Is it a conscious decision married women make by not keeping up their physical appearance, because they are married and it doesn't matter anymore? or is it more of the same: kids, cooking and cleaning.
And if you do have more pressing responsibilities than to be physically appealing to your husband, why don't you get your husband to help out around the house? I'll tell you why, because it's not a priority for most married women to be alluring to their husbands. And if he refuses to help out in maintaining the household, why are you still married to him? I'll tell you that too. Because your are comfortable and would rather take on all the responsibilites rather than take care of yourselves. What say you married women?
2007-01-07 04:55:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Excuses, excuses...lol
2007-01-07 05:03:37 · update #1
Clubchaos- for better for worse means a wife does not have to keep up her appearance?
2007-01-07 05:08:55 · update #2
I have to agree. I see it every day and with a lot of my male friends. Women seem to feel like they "caught" their man so why bother trying anymore.
Then they wonder why men cheat!
When I was married the first time (at 18) my old Granny gave me some advice I still use today....
"act like every day with your husband is your first date"
2007-01-07 05:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I have been married for 9 years and take better "CARE" of myself now than I ever did. I think working outside of the home makes a big difference in how people keep up their appearance. Also for some women the man never compliments them anyway so they figure why does it matter? Men don't always keep up their appearance either so don't be prejudice.
2007-01-07 05:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by kd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men have nothing better to do than complain.
I know a lot of married woman who could say the same about their husbands.Sounds like you are one of the above. I have been married for 29 years Saturday and still take pride in my appearance. But to have someone try to tear down your self esteem makes it something wrong with them not the wife.
2007-01-07 05:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by kalbri3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you are right to some extent. Fortunately, I am not one of those women. I always keep up my appearances. You have asked alot of good questions. However, I don't believe it's a conscious decision to let yourself go, life can be very busy for the average, housewife, mom, etc. As a woman, we take on many roles, far more than we should, and yes, men should step up and take part in maintaining the home, and their wives for that matter. Most men think they are dooing their part, because, God forbid "they go to work". Whatever!
2007-01-07 05:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must of married your wife because of her looks nothing else. You need to look in the mirror and see if you look the same as you did when you married her. You need to also understand that us women have to do a lot more with trying to look our best. Men just have to get out of the shower and comb their hair. Women have to cook,clean and take care of the children. I am not saying that a women should not dress nice for their man but maybe she is not getting the love she feels she deserves and is not willing to dress nice for you. You need to look more into yourself and see what could be the problem with you.
2007-01-07 05:59:38 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know. I personally make it a priority to stay attractive for my husband; it's kind of second nature now. I make it a point to be fit, wear nice clothes (or at least sexy pj's around the house!) do my hair and makeup, etc. I know my husband appreciates this and I love when he tells me how hot I am, etc. And he does the same. Maybe having no children helps with this, but the truth of the matter is, just because you're married for "better or worse" doesn't mean you can let yourself go to pot and expect him to be ok with it.
2007-01-07 05:27:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I do try to keep up my appearance. But it is much easier now the children are grown and on their own. I will tell you a few things. I have seen the most beautiful women (not a hair out of place, blessed with great natural beauty) with men who are oblivious to what they have at home and run around on their wives. Why? Because men are just superficial creatures who tire of one woman easily. The thought of one woman was boring to them. I have also seen men who although middle aged with pot bellies and missing teeth, balding heads who are delusional enough to leave the wife of 15-30 years and run of with the first teen aged twit who would have him! These men all had something to offer these young girls..............money! Without it they wouldn't have gotten a second look!
Men have no morals any more! Our society has given him a free pass to do what he wants with a pat on the back. They often blame the wives who have sacrificed careers to raise children and run the home and have worked to put their husbands through school! Instead of being grateful to a woman for her sacrifice and loyalty, he treats her like garbage and finds fault with her! This type of male is a LOSER! He will end up dying alone because after his younger twit uses him for all she can ,she will leave and he will never find another without having to put up some big bucks! My husband has never done a dish in his life and as far as helping around the house ......forget it! I say they don't make real men like they did in my father's day who are dedicated to staying with one woman until death. I say men are a bunch of brats who have had women cater to them too long! My brother had a beautiful wife. They were married 25 years. She was slender and blond and lovely. She worked to put him through school and raised the children. She worked hard all of her life and what does he do to repay her? He found some twit half his age in his office and ran off with her. He really treated his wife shabbily and then he was angry when she got half of everything. Well, now she has a new life and a new husband and my brother is stuck with a spoiled, demanding girl who has run up his bills so much that he is pulling his hair out! She has had two kids(spoiled brats who call him grampa instead of daddy) and threatens to leave him and make him pay child support out of the ying! I do not feel sorry for him! It is not about being "alluring" anymore because men do not care how lovely a woman is as long as he has a different woman to run to! Look at what Charles did to Princess Dianna! She was beautiful! Did not stop him from running around with Camilla....did it? Men, get some morals and treat your wives with respect and consideration!
2007-01-07 07:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kinda let myself go after I got married, but the reason for that is when I would go to work or out (whatever) and I put makeup on or jewelry or perfume, my husband was jealous enough to think I was going to cheat on him. So I said F@#K it, and just stopped. If he didn't like the way I looked....I really couldn't care less! Now we are divorcing, and I dress up, put makeup and perfume on and look good.....for MYSELF!! Cuz I can and it makes me feel better about myself.
2007-01-07 05:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by balooney2 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Whoa..whose panties have got you in a twist??? For me it was having 4 kids in less then 5 years..then getting so sick I almost died..not once but twice in 6 months. My surgeon tells me that I should be dead and buried. So don't label all of us the same way. I consider it my job to take care of the house and the kids while he works fulltime. When I was working fulltime then the chores were divided between the both of us. It goes both ways..my ex let himself go too! as well as other things that are more personal that were a total turn off. :::off my soap box:::
2007-01-07 05:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I always keep up my appearance...it's important to me. And I've been married over a year, with my husband for almost 4 years total. It all comes down to personal choice.
2007-01-07 05:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋