How to pick up the pieces after a bitter divorce and to make sure your kid is alright?

Answer 1

Never ever say anything negative about your ex within 100 miles of your child. (they will start to side with your ex eventually whereas if you bite your tongue sooner or later they see through your ex themselves).. never prevent contact - get it sorted out on a regular basis. As to picking up the pieces just give it ime - use the time to increase your qualifications. I can't remeber who said (or ifi mad it up myself long ago) 'The best revenge is success' so make a real success of your life.

Answer 2

do the very best u can to be adult when dealing with the x and focus all your energy on your kid right now. don't say negative things about the x to the kid and when the x is hateful try to take the high road. it will pay off in the long run. let the kid know life will still go on and he will still have a home and parents that will always love him and he will still get in trouble when he messes up. try to keep his life as close to normal as possible. after a nasty divorce its so hard to be civil to the x but do it for the kid he really needs all the nasty to be over.

Answer 3

Well, you have to let go of the anger and try and start again.
Focus on you and your kids.
You need to make sure that you are alright, so that you can take care of the kids. You need to be strong to be there for them.
Also, you can't do it all by yourself, so I've found it a good idea to take my two to family mediation, where they can talk about their feelings and to other kids going through the same difficult time.
Another point is to take care of yourself: physical appearance, is very important.
You must make yourself feel good, to boost your self esteem and give you some confidence back.
Go out, and make friends if you don't have any.
By working on yourself, you'll find it easier to be strong for your children.
And do accept that sometimes you need a good cry.
Good luck.
Been there myself, and we're all feeling much better now.x

Answer 4

Let the kids see you and your x working things out together, getting along, and making peace with each other. This will show them that things are okay in their little world, that even though their world is cracked it is not broken. Furthermore, never ever ever talk bad about each other, if you must say something nasty about your x make darn sure the kids are NO WHERE around. Remember, the kids are half you and half your x, if you say something bad about your x you are in a sense saying something bad about your kid as well.
L

Answer 5

First make sure you take care of yourself......eat, sleep and keep your dignity, you will then be strong enough to help your child through anything.
If you are not strong yourself you will never be strong for your child. Give lot of attention to your child but try and keep to the same routines.....children do not like too much change. Also reassure your child that you both love him/her and that noe of the break up was their fault.
I hope this helps and wish you all the best for your future.
xx

Answer 6

The best thing to do is to be civil with your ex, I teach and have seen how horrible it is for the child to be put in the middle. Parents who try to get their kid to take their side are really hurting them. It is your job to protect your child, so if you suspect abuse then you should get involved, but other than that it is extremely important that you do everything in your power to get along with your ex. Good Luck, and tell your child how much you both love him/her.

Answer 7

Just had to comment - Denise B has given excellent advice and so spot on - good luck

Answer 8

try to be in control and find some close relative who also keeps sharing with you and your child. Keep talking to your child, dont make him feel quiet at home or take him out to enjoy.

Answer 9

I'll tell what you do, just leave it up to the Lord and he will help you do it.

I hope this helps. Pray with me.

Dear Lord Jesus, please help me get over a divorce that I just had. Please Lord Jesus, help me and my ex get over a divorce that we just had, and Lord Jesus please be with us. Lord Jesus be with our kid(s) as well. Please put someone in our Lives that will be good for all of us. Lord Jesus please guide us the same way you want us to be guided, now Lord Jesus please the ones in the army, the navy, please bless all of our troops in Iraq, Lord Jesus we all have everything to be thankful for, and we thank you for all of it. These and blesses we ask in your son Jesus name A-men.

Now you should know that prayer helps. Good luck on everything.

Answer 10

Hope, faith and carry a big stick.