Im thinkin of leaving my husband I say this cuz he cheated on my when I was 8months pregnant & a month after we got married! I forgave him and then he tried to get me to have a 3sum. He knew i didn't want to but kept on 1 nite I wanted 2 relaxso I took a bath wit candles & had dinne by myself wit afew candles. he asked me what was wrong I said I was relaxed. later he asked if he could make me relax & I said yes.thats the 1st time in along time I ever felt loved & special Well we talked afterwards about the 3sum thing & he realised it was a bad ting for us. Then I asked him 2 delete every1 on his chat acounts cuz thats how he found sum1 2cheat & sum1 to have a 3sum wit. He also talk 2 other women online bout sex & get turned on then wants 2 have sex wit me. He admited 2 me he is addicted 2 sex Well I got online 2day 2 see if he deleted anything & he didn't he was on there last nite 4 alil while cuz when I got on there all his messages were deleted but the people werent! Should I leave?
2007-01-07 03:24:38 · 12 answers · asked by jharris8506 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
speaking as a guy,you need to watch out for this one,if he is that obssesed with sex he will be having it with or without you,i did this same thing to my ex wife,and i really screwed up,i also spent 15 years paying child support and missing the hell out of my son that i hardly got to see -now 19 years later i realize how much of a jerk i was,god i wish i had it to do all over again! you should leave!!!!!! BIG TIME!!!!!
2007-01-07 03:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by overdriver64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy girl- sounds like a man who can't be faithful. My husband reconmends that "you should leave because if you have already forgiven him and thats very difficult to do. And he still cheats on you after something so difficult then either get professional help like a counceler and give him one last chance. or LOSE him and find a real man who will love you and make sacrifices for you, someone who will take care of you and your child like you are a queen in his cascle." I hope this works.. i know it will be a hard time for you and children i'm sure-- but the last thing you need is an unfaithful husband- that only leads to a horrible life for you and miserable choice for children. -- good luck, and GOD BLESS--
2007-01-07 12:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by CJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should leave. Speaking as a former husband whose wife cheated on me... once a cheater, always a cheater. Chances are that he will never change his ways, a 3sum is a very very very bad idea. Only a cheating slimeball would suggest that to his wife...
Your problems will only get worse, the more you forgive him, the more he will feel that he can get away with it, maybe even bring in some strange std with it.
You should've left once you learned about his cheating... I did.
2007-01-07 11:51:16 · answer #3 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if he only married you because you were pregnant! I know it is an awful thing to say but if he loved you then he wouldn't have cheated and he wouldn't want to involve a 3rd party in your sex life. He sounds like he is testing you to see how much you will let him get away with before you tell him enough is enough. Is the rest of your life with him good enough to make you stay?
2007-01-07 11:29:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to come off harsh, but you should have been left. you need to tell him that he needs to work out his problems, becuz this marriage has been falling apart ever since he first cheated. how can you feel loved and special when he is STILL doing sneaky things behind your back??? what if he contacted a venereal disease or something? you need to put your foot down, and demand some answers. I think you should both go to counseling. but honestly, he isnt even worth your time.
2007-01-07 11:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by WHY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know what you can or should do. Would I leave... YUP.
It's not going to stop obviously so you just have to ask yourself how long are you willing to put up with it.
Good luck... and do what's right for you & your baby.
2007-01-07 11:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wud say yes..looks like he is a maniac...u gave him a second chance...he is not going to give this habit up...if u keep waiting, i don't think this is going to do u any good...just move on with ur life...find some one good
2007-01-07 11:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by para b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him......
DON'T MEN KNOW THAT PORN IS A MOVIE AND IT ISN'T REAL LIFE!!!!!grrrrr
a three some is not for most people..
it is for him and to humilate you....
wonder what he would think of another man and him and you for a threesome sex.... I bet he would say no..and have a million reasons under the sun for saying no to another man
he is hooked on porn...
give him the boot...
2007-01-07 11:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you deserve better than that. Personally, I wouldn't put up with it. Marriage is supposed to be based on trust, and well..he's screwing around. I wouldn't call that trusting, I call that cheating.
You're the one that's gotta decide when you've had enough of his bullsht.
2007-01-07 11:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave unless you want a lifetime of being hurt and always living with the fear of mistrust.
2007-01-07 11:33:33 · answer #10 · answered by color me blue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋