where do i turn?

Question

me and my hubby split up on weds i have 5 children under 5 and no matter what the kids still need him but he wont talk to me so how do i go about the kids in this making him see and have them?

Answer 1

So sorry to hear about your split. But the children do need a daddy too. Wait until he gets in touch, or write him a letter explaining that the children still need to see him no matter what is going on between the two of you. Please don't resort to using the children against him, as lots of people do in this situation. The children are innocent in this. Good Luck.

Answer 2

oddly enough, I have recently been talking with a friend on this very subject. 1st I cant imagine why a guy wouldn't want to see his children. He must be 1 selfish guy. Anyway she ended up taking him to court and the judge ordered him to either pay $500 more per month or see the children on a regular basis. of course he chose seeing the kids. Its sad that it had to come down to this cause its a lose/ lose situation in the sense that he had to prove that money meant more that his children to him, and the children had to find that out. How hurt they must have been. It will scar them for life I bet. With that being said,,,, I think that I would move on and not put the children thru that kind of reality for their benefit, and hopefully you will find a partner that will love your children as much as their father should have.

Answer 3

You cannot "MAKE" him want to see them or have them..He knows that he has children, if he chooses not to see them, they are probably better off without him. I wouldnt force him to see them because the children would feel that they werent wanted and he'd treat them differently because he's being made to spend time with them. I'd say give him some time, he's probably just upset about the break up right now. If he was a good man, he'll come back into his kids life, willingly.

Answer 4

You did not say why you broke up; you have left out some info. It's impossible for anyone to offer advice without details. Also, if it has only been four days, I would not call that abandonment! Just give him some time to cool off. By the way, five children under the age of five; do you/he have the means to financially support them if you breakup for good?

Answer 5

Actually, you can't make a grown stubburn man do anyting. Yes, the kids do need a male figure, but they will do better without someone who does not want to be there. That's trouble in the making!

Answer 6

Give him time, he will return. One thing change your attitude towards him. Instead of criticism and nagging, show him respect. It is a command from God that men are commanded to love their wives and women are commanded to respect their husbands.

Bringing up 5 children isnt easy especially toddlers. Your role is tough but so is his trying to keep the home fires burning. I know you no doubt get tired and irritable, but you have to operate with respect, thinking every thing through carefully before speaking. If you operate in the negative, I suggest you choose to operate positively and confidently. Get the book LOVE AND RESPECT by DR EMERSON EGGERICHS. This will show you how to get out of crazy mode back into God's purposed mode for men and women who are married.

Send him an email or an sms telling him how sorry you are for being disrespectful and tell him what you really do respect him for and thank him for everything he has done for you and the little ones. Become thankful and grateful. As soon as men get respect (and trust me its all they want) they soften towards their wives and all the love they have for them comes forth. WHen the wife recieves the love due to her she thrives and reacts respectfully. Thats what that command from God is all about. Thats the way God meant for things to be and so we have to be obedient. He must give you unconditional love as in return you must give him unconditional respect. You dont go telling him that just do your bit and even if it doesnt happen immediately, it will happen in time. Dwell on the word UNCONDITIONAL.

This is the two ingredients that are missing in most households today because people choose to frown on the Bible with all its wisdom and knowledge given to man from God. If we all in this world showed love and respect to our partners there would be more accountability, less divorcing and happier families and life would be a lot better. people would begin operating positively and things would just begin to go better with people. The media are to blame for the way people think today. I have noticed that movies from America tend to slam fathers and men in general making them out to be pathetic loosers. That was never God's intention for men and the time has come for us to stand up and make that difference in our lives and to begin to teach this principle to others so that we can live in a better world.

To make things even better also try and acquire the book The Power of the Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. Read it through and in faith pray the prayers she gives you to pray for your husband. As soon as women pray for their men they suddenly find favor with their partners. In fact whoever you pray for, especially a person who is not favorable towards you. you will find favor with. That too is a Biblical Principle.

I hope this will help you. its so easy for things to go crazy and spin out of order, but if you get your priorities right, everything begins to fall into place. Even more reason not to walk the road of life without God in your life. God restores everything eaten by the locusts including your relationship with your husband.

He will come home. Wait and see!

Answer 7

5 kids?!? What, the one wasn't enough? Way to pollute the gene-pool there.

Answer 8

Talk to social services.
You need advice.

Answer 9

go to court, or talk 2 his mother

Answer 10

you can't MAKE him... you can only make him pay for them..