is it really that bad to have a baby at a young age i mean if u love them and u would make a good mother why n

Question

i mean its my body! i should be able to know what i want

Answer 1

smeh as long as your not like 14 years old and you can handle it to support you and the baby, i dont see a problem

Answer 2

When you're young, you don't see the big picture as far as what you have to give up in your life to sacrifice to have a child. I think all young people should be young....go out, have fun, go to college, find your career, etc., then have a child, when you can afford to support one, and also give it the emotionally stable home it deserves.

I did it both ways. I had two boys by the time I was 20, and now at 34, I have a 3.5 week old. I am much old, and wiser, financially stable and able to provide for my child emotionally. I was a good mom with the first two kids, but this time is so different.

Why not wait, have a great life when it's only you to think about and then later, have the children you've dreampt of??

Answer 3

OK, let's look at the sentence you wrote after you asked your question. The concern is not about your body, it is for the new life--a baby. A child is a tremendous responsibility as well as a precious gift. If the mother is young, then she has not been able to experience life and have the chance to mature and earn a decent education and obtain employment with a paycheck above the poverty level. If you are thinking of having a baby at a young age, give yourself some time. Go to school, enjoy your youth before thinking about raising a child. If you are pregnant, consider adoption--for your child's sake. There are open-adoptions now so that you can remain a part of the child's life. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

From reading some of your previous questions it would appear quite clear that you AND your boyfriend are not ready to take on the lifetime of responsibility that having a child requires. There is much more to being a good parent than just love. You need to be able to provide financially, provide your child with a stable loving household, free from any type abuse, including verbal. If you don't intend to stay with your boyfriend for the rest of your life you need to realize that you will not be able to go on typical dates, you will need to schedule a responsible babysitter, then stay out to a reasonable time, and should not introduce the new boyfriend to your child until you are positive that he will be around for a LONG time. Having a child costs thousands of dollars every year, by the time you pay for formula, diapers, clothes, medical care...the list goes on and on, you will have nothing left.

Don't get me wrong, I have a husband and two children that I love more than anything in the world, but love is not enough to keep you afloat. You need to be mature, responsible, and secure to raise a healthy happy family. Please be patient and live your life, when the time is right I am sure you can become a wonderful wife and mother, don't rush it.

Answer 5

Think about this; while you are home with your child, and the father of the baby is out hanging with his boys on the street corner or just doesnt come around, all your girlfriends are out bar hopping or off on some exotic vacation, you are at home, life not progressing professionally, because you decided to have a baby at a young age. You lose so much of being a teenager / young adult when you have kids early... not only that but you will probly be on welfare for the rest of your life and so will your kids and so on.. Do yourself a favor Wait till you are established in todays society and are a productive citizen rather than a leach....Not trying to be mean, being a realist...

Answer 6

how young are you talking? if you are teen, yes; it is your body but if you still live with your parents they will be taking care of you and your baby.
can you provide more than just love for this child? babies take a lot more than they give back and it is very draining. you need shelter, food, patience and a lot of other things you may not have learned yet if you are in fact still a young kid.
the baby is not a doll. becoming a parent is a big big responsibility, no matter what your age,financial situation, etc.
are yo willing to put your life on hold for 18 years or longer? when you are a parent your life is your child.
think about it.

Answer 7

Its really bad to have a child at a young age is you refuse to be an adult in the situation regardless of how much a child you still are. Thats what makes it really bad.

You live life for that child, not for yourself. Its young children making babies who dont understand that concept that end up with babies that dont get the care and nurturing they need.

Answer 8

Young women have been having babies for thousands of years. All it takes to be a good mother is Love for your child, and a dedication to motherhood.



I didn't have children until I was 36. Now I feel like those who had children at a young age and have kids out of the house have a head start to fun in their later years. I have NO regrets, but just an observation.

Answer 9

If you have a baby it is your business, but you will find out it's probably better to enjoy your young adult life for a while before having one. Babies are beautiful and full of love, but they can be trying. It helps to have a good mate and a close family. Also remember it's not your parents responsibility to raise your baby. It's better to have a sufficient amount of money and a good job. A baby isn't a toy and a serious responsibility. Remember a baby is a blessing from God, so treat it as such.

Answer 10

I agree, it is your body. However, babies need much more than love. They need a parent or parents who can provide them in a safe, warm home. They need parents who can pay for their medical wellness and checkups. Babies need lots of medical attention, especially early on. They need parents who are willing to stay home at night and care for them and feed them when they wake up crying-and the do that A LOT. They need an extremely stable financial environment and a good home where the electricity is always on, it is a good neighborhood, etc. Their parents need to have good jobs that pay a fairly high salary so baby can have good clothes, school supplies, daycare if needed, etc. Then they need parents who feel fufilled caring for the baby most of the day and nighttime. Most young people (me included!) are not ready for a baby because we don't want to give up dating, going out, occasionally having too much to drink, or splurging on a pair of cute shoes. When you have a baby, all of this stops. Your life is not your own. You will have to spend almost all of your money on the baby. It is tough for most young people to be fiscally responsible and independent enough (car insurance, life insurance, medical, dental, 401ks, IRAs, Roth, etc) to handle.

Answer 11

Doctors won't tell you this. When a girl reaches the end of puberty (usually, about 18) her growth hormones stop. When she gets pregnant there is a surge of these hormones to give the baby a start. If she gets pregnant before the end of puberty, she gets an extra surge of GH, which causes abnormal development. One of the effects of this development is obesity. Once that happens she will be overweight all her life.

The other thing that never gets addressed is, an adolescent is not capable of true love. If she loves the baby, she will take steps to wait until she has matured sufficiently. I know, you think you are all grown up, but it just ain't so!