if she is playing with something she shouldn't or when she can't open or get over the baby gates she pitches the biggest fit i have ever seen. she screams really lous and just falls out on the floor. i thought this was suppose to happen when they reached like 18 months..how can i handle this? I am a first time mom and all this is new tro me and it is not covered in any of the baby books i have.so i need help from other mothers and fathers are welcome too.
2007-01-07 05:02:31 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I have a 10 month old daughter, she tries that, and gets away with it with her mom. She just picks her up or gives her what she wants. I just let her cry and will give her something that she CAN have. If i know that she's not hurt, or hungry, or needs to be changed then I just deal with the 5-10 minute tantrum until she is over it because she knows she can't get away with it from me.
2007-01-07 05:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does happen this younge, people think that because they are babies they don't form feelings, tempers etc until older but they have their personality right from the beggining. At 10 months she is at a stage of exploration, things are new to her and she is learning. At this age as with the rest of the months to come.. she will have to find a way to vent these frustrations IE// crying etc. Some children vent their frustrations in different ways... biting themselves and/or others, they head bang, hit, act out, cry etc. Many ways. You need to step back.. use a calm voice but still firm and talk to her.. she understands more then you think. Ask her if she needs help to open something... if she is trying to get over the gate and can't.. talk to her telling her no she can't go over it... and if she continues get a "special" pillow, put it on the floor and lay her on it telling her to go find the pillow if you are going to get angrey... it takes a few times and as they get older.. all you need to do usually is say.. "find the pillow" and when you are done you can come play.. and they go find the pillow.. it becomes a comfort item to them.. a way to unwind.... just take a deep breath.... step back. She has come into the frustration stage early and has the I want to do it... personality :)
Good luck and take care
2007-01-07 05:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by kAtTs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is frustrated, not a whole lot you can do to change that. You can distract her attention onto something that will stimulate her mind. "Sing if your happy and you know it", or show her herself in the mirror, "Who is that pretty girl?" If she isn't walking yet you may find that this behavior will ease up as she becomes more independent. Just remember to keep the same boundaries "If she can't play with it now she can't play with later." If you are restricting an area (eg. kitchen, bathroom or stairs) for part of a day and then letting her in that area later, she may not understand why. This may be why she gets mad at the baby gate. You are doing a great job, keep your calm and let her have her fit if you have to it is OK.
2007-01-07 05:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by R♥bin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is actually pretty normal for this age, they get very frustraited over their inability to communicate and manipulate the things in their world.
At this age, I would first tell her calmly that we dont throw fits, and try to distract her with something else to do, such as a toy she enjoys or looking out the window and talking about what you both can see.
Obviously you dont punish this behavior at this age, because its not the same kind of fit and tantrum you get in a toddler, who just wants its way and chooses to communicate with screaming instead of words.
Bait and switch. Thats the name of your game. If worse comes to worse, let her cry it out.
Its also common behavior for this age if she's tired and fighting a nap. And chances are, she might be a little advanced mentally, which makes her all the more frustraited that she cant do with her body what her mind is thinking.
2007-01-07 05:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you approach her directly and take away whatever she is not supposed to have? if so, try distraction techniques. Give her something she can have and while her attention is on that, remove whatever she shouldn't have. At that age, kids are easily distracted as so much in the world is new to them. Keep something handy that she can have. I used to tell my girls they could have a treat if I got round the supermarket without any fuss, and the treat was a slice of wholemeal bread out of the packet I had just bought - it didn't have to be chocolate or something unhealthy; a child's idea of a treat and an adult's is different because their experience is so much less
2007-01-07 05:16:16 · answer #5 · answered by anabelezenith 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is now 13 months and she went through the tantrum stage at exactly the same age. we would try holding her talking to her and using a firm voice saying no. it just didn't work. so i decided to start trying to ignore the behavior. if i knew she was going to get upset and throw a fit i would check the area and make sure there was nothing she could hurt herself on or i would take her to a spot i knew was safe and i would just sit on the couch or floor and pretend she wasn't throwing a fit. it took about 2 weeks and she realized mommy and daddy were not going to respond to that behavior and she hasn't thrown herself since. yeah she might get upset nothing like she was. good luck.
2016-05-23 03:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may sound mean, but let her cry it out as long as she is some place where she can't hurt herself! She probably throws those tantrums to test you to see if she will get what she wants from them. I found ignoring my daughter worked quite well. (Ignore her, but be close by) She will soon learn that tantrums are not the proper way to get what she wants. At this age, they are already beginning to test you! You think this is bad, wait for the terrible twos!
2007-01-07 05:06:54 · answer #7 · answered by Angelwings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perfectly normal! She's exploring and showing you that she wants to be independant and not have everything taken away. My 17 month old started this at about 10 months and she still does it. If you are concerned, as your pediatrician.
2007-01-07 05:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the child does no harm to herself or others - leave her alone and ignore her - when she sees that you are paying no attention she will get over it quicker and less likely to continue with the fits!@~
2007-01-07 05:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by nswblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, and I just let her cry until she got over it. You could also try to comfort her but that does not always work.
2007-01-07 07:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by shorty2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋