hes been staying out all nite(says he fell asleep on mates sofa), left me alone new years eve, no sex for ages, being nasty and hostile and blaming me for eveything,i think hes cheating everyone says not, wot do you think?
2007-01-07 06:30:38 · 83 answers · asked by Madonna 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, but whether he is cheating or not, he is treating you like siht. Why put up with it?
2007-01-07 06:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 4⤋
this is a really hard one as i dont know the story such as kids, married ,how long you been with him all these are factors even to his age your partner sounds just like i was years ago ,i didn't want sex i was nasty ,i felt trapped and blamed my partner for everything i was suffer from depresson at the time i think you need to sit you partner down and force him to tell you whats wrong i known its scary he could turn around and say yes i am cheating on you but then he might not and there could be another reason be hide it all .My partner truly belive i was cheating on him friends and family told him i was cheating on him so he went out and slept with another women behide my back it for him was the biggest regreat and my biggest regreat was telling how i felt if i had opened up it would never of happen i find it hard talking about my problems maybe your partner is the same maybe he feels trapped ,he could be suffer depresson there a lot of ifs you clearly love this person so therefor i think you should hold on in there found out whats wrong
i hope things work out for you
2007-01-07 23:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by katie645435 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be suspicious if he's staying out all night. The rest of his behaviour could be down to anything - alcohol, drugs, stress, depression, especially if this is a sudden personality change. He could be cheating or it could be something else but whatever it is you deserve to be treated with more respect than what he is giving you now. Talk to him but try not to be confrontational - he'll only get defensive and hostile again. If you get no joy and he isn't willing to change, then you will have to consider changing your own life - without him in it.
2007-01-07 06:38:52 · answer #3 · answered by Lost and found 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either cheating or wants out of the relationship and doesn't know how to do it so is forcing you to. having said that my bfd was like that for a while then i dumped him and he said he could not live without me and realised that he had been treating me like trash and was very sorry so who knows? He wasnt cheating though and we are all good now, better than before.
Have u tried asking him about his behaviour?
Even if he's not cheating why are you putting up with this behaviour? I didn't. Get rid of him, either he will see the error of his ways and come running back or you will find out the truth and find someone who deserves you and will treat you better. Either way its a win win situation for you. Just don't put up with his behaviour any longer.
2007-01-08 06:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Giggle Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be he might be not the only way is 2 sit him down and talk to him,say your not happy with the way he's treating you and then just directly ask him if hes cheating if he says he is you need 2 decide what 2 do leave or stay just remember once a cheat always a cheat,if he says no you need 2 either believe him and say things need 2 change or if you dont believe him walk cause if theres no trust in a relationship there's no relationship.just communicate with him and you'll get your answers good look.xx
2007-01-07 06:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a world are you living in ? Not one in which love prevails for sure! Let it call it hell.
How can you still stick to someone behaving like this?
Usually when someone doesn't have sex with his mate and leaves her alone yelling at her, it may seem this person is having an extramarital affair. Men never acknowledge this to their wife. They'd rather think that behaving like this is a way to let her guess about it. Cowardice on their part, I would say.
Are you ready to let him destroy your life like this?
Shake yourself up!
2007-01-07 06:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's stressed out over something. Maybe he wants to break up but doesn't have the guts. By being hostile, he is showing, probably unknowingly, that he is not happy with the current state of your relationship. After you've had enough and dump him, he can feel bad for himself for being dumped instead of feeling like an a-hole for dumping you.
All speculation on my part...
2007-01-07 06:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by Forward Kindness 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may not be having a sexual encounter with a female but, something has definately got his priorities mixed up if he's not treating you any better than that. Could be a woman, could be drugs, could be internet porn or gambling addiction. I'd get the the bottom of it before I dumped him completely. You should at least know what you lost him to.
2007-01-07 06:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by penhead72 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All the signs are there. Why are you putting up with his behavior? How can you still love someone that treats you like this? Wake up and move on. Whether he's cheating, or not he still has no right to stay out all night. Kick him out.
2007-01-07 06:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way to find out (OK, two -- but private investigators are expensive). You need to open the lines of communication. Don't start off argumentative; tell him you are concerned with the direction the relationship has taken lately; tell him you love him and want to have a good relationship with him. He may become defensive (not a good sign). But either way, your relationship has taken a turn for the worse and you need to fix it or get out.
You could also try asking one of his male friends, if any of them are decent men and sympathetic to you and your feelings.
2007-01-07 06:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by andy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hun i say he is cheating what man does things like that i mean if he wasn't he would be home with you on new years eve it's time to kik him to the side walk girlfriend.
2007-01-07 07:38:27 · answer #11 · answered by Carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋