8 rough years, one great son, no positive future in sight
2007-01-07 02:40:32 · 11 answers · asked by jerzyson29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Even though your child is only 3 he's getting an idea of what relationships should be like. I'm sure you want him to learn how to be happy and you have to set that example for him.
Get out, staying for the children doesn't work. I tried it. Your little boy deserves to be in a happy home and if that means leaving the unhappy relationship you're in, do it.
If the other parent is a good parent, make sure they're involved as much as possible. Good luck
2007-01-07 03:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first off that last line is not true there is always light at the end of the tunnel. You as a mom need to forget about everything and, watch how does the father treat his son because i have not seen one dad yet who was bad to his wife and good to the son.
Sounds like you have some doubts about being enough for ur son and you need get over that fast if you want out, most people would say take the kids and leave that s.o.b but its not that easy.
Think about the options only 2 really:
1)You Stay and your son grows up seeing his dad mistreat him mom that boy will grow anger to his father he will have scares and he will get older and think thats the way to treat women.
2)You go you break free and yes it will be hard to start with yes but as time passes you ,and your son get settled he has love stability and no more anger around him, but you need to have a man ur dad or someone who is a male rolemodel to him in his life that way he want really miss to much.
I know what ur going though i am there to so if you want to chat more email me at dorothymills85@yahoo.com.
also you can search online for single mom help.
good luck
2007-01-07 03:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by ncgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this, how can this divorce hurts him? What would he lose? What would he gain?
When my son was about 6, I sat him down to tell him that I'm leaving his dad and I explained to him why I chose to do so. It was a short explanation, something to the effect of, "I love your dad, but the only thing we do together is fight/argue with each other for as long as we've been married (6 years), and I don't want you to grow up in that."
He's close to 13 now and is living with me. He sees why and he understands why.
The only thing I somewhat regret now is that he doesn't have, what my cousin said recently, "the love of two parents." Although, his dad's definition of caring for a child is, "It's enough that he's fed and clothed."
Your child is still very young, and it's true that at that early age, children will survive divorces. Maybe you can keep a journal of what's happening, and of your thoughts, and when your child is old enough, you can show it to him if you want.
2007-01-07 03:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by floridasian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy way out and everyone involved will be hurt, but that is life. I agree with the post that spoke of the resiliency of children. I am assuming that the other person is his parent and that he loves you both equally. Just make sure that you let him know he isn't to blame for any of the situation. Both of you need to tell him that you will still love him and that will never change. Good Luck!
2007-01-07 02:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your son will be hurt for long. Its better to end the relationship as soon as possible , if you have decided to end it. The longer you postpone it , the harder it will be.
2007-01-07 02:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you are dad from your user name. either way he is going to hurt...leave he doesn't see you everyday and mom may be the one to hurt him by denying you access to him. Leave fight to ends of the earth to see him.
stay and he gets hurt from living through your unhappy and unhealthy relationship, maybe he grows stronger inspite of it.
If leaving is your only choice, remind him its not him and you love him unconditionally. don't bad mouth mom in front of him.
2007-01-07 03:09:39 · answer #6 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
2007-01-07 02:57:40 · answer #7 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would not be hurting him you would be making a better life for you and your son......... if mom is happy then so is your son ... kids know more then we think they do .. its better to get out then stay and not be happy .....for everyone !!!!
2007-01-07 02:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by bonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are resiliant.... and chances are he won't remember... if you leave now he will never remember his life any differently. you will also be giving him the chance to grow up in a happier, healthier lifestyle.
2007-01-07 02:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it.....it will be a better life for you and your son...kids are very resilient....he will be fine...good luck
2007-01-07 02:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋