Help. My friends hate me because of sexual orientation.?

Question

I'm straight. I am a Catholic and I am religious.
My sister is bisexual and her girlfriend is a lesbian.

Everyone gets mad at me and says I'm being stupid about their orientation. But I was raised to believe that being gay was wrong.

I think it really is wrong and God does not accept it.

But I'm kind of letting it happen.
She like makes out with her but no sexual connection...yet =[
My parents dont know but my dad suspects it.

I have one good friend and she's a catholic just like me and she is against it too- we are the only ones that think it is disrespectful.

her girlfriend says "i dont believe in God. I cant wait to burn in hell. I'll tel the Devil you said hi." and such. She has no religion, and her family is Catholic but they do not practice it as much as my family does.

My sister is raised a catholic but leans towards agnositic stuff.

Her gf has leaned her that way.
She recieved the Body of Christ which I think is bad.

help me, please.
no critisim plz

Answer 1

Wait...now I'm just confused. YOUR friends hate YOU because of YOUR SISTER and HER girlfriend's religious and sexual orientations?

...yea, get new friends. And don't worry about your sister's lack of belief and who she chooses as a partner. Are you still young enough to be living together? Because if you are, it won't last. You can choose to never see her again when you move out.

I bet you and your friends make quite a few choices that she disagrees with or is embarrassed about, too. That's how the whole sibling thing has always been.

Besides. You're her sister, not her mother. It's not your place to "let it happen" as you say, or not. It's not even really your mother's place to say what her faith or sexual orientation should be.

Answer 2

Hi!

I'm Catholic, I'm religious, and I'm bi. :) And I'm long winded. lol But it's all important stuff, I promise.

I know all the lovely stuff Catholicism says about homosexuality. But even though none of the stuff they say is good, they keep changing the official way of addressing it. The most recent directive is for priests to welcome gay men and lesbians into the church with open arms, and encourage them to take an active role in the church. However, there is also emphasis on helping gay men and lesbians to resist giving into "urges."

So right now anyway you don't have to worry about how Catholicism and bisexuality clash, because even though the Church still believes that it is a sin you don't have to worry about it being disrespectful. The Church is trying to encourage gay men and lesbians into the fold.

Now that you don't have to worry about that let's move onto other things, okay? First of all, you are not "letting" anything happen. Your sister is her own person with the ability to make her own decisions. No matter what you do if she wants to be with her girlfriend she will. You have no control over this and no responsibility to do anything about it.

Second, I doubt it was her gf that made her grow away from the Catholic church. It is most likely the Catholic church's policies about her sexual orientation that drove her away. The policies don't make me feel very welcome, either! But again, this is not something you have control over, and it's not something to worry about. She will find her own path to God and it will be okay. What her gf does or does not believe has nothing to do with what your sister will decide to believe in. There are many relationships in the world where each person practices a different religion.

I'm not sure which "she" recieved the Host so I'll leave that one alone.

One of the things I love about my mother is how she raised me in the Catholic faith. I learned early on about following my faith, even if it clashes with my religion. Yep you heard right.

All religions that teach love and good deeds and stuff like that are all perfectly valid. But no one religion has gotten it perfectly right, including Catholicism. God is infallible. But man isn't. It's like one big game of Telephone. Man keeps passing down the Word and the traditions and all the trappings of religion. Along the way there's going to be misinterpretation. A mistake here or there over the course of 2,000 years and no one can say without a doubt what is and is not a sin with the exception of the Ten Commandments. I mean heck, if we were going by ALL the things in the Bible that are called a sin anyone who eats a ham sandwich is an abomination and is going to hell!

There is no mention of sexual orientation in the Ten Commandments. Jesus didn't focus on it in any of his teachings. And for me, the strongest reason to believe that homosexuality is not a sin is my own experience.

I've known that I am bi since I was 6. God and I had a lovely chat when I was 14 where he Called me to His service and we spent some time figuring out what kind of service that would be. I already knew I was bi. He already knew I was bi. Yet I was treated like any other parishoner who has been called. God's presence wins out over the Catholic church's teachings any time. :)

Yeah I know this was long. But I really wanted to give you a lot of reasons to know that you don't have to worry. Breathe! Thank God for your family!

Answer 3

My best suggestion is to read your bible and find all the places in it where it says that being homosexual is wrong. Don't merely take the word of others, go find the passages and read them yourself.

Keep in mind that many people will interpret the bible passages to suit their own beliefs about specific topics. In the days when the civil rights movement was in full swing many people were using the bible as proof that black people were inferior and should be kept enslaved. So, is it not possible that there are people who woudl do the same in regards to gay people.

Also be mindful of how hypocritical some peole can be when it comes to adhering to the rules set out in biblical text. For instance if you eat shellfish or wear polyester/cotton clothes, the bible (leviticus) says those are an abomination. And there are so many more prohibitions in there it isn't funny. It woudl be interestign to ask all those who purport to believe that leviticus says being gay is bad what their clothign is made of and how much they like lobster or shrimp or other shellfish. Plus, it might be best to ensure you are following all the rules before you try to criticize others for what you believe to be wrongful acts..

Answer 4

"i dont believe in God. I cant wait to burn in hell. I'll tel the Devil you said hi."
Yea, I think she is just teasing you by saying that.

You were raised to believe that being gay is wrong, but this in of itself is wrong. Being gay is not a sin, people believe this because of a misinterpretation in the Bible that has gone unnoticed for 100s of years. God does not disapprove of homosexuality. I won't criticize, but what you need to do is:
1. Learn to get over the misguided lessons you were taught and adopt a new attitude concerning homosexuality; a more positive one, you can be Catholic and like gay people. Pray to God and ask him for guidance and strength to rid yourself of the false teaching of homosexuality being a sin
2. Repeat step one.until the hatred is purged out of you.

Answer 5

I wouldnt say her gf was the only one that leaned here towards being agnostic. I would say its also the critism of her sister that also had an impact. I think once you make your opinion known to your sister, there is no sense in rehashing it and making her feel more alienated from you. If you cant be around your sister and her gf without saying something everytime then its probably good for everyone that you hang around people that have values similar to you

Answer 6

I know what you are talking about. Althought I feel attracted by other men, I don't think is anatomically natural. But lies, cheating, fornicating, abusing, hypocresy are also seen despectfully by God's eyes. Let's say that homosexuality is a sin. It is. But humans sin. We should accept and recognise Christ and also our sins.

Likewise, we can't change the sexual orientation. Perhaps it's a periode, or their final nature, but no matter what you do, it's a fact. You can discriminate her, ignore her, force her...She can even repress it, but all of this will chanalise into unhappiness.

Do not encourage her, but support her in her decisions. Be on her side.
Remember that judging other people is also punished by God.

Believe me, she needs your support...Cause I need it also.


GOOD LUCK

Gonzalo

Answer 7

Being Gay & raised Catholic myself i do not believe in what the church teachs as wrong. just because she is different from you does that mean she is notyour sister or your parents daughter NO. you should accept her for what she is a person & your sister. turn the table & think how would she react if it were you that was gay/bi & she thought the way you do about you would that be right in your heart to do.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Even though you may not understand your sisters choice, keep in mind that everyone chooses their own path in life and continue on yours. I'm sorry that your sister and her friend think they have to reject God to embrace their sexuality, but unfortunately the Catholic church is so strict and disapproving that they probably feel they have no other choice. You or your friends don't have to understand or agree with your sister, they just have to respect her decision.

Answer 10

As for your part in this, stay out of it. If we all forced our religious beliefs on everyone else, we'd all be dead. Learn to tolerate others that are different from you and respect their beliefs.

As for her "[receiving] the Body of Christ," did she really make that decision on her own or did she just do it to keep the peace? I was raised in a Methodist home and was baptized, but I'm Wiccan. Many people do stuff like that just to keep others from causing problems in their life.