We're co-workers and both of us are married.
2007-01-07 06:48:43 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I guess that depends on who, what and how you ask. Are you cheating? Yes. There is no literal act that makes an affair official. You can have an affair with someone you have never met in person. Affairs by my definition are not just being attracted to someone, because I think that is normal, but acting on that attraction in a way that alienates or excludes your significant other. There should be no secrets. You are cheating before you have sex. Cheating can be having sex or acting in a manner when your spouse is not around that could indicate you would have sex. An affair to me indicates something that is deeper emotionally and not necessarily physical at all or a physical relationship that is ongoing.
2007-01-07 07:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. because both of you are cheating your partners and that is not good. entering a married life is to stick to one person for the rest of your life. you better stop what you are doing now with your co-worker. it is still considered as an affair even without intercourse. you might destroy a lot of lives if somebody finds out what the two of you are doing. And don't waste your life. If there is no more love for your husband better tell him and settle for a divorce or annulment or be satisfied with your husband.
2007-01-07 06:58:12 · answer #2 · answered by KRISTOFFER D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sturdy question, yet I don`t totally accept as true with it. specific, there ARE people who consistently blame others, whilst they're having an affair. those tend to be the shallow people who can't arise to who they are actually (tho in specific circumstances of direction, they're suited. some ARE trapped in an extremely unhappy marriage, so look outdoors the marriage for intimacy, love and intercourse). In different words, you could not generalise approximately people who've affairs. a lot of people be attentive to that is their own `fault` and make no excuses for this certainty. Their frank and brutal approach is `I DO savour having an affair. and that i'm not likely to alter my strategies`. Brutal, unkind......yet easy.
2016-12-15 18:06:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is. ifyour husband had done everything else but intercourse with another woman I am sure you would feel betrayed.
i know nothing about your situation and would never judge but i feel like i need to tell you to be careful.
this could be a very messy situation for you. you work with this guy and your job could be compromised.
put your energy into your marriage. if it'sover then get out. this situation is not fair for 4 different people. you and your boyfriend are lowiering yourselves to cheating,dishonesty and sneaky behaviour and thats not good for you not to mention your spouses....no matter what they did or didnt do they dont deserve to be cheated on. yuk.
like i said i know nothing about you and i dont mean to preach...i am in no position to do that.....but you dont want to hurt yourself with this situation.never mind everyone else...thinkof YOU....there willcome a time when you wont like that this all happened and you didnt put the breaks on......dont sleep with him......coolyour jets and figure out what you want to do, who you want to be......pull back fromthis coworker, take a good look and what you want, keep your dignity intact
good luck
2007-01-07 07:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, be realistic if you are cheating emotionally but not physically its still cheating. Are you intimate with this other guy? Do you meet in secret without telling your spouses? Would you husband or his wife be deeply upset if they discovered what you have done with this person? If the answer is yes then you are cheating.
What you really need to do is think about why you are so unhappy in your current relationship that you turn to others for affection.
2007-01-07 06:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you, yes it is an affair. It is an affair from the moment you started flirting. I hope both your partners find out and take you to the cleaners and then dump your butts.
2007-01-07 07:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its an affair. An affair is anything that is physical or emotional attaching that draws you away from your spouse and to someone else. Question is, how much does your marriage mean to you and are you willing to loose it all?
L.
2007-01-08 16:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in my opinion an affair starts as soon as you have feelings for someone else.
2007-01-07 07:32:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An affair starts when you think about another person as you would your spouse.
Yes, you're having an affair.
2007-01-07 06:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by closetmeateater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can answer this yourself very easily by asking yourself a very simple question: Would you do what you do what you do in front of your spouses? If the answer is no, then you're having an affair.
2007-01-07 06:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋