My husband and i met in fith grade and were together through just about it all.We got married out of college 4 months later when i found out i was pregnant.Thats when things started to change when i was 6 months pregnant he started acting strangley and was very distant.After my daughter was born he started harassing me to go back to work but at this time i was still physically having problem getting around it had only been 4 weeks!I went back to work part time but that still did nothing to ease the problems because then i became a bad house keeper.He started to coming home on time and staying out with friend when my daughter was 1.5 he left saying "he could not take this anymore".I have had no contact with him now in what will be two years in Febuary.I have met someone else and have slowly begun seeing him casually.I believe my husbands parents said he was in New Zealand when they heard from him last.
2007-01-07 01:53:59 · 8 answers · asked by Lilly V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Strangley he never filed for divorce?So it looks as though i will have to do it for myself.
2007-01-07 01:56:26 · update #1
I had hoped it was a phase and he would come back
2007-01-07 02:08:12 · update #2
Sounds like you already started moving on.
2007-01-07 01:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by tumbleweed1954 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow how tragic. He doesnt want to be accountable to you or your child. The fact that you havent seen him in two years gives you the right to divorce him and maybe you have to go this route. If the person you are seeing is prepared to accept you and your child and is a good father towards your child, then I see no reason for you to remarry. You should be divorced first. Noone should treat you like this it is pathetic. Your man was obviously not ready to be accountable towards you. But running away like that is so pathetic. There is no point pursuing this marriage and especially since you have recieved no support either, it is better to get out of this mess. Im sure a court would annul the marriage under the circumstances.
I wish you well and I hope you really find a man who will be accountable to you.
2007-01-07 02:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear it's not working out. It sounds like you've been through a lot.
This situation sounds familiar. My husband, at the time, said I was a bad housekeeper too. This isn't grounds for divorce though! When your spouse is pointing out your flaws, or just pointing the finger, he/she is looking for excuses to leave. If they wanted to stay, they would be uplifting you, helping you and pointing out your strengths.
In my case, I knew my husband for most of my life. We were married at 18 years of age and married for 14 years.
Throughout the course of our marriage he developed "the grass was greener" syndrome. Many people who marry young develop this.
For a long time, I thought it was my fault. "If I were only more organized". But think about it; It's wasn't that big of a deal! Having a child to raise was my top priority. He was making a mountain out of a molehill. A bad sign. Now that I look back, I realize he just didn't want to be married to me anymore.
Don't waste too much time going over and over the situation with your husband in your head. It is wasted energy.
It sounds like you are moving on, which is great.
Good luck. Life will get better......set some goals, move forward and take care of yourself so you can take care of your precious daughter!
2007-01-07 02:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please check with a lawyer or any resource online on this. I do know there's something called an abandonment law. Where someone abandons you for a certain period of time, it's considered like a common law divorce. If you don't even know where to send those divorce papers, it'll be considered abandonment. And two years is a long enough time and reason for the courts to support your case. Good luck darling, you definitely have to move on.
2007-01-07 02:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing... was there any explanation for his behaviour?
I think it is time for you to move on if you haven't heard from him for 2 years and he's gone to the other side of the world...
You deserve better and I can't believe he did that to his daughter...
Good luck in your future relationship and I hope you and your daugther are very happy. x
2007-01-07 02:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have move on, you just have the final step to complete
just make sure that you have complete custidy of your daugther
Good luck
2007-01-07 02:06:40 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a advocate of divorce....But I must say this....
Sometimes when a house catches on fire you can re-build.....then again when a house burns beyond repair it must be torn down.
Hun your house is beyond repair.....he abandoned you and your child....move on and make the best for you and your child...
Good luck!
2007-01-07 02:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you shouldn't have waited as long as you have already to move on. Call your lawyer and start over.
2007-01-07 01:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by jbenishmlt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋