if they say is love......but then?

Question

why still people cheat or disloyal with each other?

Answer 1

A person who cheats can cheat for various reasons. They may be a very unfilled person or they are the type of person who cheats because they like sex a lot and could very well have an addiction to sex. Yes sex can also be an addiction.

They haven't grown up that's why and they are immature and they can't handle an adult committed relationship. A person only cheats because they lack maturity and they also could have a very low self image of themselves.

I have heard of a few case studies about men who end up divorcing their wives and they will meet another woman but in some cases she will some what resemble their ex-wife.

There are certain elements that attracts them to that person that attracted them to their wife. There will be some similarities as in their looks. (I can't remember the book I read but that was one part of the book that I remembered.)

If the cheater keeps this up they will repeat this process over and over again until they realize that they have to grow up and take some responsibility and make a commitment with one person if they ever can do that?

If they think life is one big party then they will avoid committing to someone because they are too busy acting like a child. The cheater is constantly searching for the love and acceptance that they did not receive in childhood.

Some people will use cheating as a form of revenge to get back at others and if they are involved with someone maybe they want the person to pay more attention to them.

It may also vary from person to person because each person and situation is different.

Answer 2

I think many people will say they love someone, without really meaning it. When you really love someone, you put their feelings, wants, and needs before your own self interest. As to why people cheat or are disloyal is a tough question. I think some are fooling themselves into believing that they are in love, when they don't truly know if they are or not. Then there are some who are just playing with someones emotions like they were a toy, because it gives them some sense of superiority. I don't know if this helps you any, but this is my opinion.

Answer 3

First I want to start off by saying that the person that responded with the comment love isn't considered cheating if you're not married..well..I beg to differ. If you tell someone you love them, that usually gives the partner the impression you just want to be with them and vice versa. True that "techinally" cheating by the laws of the land isn't considered cheating if you aren't joined in holy matrimony..."BLAH" Love isn't a word to play with, and neither are emotions. Unfortunatley, some men say they love you to continue having sex with you. And sometimes guys say..okay..I want to be able to eat my cake..and keep and have some 2. So the one they want around they will lie to....but still go out and meet other women, have one night stands, or another relationship. Then, some men just don't know the meaning of the word "love". I am kinda in this situation. I have a guy telling me that he loves me, and I'm actually pregnant with his child. But, here lately I have found out that he is seeing 3 different women. I mean, he's gorgeous, women want him and I suppose he can't resist. I wonder why he tells me he loves me, but then I came to the conclusion that loving someone..and being IN LOVE are 2 totally different things. If someone is in love with you then they will try their hardest to do whatever it takes to keep you including not cheating. I have found that Christian men are the best ones to date. (TRUE christian men) If you're not religious there are still men out there that are in love with their partner and treat them right. But if you do know for a fact that he's cheating, just walk away as soon as you can. Hang out with your homegirls, and be active. Don't give a man the satisfaction of having more than one woman. This will just show him that everything is okay and he can do it whenever he wants. But, of course unless you have some type of proof, don't accuse him of cheating because if he isn't then you might up losing a good thing. No body can tell you what to do..all we can do is advise. I hope this gives a little info . I could go on 4 ever about relationships, but I'll let you think about those comments a lil bit.

Answer 4

Love has nothing to do with 'unfaithfulness'.

Love is adoring and enjoying someone's presence whether or not they are around you. You might adore and enjoy someone's presence forever, and you might not. You can not be called 'unfaithful' if you stop adoring because love is not an institution like marriage. It's only in the marriage that someone can become 'unfaithful' by breaking the institution.

But love, it is there as long as you feel it. Nothing more and nothing less.

Answer 5

i believe the one who cheats or is disloyal is a person with a low self esteem...and disregard how it may hurt or effect another,they are selfish.

Answer 6

Because they don't have trust on each other.....for a relationship to work there has to be three things wich are the main ones....respect,trust,and love....

Answer 7

they can't have loved each other if they cheat...if you love someone then you do all you can to make them happy, and cheating doesn't make people happy.

Answer 8

Loving more than one person. It is naive to think we love only one, or even only one at a time. Love is not monogamy or loyalty. You can be in love without monogamy.

Answer 9

A cheater only loves theirself.

Answer 10

Because they are selfish and don't respect the sanctity of marriage.