-07 07:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter if one believes they were born straight or manufactured to be gay......that fact remains that we are gay. There are some animals that can show gay tendencies, but everyone knows to procreate there must be male/female relationships. This is where human nature and the Church thinks we should be. But the world is not perfect and to most things designed there are anomalies. Is it in the genes? Some would believe so. I only know what I have seen/experienced in my short time on this Earth. My partner, a lesbian, abhors even the scent of men, especially the sexual hormones. I have seen foster children raised by Mom for the last 35 years. Some are asexual teen girls, ruined to the sexual touch by fathers or brothers. I have seen the effeminate teen male whose father abused him, then kicked him out when he wondered why he "turned " that way. I have seen, most horrifyingly so, the sexual predator in the eyes of a 10 year old boy who was abused by everyone in his family. I tend to believe that my own sexuality was "chosen" by bad sexual relationships with boys and better ones with girls. I do not hate men, but I find women love better. It doesn't matter if I was born this way or it was chosen. I'm gay, that's the long and short of it.
2007-01-07 15:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Asking about anyone's being born that way or choosing applies equally to straight people and gay people and those in between. In fact even by askign shows that you don't even know how you became how you are or at the very least shows that you didn't think the question through before you asked it.
2007-01-07 14:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I was born gay, same as your brothers. Some people, whether it be Christians and or bigots will argue that its a choice, but just look around this site at all the discrimination, harassment etc and in the world, like with what happened to Matthew Shepard, why would I or any of us choose this?
2007-01-07 14:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by Drew 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I just posted this on a different question and I think it answers yours as well
If being gay was the norm and at sometime as you were growing up you find out you were straight then would you choose to be gay to be normal?
You would say no because you were born straight.
Well then is it that hard to think that someone can be born gay, lesbian or Bi?
2007-01-07 15:02:00 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was about 9 when i noticed that i really liked guys a whole lot more i was never um touched or anything else by a older man to me i was born this way and very proud to be gay I'm 45 married to a wonderful man he is 75 we have been together for 24 yrs
2007-01-07 16:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having talked to more than a few gays, the answer here is obvious. Yes, most gays believe they were born this way.
Put it this way. Would you CHOOSE to be gay and have all the social obstacles they face and be an outcast looking in?
I'm straight, I can tell you that while, Its more socially acceptable, I don't chose Angelina over Brad like coke over pepsi. I chose her over Brad like I chose Mango juice over Motor Oil.
2007-01-07 14:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by rostov 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if I was born this way,but it was not a choice. I am bisexual and was always with guys. Until recently I realized I desired women also. I always thought they were pretty,but I only started to realize my feelings for women when I met this one chick and I was sexually attracted to her. it just happened and I couldn't lie about it-I was attracted to a chick......and now I am In my first female relationship of 11months. I suppose we are born this way-maybe it just takes diffrent things to pull these feelings out.
2007-01-07 15:47:13 · answer #8 · answered by sexygal8321 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first became aware of same-sex feelings as soon as I became aware of sexual feelings, when I was about eight years old. Of course, I didn't understand it. As a teenager, I fought hard to become straight, and as I got older I dated and had sex with women. But as hard as I tried, I couldn't make myself become straight. And I've talked to many, many gay men who could relate a similar story of sexual discovery. I believe to my core that not only was I born this way, there's nothing I could ever have done to change.
2007-01-07 15:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Who would choose to live a life where there is hate and discrimination?
And who would want to live a lie for the rest of their lives and feel miserable by not accepting themselves?
Either way, i think you can see where I'm getting at here?
2007-01-07 15:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋