It's always like this. For example, I made the schedule for this Saturday and Sunday. I was planning to finish my homework, clean my room and other things that I HAVE TO do. I also put movie, computer games, hanging out with friends, etc on the schedule. But when I came to it, I always delay those have-to-be-done things and do the "enjoyable" things first. I found it hard to control myself!
Actually this does not just happens at weekends. I know how important it is to keep control of my time cuz I really don't wanna be a loser. Help me plz!!
2007-01-07 02:42:56 · 11 answers · asked by Freeman 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You need someone you can be accountable to, whether it's a trusted friend, your sibling, or your parents. Give them a copy of your schedule and post one on your fridge, and tell your accountability partner that you will check off each thing as you've done it. Any check marks missing, then there will be a penalty agreed upon beforehand, such as not getting to go out on a Saturday evening w/ your friends, or whatever it is you really like to do. Also agree upon a treat beforehand if you complete your schedule, such as your parents taking just you out for ice cream, or a friend holding your favorite video for you to borrow, or something like that.
The trick is to have a set schedule that you stick to every day. You even need one for the weekends, though it will probably be different than during the week. If you stick to it for 21 days, you have reinforced a good habit that will become easier to keep up.
Good luck!
2007-01-07 06:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Kim A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're a loser. Just normal. Try telling yourself how much more you will enjoy the fun stuff when you can bask in the knowledge that you have finished all the "have to do" stuff. Just think how relaxed you will feel and pleased with yourself. Make sure you schedule is balanced and school yourself into doing the "have to"s first. One technic I use (and I am many many years past the homework phase I have to tell you) is not to switch my computer on until the house cleaning and other "have to" type things are done. Unfortunately quite a bit of my work requires a computer so then there is a tendency to stray into Yahoo answers (oh god look at that, I've done it again, thank god it's sunday). Another method which worked well for me when I was at university was to set myself a weekly rather than a daily goal. If I had attained that goal by lunch time on Friday I went ice skating for the afternoon. Perhaps you could adapt that technic. List the tasks you need to achieve before Saturday lunchtime ie homework and room cleaning. If they are all completed then the rest of Saturday and the whole of Sunday is yours for movies friends and computer games with no nagging worry that you have left important tasks unfinished.
Good luck, and remember you have already taken and important step by acknowledging the problem. and wanting to resolve it. Some people never get that far.
2007-01-07 03:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly normal. And people have different levels of self-discipline. Work on it as best you can. College can be rough for people who don't learn to manage their free time, and there is a lot of free time in college, so you'll find people pulling all-nighters to get their research papers done, etc. There's no real answer though, I could only suggest that you do the things you need to do first thing in the AM on Saturday and then more on Sunday (after church). Then you hve the rest of the day to mess around without the guilt. You should be able to clean your room in about an hour, then you're free. Then Sunday do your homework, then you are free.
2007-01-07 03:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not an uncommon problem.
First it sounds like you have A LOT of "MUST DO" things on your list. You need to simplify.
Second, you need to learn to delay gratification. Do 1 or 2 not-so-fun things first, then reward yourself with a fun thing.
It's a change in lifestyle, but you will feel more productive. These are skills that will help you throughout your life - it's called prioritizing!
2007-01-07 03:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by harrisnish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do tell yourself that "If I do the things I have to do now, I'll have more time to do the things I want to do later". I also suggest doing your homework as soon as you get home from school. You may be tired, but when you're done, you're done. This allows you to have the free time you need to relax before going to bed.
2007-01-07 03:12:57 · answer #5 · answered by ja11389 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same problem. If the enjoyable thing is with your friends tell them your problem. Than if you say "hey lets go to the movies?" they can say "did you do your homework first?" and they can help you! Just fight the temptation!
2007-01-07 03:02:06 · answer #6 · answered by xoxoDewtYxoxo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have self control and dont make plans ahead of time unless u know that you can get your chores done in time to go. also dont answer the phone when your friends call.
2007-01-07 03:48:33 · answer #7 · answered by Logan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~ Do homework with friends to make it more"enjoyable"
~ Take breaks in have-to-be-done things and do some "enjoyable" things
~ Ask your friends to help you and maybe ask them to urge/motivate you to do homework or other have-to-be-done things
2007-01-07 05:17:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Hollister♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to remind yourself that you need to do it and its reason... and probabbly the consequences. also put the have to's first cuz it'll be difficult to cut out the fun when it begins
2007-01-07 03:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by janus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the bad things first then do the fun things
2007-01-07 10:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋