2007-01-07 04:08:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First let me say I'm sixty-eight and have been married twice. The first time for over 30 years the second time for almost 10 years.
I hope I can answer this question for you.
YES! You can love more then one time even more then two.
I have not had the good fortune to meet a third love of my life, but I still hope.
The first time I married I was a teenager and my wife also (14 yrs old) we had four children and now have three grandchildren. We grew up with our children, not being much more then children ourselves. At the time we both thought we knew what it was all about.
We didn't.
Married in 1957, first kid 1959, funny everybody thinks the same thing. 'We had to get married, not true.' We loved one another or we would never have managed to stay married for as long as we did. It was a "stormy" marriage both of us till this day will admit to this.
One day when all the kids were gone and on there own, we got divorced. The spark was gone? Something was missing and the devorce happened, but we had once loved very deeply.
After our divorce I never gave it much thought about getting married or loving someone else again, it just never entered my mind.
There is a very romantic story about how I met and married my second wife. I would like to share it here, but I don't want to write a book.
All of us have heard the media buzz words "soulmate" well if there is such a thing I had met mine and she hers!
We were together for 12 yrs, married 9yrs and 10 months. Cancer killed her. Sorry I just can't bring myself to say she 'passed away'...
Never an arguement and month after month, year after year it got better. When I lost her we had just went up to another level. I wish... well I wish.
I would not do anything if it would change my meeting Priscilla. I made more mistakes in my life then most and more then I can count. But everything would be the same. I would make the same mistakes, have the same hurts. I would not change one thing if it meant I would not have those twelve years!
She was my "soulmate" if that is what one wants to call it.
Can I love again? Sure! And would it be better? Worse? No, not any of those answers.
The answer would be "different" and "better" at the same time. Nothing can replace what you have lost and nobody can take the place of the one you loved.
But as sure as the sun rises "you can love again" it will be different; yes. Another soulmate yes! Different? Yes! Better? Yes! But different, that's all.
Because of the two women I loved, I will be able to love even more should it happen again to me. Forget age, love can come at any age.
I'm alive and I still can love again and it will be better but different. And it will be better, you see I have learned much from these two women I loved. That will make it easier for me to love again and why it will be 'better' just different.
You can love again and again.
When two persons find each other and both feel that the others happiness is more important then there own, that is when you have met your 'soulmate'! Please read this again!
I will share a memory with you, I will not give it to you and I would never sell it. It is priceless. It is mine and always will be.
A Fall Day
I have a memory; an image in my mind. We shared this memory you and I … we were walking, not talking, holding each others hand gently.
At peace with the world around us, comfortable with the love we shared.
Words not needed, the feelings could not be described; the moment could only be shared.
This morning will never be again. It’s a special morning, this one morning. It’s a morning that needs no words, a morning that can only be shared. Shared with that ‘special one’… you were my special one and I yours.
Can life be better?
The trees, now almost bare, but not… still many leaves left each holding to its branch as if this could hold back the Fall that is. They would not succeed as Fall would come and Winter to follow. The seasons come, the seasons go, and it’s all as it should be, nothing more, nothing less.
This morning as we walked the sky a restful blue, the sun filtering through the trees and their branches casting a shadow of webs around us; now each branch almost bare, preparing for their winter slumber. Just waiting, just waiting for the last leaf to fall…
A beautiful day where all the color's of Fall showered the path we walked. A red leaf here, a brown there and over there a leaf so yellow we thought it was gold.
With still a green leaf here and there. Refusing to fall from its perch, not yet ready to say good-bye to Summer, hello to Fall, refusing to give up, they still had a taste for summer. Not to be denied, not yet, not now. Maybe tomorrow or maybe the day after tomorrow and they to will fall from the perch they hold to. What color will they be? The last leaves of Summer to fall are always Gold!
But not just yet, but knowing that they too must fall, knowing Winter is near and Spring will follow and life will begin anew. Even knowing this; they still hold fast to the limb.
Gently are leaves blown from the branches as we walk this Fall path. They slowly sift down from their perch, surrounding us. A pile of golden red here, another there, more red then golden, scattered here, scattered there.
The change from Summer green to the various hues of a beautiful Fall day; we felt the quietness of love this day.
Being alone, yet not; with life surrounding us. You could hear the leaves crackle as they fell to the ground where they would gather in various size piles, as if gathering to decide their fate as Winter would soon be here and change would happen. As Change always does…
Though quite; if you listen carefully you can hear the sounds of Fall
We could hear the soft whistle of the wind as it slowly found its way through and around the trees. You could hear the birds and the scuttling sounds of maybe a chipmunk or squirrel; we could hear the orchestra of Fall. Though quite it was, just the shuffling of leafs and small animals going to and fro we could hear the sound of life around us. In this orchestra the leaves and the scuttling sounds of small animals are the instruments. The conductor, the Wind… the song… Love.
All that is today, for what will be tomorrow, life itself preparing for what is to come.
As we walked and the wind gently showered leafs over and around us, I thought to myself, “what a beautiful world this is.”
Even years later this picture remains a beautiful memory; I wish we could share this moment again.
That moment, a memory now, yet it will not be forgotten. Like our love a memory, but never to be forgotten.
Our lot is to search for and find memories that we can keep in our minds. Memories of what has been, what is and what will be, we keep the good memories. Only the good, it’s our choice only we can decide what we want to keep and what we don’t.
I will shed a tear now for this memory... Frank C
2007-01-07 05:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Frank C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and No. Think about this, you fall in love with a guy, everything is great for a long time, then the two of you grow apart for whatever reason, you will and must move on to love again. Remember the saying, "It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all." Well I have something to add to it, That just makes the next one last that much longer, because you learn or grow from your mistakes, hopefully. :-)
2007-01-07 12:20:36 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpeasmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is going to sound weird and different from most answers you've gotten but I think if you fall in love with someone after you were already in love then you either aren't really in love now or you weren't in love in the first place.
Hope this helped :D
2007-01-07 12:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by ♥AloHa* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people often talk about soul mates & think there is only ONE, i believe we have many soul mates some we have sexual relations with, some we fall in love with, some we are spiritually connected too. It is possible to heal a heart & fall in Love again, allowing yourself to do it is the first step, good luck!
2007-01-07 12:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Donna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to. If not, that would mean theres only one person for you, and if you dont find them you'll be miserable for the rest of your life. There are ALWAYS more fish in the sea, and you can always love again. Stay strong, love.
2007-01-07 12:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im trying to believe. seems like i have not had too much good love. but yet i keep hope that there is love after love. i guess there is no sense in me giving up now. but i wish love would hurry up and come my way! smiles
2007-01-07 12:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dont beleive in love after love.... BUT love is LOve so who knows wat'll happen next.... its all in the way we think!!
2007-01-07 12:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by ClouD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure i do, a heart heals in time, and we love to be loved. ;)
2007-01-07 12:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea there is always some one better
2007-01-07 12:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by new money 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if you allow your heart to heal.
2007-01-07 12:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by WHY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋