She thinks, eats and breaths this other man in her head and yet lives,married and has a child with the other. No matter what she tries he is like everyday on her mind..
2007-01-07 04:21:41 · 10 answers · asked by Lwangi 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most of us have been there...done that......sounds like she should be making a decision............
2007-01-07 17:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a past love on your mind isn't that uncommon. Stressing about it will make you think about it even more. Most times when you can't stop thinking about your past love, it is not so much really about them, but that something is either wrong with your current relationship that you are seeking something you know was good at one time, or you had no closure from the lost love.
I would say, accept your thoughts, but at the same time do some positive things with this marriage. Find ways to be closer, to be happier.
Believe me, if truth to be told, it isnt' hard most times if you really try to get a past love back in your life, but nine times out of ten, whatever was wrong then, will be wrong now. You will be regressing instead of progressing in your life.
2007-01-07 12:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by ldylopes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have thought of this before she got married. Now that she is married to someone else and has a child, I would say it's time to get a grip and spend as much time working on her marriage as she does thinking about another man.
2007-01-07 14:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should take some time away and reflect whether her heart is really in the right place,
Love is built more than anything else. Mabye, she should appreciate the guy she has and learn to know him and stop idealisizng the guy she does not have.
find things to do to connect to your real husband. look at your kid. You loves your kid. Try doing simple things with him that allws you to get closer to HIM. Say family picnics and eating. Think about what he likes. What nice special things does he do for you?
In short, seek and you will find it. I hope anyway.
If the other guy were really so great, she'd likely have married him and he her.
2007-01-07 12:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by rostov 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to realize the past is the past and the present is now. She made her choices and has taken a vow to this other man who is now her husband and father of her child. Perhaps therapy can help her deal with the infatuation she has for this other man she knew in the past. The circumstances have changed since then so if she thinks it could be like it once was it is hardly possible.
2007-01-07 12:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Happy2bAlive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have this problem, I am not married and have kids tho. I always have someone I have loved on my mind, but obviously there is a reason she did not return or attempt to return to him. I am trying to move on, I have had other boyfriends, but I will always care about the other guy no matter what happens.
2007-01-07 12:27:06 · answer #6 · answered by penguin_girl2008 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would feel sorry for her because it sounds like a miserable way to live.
2007-01-07 12:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by cynical1963 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont we all deal with this problem in some way or another? just deal with life, thats as good as any place to start.
2007-01-07 12:24:45 · answer #8 · answered by l8ntpianist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about me?
I really feel very bad.
2007-01-07 12:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by summerbreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sucks for her but sucks even more for her husband.
2007-01-07 12:30:25 · answer #10 · answered by Whisky Tango Foxtrot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋