We have been together for about 6 years, he has been in and out of jail. She blames herself for his demise, he manipulates the affair. I know alot more about it than she thinks I know. I confronted her a few months ago about it and it was all tuned on me, I was to blame.... Now I just keep my mouth shut.
She has a daughter from the marriage with her ex. We have two sons together.
What the hell should I do?...We have already done a ton of counciling, it help in the fact that alot of stuff got layed out on the table, but It hurts me everyday to know that her heart is somewere else. Anyone have any ideas?
2007-01-07 06:05:54 · 15 answers · asked by m40a3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i feel u , but along the long line of trying to resolve ur matters with ur wife and it hasnt had any positive effect, sometimes u must learn to let go. Ur only hurting urself emotionally. I would advice u to put ur best efforts to save it, but u cant be doing that for long. Think about ur children, thier the ones that pay for the broken dishes.
2007-01-07 07:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You left out some important details, like do you and your ex have any kids together. If you don't, then what is this "powwow" about from your side of things ? Whats the gain to you ? You don't have an obligation any more to jump when she wants you to, thats one of the things about being EXS. If you're uncomfortable about a meeting in person, you could do this on the phone. Are you of the opinion that your ex wants to talk about the visa issues about your g/f ? If so, what say does your ex have about your present g/f ? That sounds strange, and I would suggest seeing an immigration lawyer to see how to get the visa stuff done without involving your ex. That way, that issue would not be affected by your ex.
2016-05-23 03:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your wife was not really ready for another relationship. The worst part is with her daughter in the mix this only complicates things more. I suggest you go to counciling together. The best way to forget another realtionship is to never have anything to do with the ex. That is not an option here, but it is possible that it could be. Counciling for her ex may never happen. Therefore there is a possibility for leverage. First of all, let love be your guide. Love your wife, love her daughter, love your sons, but most of all, love yourself.
You probably cannot "fix" your wife, that isn't your job, anyway. You can make it possible for her to "fix" herself. That is the most you can do. Religous, psycological, even psychic, it really doesn't matter (!) get some outside observer to council you.
My hopes are with you.
2007-01-07 06:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. You are obviously unhappy. You can't make her stop talking to her ex.. You keeping your mouth shut isn't going to help. The problem is still there. If she doesn't want to understand how you feel, then leave her.
2007-01-07 06:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it in stride. You have to be the bigger man in this one. Don't harp on this too much. Take care of your children. At the end of the day, she will find the error of her ways. I know it's not much advice, but it is situations like this when the more you do the, the more you dig yourself into a deeper hole. Be light.
2007-01-07 06:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never going to win with women, even if it has to do with cheating. It's always the guys fault and we are pigs, dogs, and many other things, but whatever you do, don't call them a name or you are emotionally abusive or an ***. Just leave and don't get married again. Just date.
2007-01-07 06:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nep 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow...what a loaded question. I can only tell you if it were me in your shoes...I would end it. Its obvious her heart is somewhere else. If you have tried counseling and it didn't work..then maybe its time to move on. You sound so hurt and lonely. Hugs and good luck with whatever you chose to do.
2007-01-07 06:10:39 · answer #7 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sometimes you think if you do what ever the other person wants and it will make them happy and undo what has already been done if she's hasn't changed her stripes yet then don't expect her to do it for you............Think of whats best for the kids it not always about (adults)
2007-01-07 06:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure it is an emotional affair....and just emotional....if you want to continue to work on things you both have to feel that way.....it won't work if only one of you tries and wants it to work....for the kids sake, I hope you continue counseling and I wish you luck
2007-01-07 06:09:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is the one with the problem, he doesn't want to change or communicate. He likes the idea of having to baby mamas. So is up to you to leave him because you tried everything.
2007-01-07 06:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋