My boyfriend and i have been together jst under two year, i think i love him to death but hes possessive, im not allowed to go sit with my family and im not allowed to go out without him. Im not allowed to talk to my ex either. Ive lost friends but i thought he was more important. Im not sure weither i lvoe him and wana be with him but he keeps sayin hes changing. I dont know what to do.
2007-01-07 06:18:04 · 10 answers · asked by _so_confused_ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds to me like you're unsure of your feelings for him. That in itself should concern you. It seems to me like you already know what you should do, but you're afraid to do it. Someone this possessive would do better by himself until he can get a grip on his insecurities. Then again some people are just controlling. Do you want to be controled for the rest of your life? A mere puppet on a string. Or would you rather have control of your life, where you go, who you do it with, and find yourself a man who will love you no matter who you sit with or talk to. I think you owe it to yourself to take time away from him. If he says he's changing, then give him time to change while you get on with your life. If you're meant to be with him, then down the road you'll know it. Personally I'd run as fast as I could. Good luck.
2007-01-07 06:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anna Hennings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away fast! The first sign of a potentially abusive man is possessiveness. You might want to read the book, "Why Does He Do That" to learn more about how these guys operate so you can avoid them in the future.
The fact that you're even asking this question says that you know he's not good for you. Find someone who cares enough about you to allow you to be you and to who loves the fact that you have friends and family.
2007-01-07 15:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to let you be your own person. he sounds scary to be around and it might be dangerous to even be with him. he should not have to bully someone to love or to even be with him. You need to talk to him and let him know that it's making sad to be this way. If he does listen then gets psycho, call the cops for harassment,seriously he sounds like he abuses you and that's not cool at all. You have a right to do whatever you want as long as you understand. He needs a life and help for his behavior.
2007-01-07 14:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are more important.Boyfriends come and go.
Try to find a boyfriend who respects you,loves you like you are and accept your friends. Your ex is a part of your life, so if he doesn´t accept your friends and family, find a better boy!
2007-01-07 14:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Ani 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make him know how serious you are and say hey okay this is it if you dont relax a lil bit this relationship is gonna have to end. promise if you end up having to end it because he cannot respect boundries you will be way better of with out him. boifriends are not suppose to be your prison gaurd. although i can agree with him that maybe you should avoid ex boi friends.
2007-01-07 14:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by summer girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, you're afraid of not being able to find someone else but you will find someone. He will continue to be like this forever and wont change. Obviously he doesn't trust you, you cant even go out with your friends. He always thinks you're cheating, get rid of him and tell him to get lost.
2007-01-07 14:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Butter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A HUMAN BEING IS NOT A POSETION TO TAKE OVER. YOU CAN MAKE YOUR OWN DECISIONS BUT HE WONT ALLOW YOU TO DO SO, BECAUSE HIS INSECURITY WONT ALLOW HIM TO DO SO.
OTHER THAN BEING POSESIVE HE HAS INSECURITY ISSUES AS WELL.
HE IS AFRAID YOU MIGHT LEAVE HIM AND THAT HE WILL NOT HAVE.
THINK WHAT HAS HAPPEND TO YOU EVER SINCE YOU STARTED WITH HIM AND THE ANSWER YOUR SEARCHING FOR IS THERE IN FRONT OF YOU. THINK ABOUT IT.
2007-01-07 15:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by ââ¢Â¥*~áƦ~NYSunrise~áƦ~*ââ¢Â¥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
��� ��� run away as fast as you can... anyone who will not allow you to do anything is not good for you, especially when they wont allow to be with your family... staying will only lead to more and more abuse... dont think he will change either... unless he is getting professional help he WILL NOT change... RUN RUN RUN DO NOT WALK... ��� ���
2007-01-07 14:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is controlling you...he will not change and it will get worse as time goes on.....you will find yourself totally cut off from others and you will be totally under his control...that is abuse...cut your ties now and find someone who will treat you as an equal and not try to cut you off from family or friends....good luck
2007-01-07 14:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.
2007-01-07 14:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Princess of Egypt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋