Why is it so hard for wives to go to the gym and workout consistently. Please no kids, cooking and cleaning excuses.
2007-01-07 03:35:01 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes. A lot of women have kids, cooking and cleaning to do, as well as work. Some women are able to find time to excersise regardless. That's why they are excuses. Because it is a choice whether you exercise or not. How can you do all of those things as a woman and neglect your own physical health and appearance? They are excuses. Period.
2007-01-07 04:43:59 · update #1
I agree with you, they are excuses. How can one look after kids and a house without taking care of themselves first and by this I mean their physical health. When you go to the gym regularly you have more energy for everything. My spouse and I go together and there are times like when my kids are off school or sick that I don't go, the bottom line is you make time for whats important to you. I also personally believe it's unfair of men or women to let themselves go after marriage.
2007-01-07 06:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by me 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, since you said no kids, cooking and cleaning excuses, then I take it that you either have no kids, or you have a maid, cook, etc. It's all about motivation and prioritizing, if she really wants to do it, she will. I love to exercise, but don't always make it a priority. Sometimes, it's more important for me to cook my husbands or kid's favorite meal, or I'm cleaning the house since he's invited guests over, or I'd rather have an hour alone in Target. Other times, it's what I really want to do, so I do it.
2007-01-07 11:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, when you have someone that supposedly loves you telling you that you need to go to they gym and constantly chipping away at your self esteem it isn't exactly encouraging. You sound like a sexist pig. I can guarantee you that if you realized that being a wife and mother is a full time job you, would not call things relating to it "excuses". It sounds like YOU are the problem. When you are happy you want to do things to improve yourself; when you are married to a jerk that does not care about your feelings and can't love you for who you are in the first place, it is really hard to care. I don't think that you have any idea how much women give of themselves and how little is left for themselves at the end of the day.
Try thinking of her rather than yourself... maybe go to some marriage counseling too.
2007-01-07 11:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously, you are having this problem with your wife, or you wouldn't be asking this question. Why don't you try helping out with the kids, cooking, and cleaning so that she CAN have time to go to the gym? Kids, cooking and cleaning are NOT excuses, they are reality.
2007-01-07 11:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is not an excuse. However my husband allows me to do everything and not lift a finger. In my household that's how it is majority of the time. I have to almost beg him to help me clean up after I have been up on my feet cooking for 2 hours. Give her time for herself and maybe she will.
2007-01-07 17:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by Saude! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love going to the gym! The only REASON that I don't get to very often is because my children hate the gym daycare. How about you clean the house and take care of the kids for her.
2007-01-07 11:45:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
perhaps she just hates exercise,,some people do! for every person who sits on the machines puffing and panting because they want to there is someone else sat laughing at all the effort.those who like do and those who dislike ,dont. usually wives ARE too busy to bother about themselves and when you have children the first thing to usually go is the need to put yourself first,you get used to sacrificing,you get used to plans going wrong,of life being up and down so you think,,what can i change,,,and the thing that changes is the thing you take for yourself,,it doesnt seem so important when there is less time in the day.
2007-01-07 11:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no clue!! I'm married and work out 3 times a week, but when normally I dont go when I am sick or too exausted to go. Sometimes though working around the house can be a workout including if you have kids..running after them and such.
2007-01-07 12:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself, but for me I have always had a hard time taking care of me first. I feel a need to make sure everyone else is okay before I can even think about myself. It takes realizing that by taking care of your self you are actually in the long run taking care of your family, because you will be healthy enough to be there for them. Please, don't ever be critical of your wife, if you want to help then do so by encouraging her. Go to the gym with her, or make sure you are doing your part so she feels like she has the time to take care of herself. Tell her you want her to be healthy, and don't ever tell her she is fat or lazy!! That won't help her!
2007-01-07 11:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After doing all the house thing like as you say cooking, cleaning and etc. It was difficult to take time to gym rather to take some rest.
2007-01-07 11:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by --> ( Charles ) <-- 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋