these girls just don't like me,please help me, I'm so embarrassed?

Question

ok so we were in gym class on friday and we were in the pool, these girls who always have been mean to me(since 4th grade) decided it would be funny to pull the string on my bikini top so every body could see my chest. now all the guys have seen me and now are askin if they can see them in private and they didnt even get in trouble for it. im so embarrassed, these girls are so mean and only to me and my friend drake (we dont know why) but what should i do about it?? im in 8th grade

the teachers didnt say anything to then ecept "girls thats extreamly imature, dont do it again" i mean whats up with that, they have major beef with me for no reason!!!

they have no reason i asked them when i was in 6th grade i asked them why they were so mean to me, they said it was cuz i was 2dark and they didnt like me cuz im not white, i've never been rude to these girls never been mean or nasty to them, they dont like drake cuz he's gay.

my mom is dead, my dad is kinda creepy, he kinda keeps to him self since my mom died and im an only child

their exact words were"we dont like N*****s and i told them i am not black i am mexican and cuban and puerto-rican(my mom was cuban and puerto-rican)
before my mom died, she told me(white people please dont get offended) she said"white people are gonna always try to be better than you so you always gotta be a cut above and thet all your white friends will slowly slip away" i can still hear her saying that in my head, i only have one friend , Drake he's Thai and he's gay so every body is mean to him also.

well when i told my dad he said"ay mija(miha) just ignore dem they are jelous because you are so much prettier then they are" i asked him not to call their parents cuz then people will make fun of me more

in my science class they are always pointing at people saying yur white yur white then they point at me and say we dont know what you are and then they point to drake and say yur a **** and thai then they all laugh at us

they also mock my father because his voice is very heavy spanish accent and he doesnt speak alot of english and they make fun of him and THAT really pisses me off, the spanish teacher(she's white)i have most of my classes with her cuz when confrences come around she can speak to my father, they make fun of my mother dying and when they do that i just cry because i remember when i saw her in the hospital dying(she was hit by a drunk driver,she broke her back, her legs and her left arm and was bleeding in her stomach) the last thing she said to me before she died was "no deje a esas muchachas incomodarle y te quiero" that means dont let those girls bother you and i love you

Answer 1

first of all=

if they call you a *********., say =

did you just call me a *********.?
well, a *********.is a dog,
dogs bark,
bark is on trees,
trees are a part of nature,
nature is beatiful,
so yea, thatnks for the compliment you racist whore.

I hate people like that! Tell the counsler what is happening.
I know that you probably can't ignore them, but since they did that
to you, try something back. make them be embarrassed.

and, if you find out their e-mail address, give it to me. I'l virtually whopp their @$$E$!

Answer 2

Maybe they're jealous of you, or maybe they're just really nasty girls who thrive off of being mean. Either way, if you are really nice to everyone and ignore them completely (no matter what they do -- I know it can be hard to do), then they'll eventually leave you alone. What's important is that you try to be the more mature person. Kids at your age laugh at mean pranks because they're afraid to stand up to the mean kids, but essentially even the kids that aren't sticking up for you right now know that what these girls are doing is mean. In the future, people will remember how mean those girls were, and hopefully will remember how dignified you handled yourself.
Either way, just remember that junior high will eventually be over. It was the worst time of my life. High school was much better for me, and college was much better than that. I know that doesn't help you right now, but try to immerse yourself in things that you like to do, and stick with the friends you have. Don't worry about everyone liking you. If everyone likes you, sometimes that means that you're not being yourself.
Good luck!

Answer 3

I am a parent and I used to be a teacher in the school system. I agree with one answer-er here that the teachers are handling this poorly. Get your parents and your friend's parents involved, and go talk to the principal. Four years is TOO LONG for this tension to go on. YOU HAVE to say how upset you are to your parents, please. And better yet, it should be suggested that those girls parents ought to be called for a meeting. It just isn't fair that everybody else has to suffer but THEIR parents.

I also used to be picked on in school. From the 3rd grad to high-school, but I never said anything. It made me so miserable, I became physically and emotionally ill. These girls did it ONCE to you, and then picked up on the fact that it bothered you, so it became sadistic fun. The fact that the adults in your life (teachers, principal, parents) are not involved is a perfect thing for THEM to continue their antics.

Edit: People will make fun of you more?? Racial intolerance and prejudice of your friend due to his his sexual preference is not a joking matter. There are way for this to be handled without making a spectacle of YOU or YOUR friend. The attention needs to drawn to THEIR behavior. Their behavior is what is the matter.

Edit II: only one more edit. If your dad refuses, get another adult to help you, hopefully your friend's parents. Tell them that you two were advised by a reliable source that the best way to handle this is to bring the matter to the attention of the principal. Do it, or they WILL always bother you, don't you see?? You need to honor your mother's memory by fighting for yours and your friend's rights.

Answer 4

Don't settle for the teacher's poor handling of this extremely embarassing situation! Find out who the teacher's boss is (in my school it would have been the principal) and discuss this with him or her. Explain what happened both during and after the incident, how you feel about it, and what you expect the principal to do. (Reprimand the teacher, punish the girls involved etc.)

Here's one more idea. Perhaps there are different knots for your bikini top strings that can't be easily untied by someone else. Image the looks on your enemies' faces if they try to do this again and can't untie your top because the knots are too strong!

Answer 5

Tell their parents. They are being racist. How evil of them. Or just ignore them and stay completely away from them. Don't let them ruin your life. Tell them off the next time you see them. Be brave. Ask them to stop bothering you. I think they are just jealous of you and have really bad lives. That is why they are making fun of you. They have nothing better to do. Try reading:

Chicken Soup For The Girl's Soul. It's a really good book that talks about girl's lives and what has happened in them. It will really help you. =) It helped me.

Also, for the gay thing, I don't really like gay people. So, if they are making fun of him, at least they have a reason. But for you, they have no reason or even no right to. Tell them that. Good luck.

EDIT: The gay part is just my opinon so please don't give me a thumbs down just for that. That is completely unfair. Everyone has their own opinons. That is mine.

Also, just because you are scared that the other kids might make fun of you, shouldn't stop your dad from calling their parents. This teasing is going to get worse and worse. Something needs to be done.

Yeah, and don't wear a bikini to P.E. That is just... no. It's P.E, not a beach party. Lol ^^

Answer 6

Several answers you have received are just plain immature. My advice would be to ignore these people. This is a short time in your life.I know it feels like this harassment from these kids will last forever but it doesnt. Some day you will look back on this time in your life and realize how it made you stronger. What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Surround yourself with kids who make you feel good about yourself not bullys.

Answer 7

first i dealt with stuff all through middleschool...i wish i could give you a better answer but i still to this day cant find a way to change what they do. As for the teachers not doing anything, i really would go to your principal and include how embarassed you are, how annoyed you are, how the teacher wouldnt do anything and how you dont think its fair to just have to deal with it. Maybe your principal will listen unlike mine whos not very fair at all.

Answer 8

this is gonna be hard, but just ignore them. girls like that take your embarrassment as encouragement. so just tell them to F*** off. they're has to be a reason they don't like you, so try to find out what it is and fix it. you should never let the people who dont matter bring you down. also tell the gym teacher or counselor and i suggest getting a bikini that wont come off that easily. those girls are what i call white trash.

Answer 9

Just don't wear a bikini next time your in the pool. I don't think bikini's are fitting for P.E. lol. Don't back down to those losers. If them say something smart-*** give them a come back that'll shut them up. Thats what I did, and now everyone backs down to me.

Answer 10

well i have a friend who is gay and he is the bestet friend i n the world i aint nice wen people are like that for no reason but they must be jelous cuz u have a nice dark skin witch evey gil dreams of havin and well they dont know u so let them they will get bored