I wanted to have a baby now, I'm not to sure I wanna have one with him. He has a terrible past of just walking away from things and I'm scared he might just walk away and leave me a single Mom to raise this child alone.
2007-01-07 06:08:28 · 15 answers · asked by Peaches 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think your concerns are very valid. There are some people who are fun to hang out with, but who are unreliable to say the least.
Your boyfriend is responsible for child support regardless, but as you probably know, there's a difference between knowing someone owes child support and getting it out of them.
Pregnancy is a very vulnerable time and I'm sorry you're having to face this. However, I admire the fact that you're facing it head on. I suggest that you trust your gut and your instincts. Also consider your various alternatives if you decide that you're not ready to raise a child by yourself right now.
Deciding what to do may be painful, but I have a feeling you're going to make a good decision. Try to have confidence in yourself.
Good luck to you -
2007-01-07 06:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by IrritableMom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sort of put the cart before the horse here haven't you.... ummm... most guys don't show emotion about their women being pregnant like a woman does anyway, that's just men being men. When you're 9 months pregnant you'll start to see the sweat on their brow hehe. I found my husband started getting "into" the whole pregnancy thing once he was able to truely feel my baby move and that wasnt' until I was 6 months along. Don't ever be scared about having to do things on your own, thousands of other moms have done it and their children are all fine. Be confident and strong, you are a woman! It would be nice to have him stick around, but i'm guessing he's still a bit young, or he'd have asked you to marry him when he first found out.
2007-01-07 14:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Gig 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I don't have the best advice but I will definitely pray for you. Not to sound cheesy, but know that you are not alone. I felt the same way a few years back, and then when I finally accepted being a single mom, I ended up miscarrying.
My advice to you is to follow your heart, and do what is best for the child. Having the father around is an extra blessing, but that baby of yours is number one.
2007-01-07 14:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nina1999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if ur already pregnant then you don't have a choice anymore about who its with... ;) the person who i had a child with was overly excited and happy for a little bit, then he stop contacting me completely and move out of state when i was 3 months pregnant... you will never know whats in his head unless he tells you, and even then you wont really know... from my experiance, my advise is to prepare NOW completely that you are going to be a single mother, give him time to fully absorb his new life change, and wait... you will never be able to make him be a good dad... if he chooses to leave, file for child support immediatly after you have the baby... i work 3 jobs, go to school, and have little help... and i do it.. its hard, but its possible.. and its the most wonderful thing being a mother... nothing compares to the feeling of the love for your child.... take care and good luck... do for yourself now...and worry about him later...
2007-01-07 14:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by cathy n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you are pregnant, carry on with confidence that you can do it on your own. If he thinks that you definitely DO need him around, he will feel obligated and scared and will probably leave. But if he sees you living like normal, being excited about the baby, and not being needy, he will more than likely stick around to help. He will feel that he is being able to make his own decision. Even if he does stray a little, don't give up on him. Good luck!
2007-01-07 14:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine was the same way. He showed little to no emotion the first few months. I am 6 months right now and he is getting used to the fact that im pregnant and he is starting to show more emotion. Just give him time and dont try to push it on him, it will sink in soon enough.
2007-01-07 14:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by YoungMomToBe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel when i found out i was pregnant my baby's father left me and im 16 years old and i am 9 months pregnant and im going at this alone, if you want to have a baby then go for it just make sure you have a solid support system (parents, friends, etc) trust me if hes gana go as low as to leave you then to hell with him
2007-01-07 14:14:34 · answer #7 · answered by CO mommy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you knew that he has a history of walking away and you didn't wanna be a single mom, then why and the hell did you wanna get pregnant by him. More than likely, if he didn't want this baby, you'll be on your own. Next time think about what you're doing more carefully.
2007-01-07 14:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well, you can't make him be happy about it, but it's also possible that he just needs time to process. Men really do need more time to digest things like this. And if can't handle it it and does leave, you need to know what you're capable of. Are you willing to be a single mom? If not, you need to consider your options now, before it's too late to change anything.
2007-01-07 14:13:48 · answer #9 · answered by a heart so big 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. If you really want a child though- he shouldn't matter. Your child comes first now. If he doesn't want to help there's child support and plenty of other men who would love to help. Good LUck & Keep Your Head Up.
2007-01-07 14:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by nursie1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋