I have just split up with my boyfriend of a year, mostly because my family and friends didnt like him and thought i could do better. its true that he has had a very different upbringing than i have and whilst my family are comfortably well off, his family have next to nothing. Have i made a mistake finishing him when i still love him? everything was against us and i was getting fed up of paying for every date we had. but he loved me more than anything and i loved him. now i just cant stop crying.
2007-01-07 06:53:41 · 16 answers · asked by kim_kitten33 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you've only been with him for a year, and you are obviously a real stuck up snob, then I think you'll soon get over it and find yourself another man. Hopefully this time, he'll be as snobbish as you, vote conservative and be racist. He'll certainly be rich and find himself a young lover as soon as you start getting fat and old.
Don't worry about it, we all get what's coming to us.
2007-01-07 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by savs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't cry....everything will get better with time! Money really has nothing to do with love, materialism and emotions are two different things. I am sure your parents love you very much, and there had to be other things that influenced their unwelcoming feelings toward him. Good parents would not cut off your relationship with him just because of money....money can always be earned. You can not be in a good relationship always thinking that you deserve more, if you thought you could do better than you definitely can! By staying with him you would always be wondering what else you are missing out on. You will find a man who will satisfy you completely and you won't want anything more. Plus it's not good for a guy to get that financially comfortable in a relationship, if you paid for everything then he would never have been pushed to go and earn his own money. I think the only reason you are upset is because you have gotten so used to him after a long year being together. It's time to let go....don't worry, just wait for the right guy to come along.
2007-01-07 07:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by Yul'ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it that when a Guy spends all or most of his money on a g/f...that's fine...but if a Girl spends all or most of her money on her b/f it's seen as wrong? he's somehow using her....I know plenty of women that will date "better off" Guys so everything is paid for...they're only using the Guys...yet somehow no-one seems to think that that's wrong...it's hardly even questioned.
You say you got fed up paying for all the dates....did he not have a job? I personally don't think the dates should fall as an expense to either party...meaning, both should fit the bill. maybe one paying one time...the other the next & so on.....what happened to good old "going dutch"?
If your b/f doesn't have a job & has genuinely tried to find one then where does his unemployment money go? is he really trying to pay for at least some of the dates or is he keeping what's his & just allowing you to pay for the lot?
Obviously you know him better than everyone here & only you can truly answer whether you think he's just taking the pis....
To me whether male or female...I'd be looking for a partner that wasn't just happy to allow me to foot the bill the whole time...I'd be looking for some kind of pride showing somewhere here...plus a Guy that could take me on a date using lots of imagination...it doesn't have to cost a mint to take a Girl out...does he plan & prepare meals at home (if poss) ...my God! the list is endless...otherwise, I have to admit...I'd too start to question "what the fukk"
Only you can really know the answers though...if it's all positive then I'd take no notice of others opinions....no matter what you do in life, you'll never get 100% approval from everyone on this planet.
2007-01-07 07:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write yourself a pros and cons list of all that you Love, Hate or even adore about him. Regardless of his background, does he do everything in his power to show his appreciation and Love for you. How do you feel when you are with him? How important do you think that you are to him? Only you can know these things.
Do you dislike it when other women take an interest in him or men with you.
Now that you have split, has he left you alone easily and moved on or do you think that the loss of your love will be tearing him apart?
What would you like to see happen in an ideal World. If you are looking for a better standard of living are you both willing to work as hard as each other in order to get it?
2007-01-07 07:20:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, u have made a mistake! U shouldnt let ur family or friends have that kind of effect on u sweetie. ( As hard as that can be). My b/f 's mum absolutely hates me but i really dont care and neither does my b/f. I've never had a lot of money growin up, but if u love someone, money should mean nothing! Try doing things that dont cost much money. Also your family should not really be puttin so much pressure on u, that u feel u should finish wiv him! Go with ur heart!!!! If you love him, dont lose him!
2007-01-07 07:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money can't buy love. You should look very closely at this guy and see if there is any potential. First of all, is he working? As long as he wants to work and is earning some money and is showing he is doing his the best he can, even if it's it doesn't match up to your family and friends. At the end of the day it is your life and no one - not your family nor friends - can live it for you. If he's being lazy and just sponging off you and not working then you're better off without him. If he's taking advantage of your then your better off without him.
2007-01-07 07:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was alot better off financially before I met my partner! I fell in love with her and since then have realised that she is more important to me than anything! My parents didnt get on with her at fist and thought that I could do better, however as they saw that there was a lot of love between us they have come to get on with her, and the moral of this is - nothing is more important than love (not even money!). If you are ever unsure on what to do - listen to your heart!
2007-01-07 07:15:27 · answer #7 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship needs balance. If you paid for everything then it was out of balance. It is great to feel loved but time would have caused you to get more and more upset. Your tears are Natural ,we all want our relationships to last and grow. But cry your tears for a week or a month and move on. Good luck .
2007-01-07 07:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Marty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you broke up with him to make others happy, and you not, then you have a massive problem. How do you think he feels? It's selfish of you for listening and caring what other's think, and about money? It make's your family and friends snobs, and sounds like your the same. Stop crying, just go get yourself a rich guy who mummy and daddy will like.
2007-01-07 07:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by A_BIT_BLONDE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family and friends tend to be too materialistic and its sad you were bullied into this..when you say he had next to nothing was he working and such or was it considered nothing because your family is better off then his..you say you got tired of paying for everything but then are conflicted because he made you feel good..i do not understand why people feel a person must meet societal expectations and feel they need to break up with someone because others do not agree...you should speak with him and if paying for everything is a big issue for him then you owe it to him to let him know and such...if you feel like he was/is the one for you then you owe it to yourself to try again with him...my mother in law has said she hasn't liked me since she met me for whatever reason and i have been happily married to her son for almost 11 years now...we do not any relationship with her and she is the one suffering but i refuse to go there and see her since she has never told this to me,i found out from a 3rd party she told
2007-01-07 07:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by charmel5496 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋