we are going to try again with treatment soon this has put a lot of pressure on our marrage because its my fault do you think because it worked the first time with ivf even though it was a misscarage it could work the second time really worried she will leave me because she is desprate to get pregnant ??? is it possible even though my counts low if were having regular sex we could concieve? are we wasting our time trying natural as well as treatment?
2007-01-07 03:38:51 · 5 answers · asked by BoshBeat 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ok thinking way back in the days of my anatomy and phisiology classes here so bear with me.....
The fact that she was actually pregnant is a good sign (3 cheers to your sperm for making it!!) Which also means your sperm has the potential to fertilize an egg, even if assisted.
You didnt say how far along she is but misscarriage to me makes me assume that she was indeed pregnant. So basically your sperm did its job and its job is complete....most likely your sperm had nothing to do with a miscarriage since its only job is to fertilize and egg.
So without coming off like I am shifting fault here but once the egg was fertilized something wrong happened with your wife's side of it.
What that is, could be many things and without knowing how far along she was I cant really help you narrow it down. But its a strong possibility it had something to do with hormone levels in your wife's blood and insufficient amounts to maintain the pregnancy. Progesterone is often the culprit during the first trimester (3 months) as it is left up to the mother to be able to provide enough of this hormone to make sure the uterine lining is intact (so the placenta has something to hang on to). Usually after the first trimester the baby is out of the woods because the baby itself starts producing its own progesterone.
Anyway I remember this clearly when taking A and P because the professor spoke in depth about this. Why? Because he had went through the same thing....only thing is he has a persistent fellow and it was him who made the doctors realize this problem with his own wife. This is said to be one of the most common causes of miscarriage within the first 3 months.
So in combination with your low count and possibility of hormone problems with your wife is the reason you 2 never got pregnant the natual way. During you wife's ovulating period she may not have had sufficient progesterone to allow a fertilized egg to implant.
Anyways long story short maybe its time to look at other possible problems other that low sperm count. If she gets pregnant again insist that her hormone levels are closely monitored especially for the first 3 months. Shots can be given to her so that she has the hormones needs to sustain a pregnancy.
Wish you the best!
2007-01-07 04:17:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry to hear about the challenging experience you are going through. i read a very poignant article about this topic in a magazine not too long ago, and the man expressed feelings of worry, fear, and inadequacy. First of all, don't blame yourself. Nothing about the situation is 'your fault' so don't let that cloud the circumstances further. Sounds like you two are taking effective steps in trying ivf and natural. the article expressed that intimacy becomes a chore and that trying so hard to get pregnant can put great strain on the marriage. Discuss options with your doctor, are you considering adoption as an alternative? If age is not an issue, you could hope to be pregnant within the next 6 or 12 months, rather than immediately, right away, asap! it's tempting to let it control and dictate your life...but what was found most helpful was to just take some time out and reconnect with your wife. Discuss alternatives, discuss everything openly, your thoughts, and most importantly express to her your fear that she might leave you. This could be completely ungrounded, and before you bring another being into the world, you need to have a solid foundation for yourselves and a soft spot for the little one to land when he/she arrives. the best to you~
2007-01-07 03:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by pursuit_of_happyness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low sperm count isnt the end of the world....yes, trying naturally is always worth it! I have a close friend who just concieved for the first time after 6 months of IUI attempts and two in-vitro attempts. If you havent been trying for very long....it could take a while, even years....knowing that she did concieve is important, because yes, it could happen again, and the next time with better results. It must be a hard thing to have to deal with, but patience is neccessary. And, in the end.....you two could think about using another man's sperm for another IVF procedure...do you have a brother or close cousin who could volunteer? Just something to think about anyway! Good Luck
2007-01-07 03:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey the chances are that even with maybe having 60% sperm thasn the "normal guy" you should still be able to get pregnant. She will be okay and rememebr when you have a misscarriage your hormones go crazy, so it is okay for her to be a bit over emotional about everything. Just keep on havin sex, like 2x a week is a great number, just enough, but not to much so that it exhausts your sperm supply. Sperm can stay alive in the vagina for up to 3 days so there isnt a real need for you to have sex more often. good luck.
2007-01-07 03:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by Holly M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's so desprate for a child Adopt or go to a fertility dr
2007-01-07 03:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by justanothergrl88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋