Why do men talk so badly about marriage?

Question

Why do you think so many men are always downing the concept of marriage? Do you think it's just the men who married the wrong women (e.g. married for looks, etc.) who are complaining, and that the happy men don't say anything? It seems these married men, many who are still married, are creating a culture of young men who are adverse to marriage altogether.

Just to provide an example: men at my boyfriend's workplace go to work and complain that their wives try to "run their lives" and tell them what to do, etc. etc. and tell all the unmarried guys never get married. But then they turn around later and mention that marriage makes their lives easier, they love their wives and so on. It's like a cool machismo to say marriage sucks, but then unmarried guys take it to heart and go home to their girlfriends saying "yeah my coworker is miserable because he's married."

Answer 1

It's because men want to have their cake and eat it to. They want to be married to one woman, but they want to play around with other many many other women and not get caught. They can always find ways to put down their wife, but many times they go back running and crying like a baby to her. Men are babies and their mothers think there is no one good enough for them, and they generally raise them that way. They are also raised to think they are the "man" and they can do what they want. Many men who are ugly and fat think they are still attractive and look for other women. Men have their own little world and they are not able to be trusted. But their ego can be hurt so bad. They are all like that because of that little thing hanging down south, they think because they have one they are entitled to do anything, it gives them power.

Answer 2

Dear,
Marriage of the mind is most important thing than the marriage of body.Indian boys & the supress sexuality because of the conditioning in the society creates some high feeling in the mind of the boys about marriage,may be the unknown attract that's the rule.But after marriage they come to know nothing is as great as they were thinking.Thats the failurar of marriage.Its cage for the man .Now its high time to question the need of marriage,I would like people to enter into the open marriage or trial marriage.
Woman need to play great role & not the role of watch dog.
Woman is the frame that limits the man otherwise man is large & very much large hearted its woman that limits the man & his freedom.Thats the real reason man is so much not afraid but start to disllike this hell thing thats what u say marriage.

Answer 3

Guys are for the most part physical beings.
I do not think ALL men speak ill of marriage. The ones that I know that do...it OFTEN ranges around the fact that the woman either rarely or no longer is willing to have sex. In one particular case, I have a friend who she will not have anything to do with him at all unless SHE initiates it...and she pretty much only did that when she wanted children.

Both parties have to take responsibility for things. Men need to be sensative to the emotional needs of women...and women need to be sensative to the things that the man would like as well. Relationships take WORK. And I think the things that get complained about the most from the genders USUALLY is:
Feelings for women
Sex for men.

I suppose there is the whole property division thing if you get divorced...or if they have been divorced and lived thru a bad situation.

If its just FEAR of that situation...they need to remember that marriage is supposed to be forever. Seek good pre-marital counseling before getting married to make sure you are truly on the same page with one another.

Answer 4

Marriage is so easy to get into and so hard to get out of, if not impossible. Men talk badly about it because they are usually the ones that suffer when it ends. They get hit with huge child support bills and alimony. It never seems to be a fair split. I can understand their point of view. If when marriage ended it was more even on both sides, they wouldn't complain so much.

Some guys have no freedom at all when they are married and when they get married the intimacy stops when they sign the papers. But same works for some of us women too.

Answer 5

Why do women (even in this day and age) talk like marriage is a 'once in a life thing'? How is it they are able to ignore the statistics for the divorce rate? I think one reason why men (and women) can 'down' the concept is that it is NOT a 'once in a life time' event, some people need and deserve a second chance. No, I think it is the women who married the wrong men who are doing just as much complaining (and even more if they have more female friends). I don't think the married men are 'creating any culture'. I think the women are maintaining one. Isn't my answer positively 'macho'?

Answer 6

i guess God designed it for men to be hormonally ready at a certain time in life ,well we are the we are fruitful and multiply.meanwhile our lovely wives are more fruitful with other men ,we know nothing about.so we end up with 2 or 3 children by whom we know not the true dad and if not ask in first yr of the childs life can never be asked legally.now we come to the bitterness.i am 50 married 3 times ,nice guy 3 kids,all grown dads unknown maybe one is mine i hope.i owe $91,000 in back child support for children that are all over 21 and i paid alot before i could`nt pay anymore(1000 a month for 9 years)whom do you think has made the young men adverse?all i can advise young men is love her and get a vasectomy then marry her ,if she loves you she will be ok with it.

Answer 7

it's more finances than the ability to keep one's penis in their pants. When a couple marry, usually the man has much more to loose than the woman. When the woman gets tired of him because he has turned into a workaholic so she can afford the things she wants or because he wants it too often or not enough, or she has found a new guy who can support her in the style she desires. He's discarded like a old TV. But the best part is that she gets to keep 50% of everything.

I think that's why we talk so badly of marrage.

Let's change the rules. Assets will be divided by what we put into the pot. I make 100,000 and you make 25,000, no kids, you get 1/5 not 1/2. Do this and men won't get burned so bad. Sure, a prenup would have worked but when we started we both had nothing so why would we think about needing one. then my parents die and I inherit, now it's 1/2 hers. that just stinks.

Answer 8

Not all men talk badly about marriage. I know this being a woman myself. When you get into a marriage, everything should be 50/50. Most woman want to just have fun and all they care about is if they could go shopping, do thier nails, and when the next time is when the husband gets paid.

Answer 9

All men desire respect from their wives, but because they refuse to tell their wives that they love them their relationship goes into a crazy cycle. If a wife does not recieve love, and this is something all women need, she responds negatively by becoming critical and nagging her spouse, feeling deflated and negative about her partner and chooses not to give him the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND RESPECT that he so desperately desires from her. If the man gets no respect he wont show love. He just goes quiet and either starts going out by himself or becomes a couch potato. Theses 2 ingredients are sorely missing in our world today and if people loved and respected one another, which by the way is a command from God given in the book of Ephesians in the Bible, things would most certainly improve. People would become accountable to their partners and families and would be the role model to their children as well. What the world lacks too is maturity, because people choose to live by emotion instead of overriding the feelings and emotions that are usually completely off the mark! Ithink those two ingredients if applied would result in a positive and successful mature relationship.

Answer 10

That's because human natural are selfish as many of us would think of ourselves first, many people tend to mask their true self esp before marriage but after marriage, they will change to be someone else instead. Nowadays people esp local woman have strong prides & much more indepandent in term of financial & education due to life-styles & also the morden world unlike foreign womans from third-world countries who are more submissive to husbands but don't forget, they are humans not robots afterall, they will also change in time when they achieve a better lifestyle...

Answer 11

Wow, this is the first I've heard of men's obsession with marriage. I personally think that marriage is more of a woman's thing.