Does waiting to be married to someone before you are intimate make the marriage stronger?
2007-01-07 01:46:44 · 22 answers · asked by Abbra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no!
2007-01-07 01:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by Monica.P. 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Biblically God has a reason for telling people not to sleep together before being married. God likens marriage between a husband and wife to the marriage between God and the church, meaning that for God it is a sacred thing. I think all the peole who answer no say so becuase they are doing it anyway and dont want to hear Gods truth on the matter.
People who are prepared to wait will actually have a guilt free marriage, more trust and love for one another and be far more secure. There will be respect and love and doing things Gods way is always wiser. it might mean swimming upstream but if thats the right way to go, why swim downstream heading for the waterfall and going over the edge?
Its a matter of choice really and everyone instinctively knows whats right and whats wrong. You do have the right to be a virgin. All those who are not can never be what you are again. You can be like them in 3 minutes but they can never be what you are again! DOnt be swayed by the majority. Swim upstream. Its far more exciting and challenging. And you are not a NERD for doing that either. A wise man listens a foolish man plunges in wrecklessly and ends up with more plasters and bandages than anything else.
2007-01-07 10:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I dont believe that. I am 45, My fathers generation and before him believed it should wait until after marriage. This day is different, the people are different, life is forever evolving into something new. I believe that when its time, you will feel it. (and I dont mean in the heat of the moment). Another consideration is the compatibility factor. how would you handle it if after you got married you got intimate for the 1st time, you found that the 2 of you just werent compatible, not in "sinc", or the deeper connection you make with intimacy just didnt happen? You dont need a piece of paper to make the feelings happen. however if you so desire to make the marriage commitment it should be after you have experienced the deeper connection with your partner as sort of a seal, bond, commitment, and statement.
2007-01-07 10:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by paws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't make it necessarily stronger, but it will make it more special and actually EASIER for the both of you if you both are virgins or not as experienced with sex...cause then there's no 'expectations' as you're new to it, and you LEARN how to please EACH OTHER which is why the sex is SO GREAT because you actually took the time to find each other out rather than ASSUME or EXPECT or HOPE that the other partner knows what they're doing cause you've been there done that waiting for someone to 'impress' you....least in that department.
So honestly it could make your sex life stronge, cause like i said you get to seriously explore each other and learn to please each other which is hell more fun than just running into somethin you already know about. Marriage wise nah man, that's more dependant on the communication and devotion you have for each other that makes marriage stronger.
2007-01-07 10:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really the sex before marriage question is a religious issue for the most part. If you choose that road you are being obidient to God. Most people in todays world, including many Christians do not.
I think there are alot of aspects that would be blessings from God if we were to be obidient.
In my own personal dealings, I have found that it is not the number of partners you have or just getting to have sex that makes sex good...but the feelings and love that you have for the person that make the sexual part GREAT.
I recently remarried. During the dating process we had fooled around some. However, once we became engaged and started pre-marital counseling we STOPPED. In a way that was kind of backwards...but it certainly made the honeymoon unforgettable. I wish I could give the answer from a completely obidient point of view. Those who achieve it should be commended.
2007-01-07 10:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been down that path and I truly, honestly believe that if a couple really love each other they should wait. Otherwise should and if the relationship does not make it you will end up feeling unhappy that you gave of yourself as sex is an extremely intimate thing. It should bring you closer, so when and once again should your relationship not stand the test of time, you will feel so empty inside. For me, marriage is a one time thing. The one and only, till death do us part. I believe in being there for that one person in all ways and being intimate with your partner and making him or her feel extra special. It is not saving yourself for him or her but saving yourself for yourself.
2007-01-07 09:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not. There is a legitimate concern with sexual compatibility between partners. Better to find any problems before you go through with the marriage.
Waiting until you get married to have sex is an outdated idea only adhered to by a small, fringe minority.
2007-01-07 09:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by apocalypso blues 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Sexual intimacy is a crucial part of a loving, adult relationship. When a couple loves each other, it is a natural and healthy expression of that love. Friends with benefits, and one-nighters are no good-they always leave someone feeling bad in the end, but love shared makes people feel better physically and emotionally, and that has nothing to do with marriage.
2007-01-07 09:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Absolutely NO! My first wife and I waited until marriage. Big mistake. She was awful in bed. I dreaded the times we would be intimate. I was spoiled and use to experienced women. She had almost no experience. It ultimately led to us divorcing. Great sex is very important. I don't have the want or the desire to teach or babysit.
2007-01-07 10:57:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a signifcant part of a marriage relationship should not be taken so lightly as to wait until the hoineymoon.
If you are committed in every other way then it would follow to make sure you are compatible there too. BEFORE its to late.
2007-01-07 09:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your marriage should be stronger based on more than just a physical thing and when you should have sex.
2007-01-07 22:41:35 · answer #11 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋