Why are men afraid of self confident women who don't fit the stereotype?

Question

I am a proud womyn...a member of Dykes on Bikes as well as a softball player that likes to tap a keg of beer with my fellow sisters. Why are men so afraid of me?

Answer 1

Right on sister, why are they afraid (and yes, thats exactly what it is; FEAR).


This is what i can discern, not in a more biased feminist manner but in a historical and psychological one.

Throughout history, men have suppressed women. Its true. Theyre are very few instances when a woman had a ruling majority over a population. Cleopatra is one, Queen Elizabeth is another.
The reasons, i think that men have always done this are;

1. The sex act. During heterosexual sex, a man penetrates a woman, invading her body, and the act in itself holds a sort of psychological dominance in men.

2. Physical strength. This is a stupid reason considering im one of the strongest people at my entire work, but as a general majority, men have more physical strength than women.

Two reasons that have over the centuries, given men this sort of constant ego thing that tells them "i penetrate, i am stronger, i am better"
It doesnt ever occur to their tiny brains, that without women, the entire majority of the male (straight male) population will not survive.

Yes, they proclaim superiority, but who out of the two genders uses the majority of their mental space dedicated to women? Who, out of the two genders, has to beg and scrape to get the tiniest bit of affection when a straight or bisexual women, needs to only allow them the satisfaction? Who out of the two of them, feels more empathy? Understands the way the world works a little better? Who out of the two of can handle more pain? Physically and emotionally?
Who forms stronger relationships?

WOMEN.

We may not have been the fore runners in everything, but we're better. Men think that because theyve been in control for so long, that theyre ACTUALLY in control.
No straight man goes 20 minutes without answering to a woman.
They NEED us, and they need us so much that it comes to the point, that they need their tiny little egos to think that we need them.

We dont.

And when they see a woman like you. A strong and independant woman that doesnt need anything to do with a man (which believe me, terrifys them more when youre.. well, half straight ;p)
that scares them. It hurts their little egos, their little brains cant fathom the idea that a woman wont need a man.

Funny, though, that the truth is, no woman needs a man.

thats why theyre afraid of you, because you dont need them, and it wounds their little itty bitty teeny tiny egos, that the overstuffed retards spend their entire lives trying to preserve.

Answer 2

All men are not afraid of self-confident women, but women can be self-confident without necessarily having to "like to tap a keg of beer".

The issue many men may have with you is not likely to be "being afraid" of you. More likely, they just don't find you appealing or else don't feel they have anything in common with you.

If you're a Dyke on a Bike why do you care what men think anyway. Might you kind of be hoping you can scare men for some reason?

Answer 3

Nearly every guy I've dated has complained that I'm too quiet and passive. From this, I've concluded that many (if not most) men actually prefer out-going women who aren't afraid to show their tough side.

Just because you intimidate someone doesn't mean they aren't attracted to you. Perhaps you're being unfair and not giving the shy ones a chance; I know how they feel.

Answer 4

Most men, either consciously or subconsciously, categorize women--ones that resemble his mother or grandmother, ladies of the night, or just friends. The first type may be preferred for serious dating and marriage, and you seem to fit the third type. Some gurus relate it to the issue of monogamy, but there is always exception to the rule, although, I am not a man so I might be wrong. Take care and be your comfortable self; I believe that a right man for you will love you as you are.

Answer 5

Personally I think that women who try their hardest to look, dress and act like men have something a bit wrong going on. I have no problem with homosexuality regardless of the gender involved, but telling us how proud you are of your own gender while imitating the opposite gender shows a very substantial contradiction that indicates to me some kind of mental or emotional abberation. Maybe thats why some men find you scary.;

Answer 6

LOL...men aren't afraid of them (you)...men just aren't attracted to such women and would rather not have to put up with their dietribes (like this question). This is not fear...it's preference.

However, women who aren't of this type ARE often afraid because those who you refer to as "self-confident women" will often try and run them down. Such actions are done out of fear, so I would say that it is people like you that are ultimately the ones that are afraid. Perhaps you'd like to answer you own question.

Edit - If you were truly self-confident in being a woman you wouldn't be struggling so hard to cop the characteristics of men.

Answer 7

i don't know what a 'womyn' is but I'm sure it'll scare the crap outta me. I'm a wuss.

Edit: Christ, I just did some googling and behold:
"Feminists who prefer to use these words feel that the terms "woman/women" relate to the historical and ongoing social subordination of women, since the word "man" is seen as an exclusively male term, implying that women are a subset of men, or a deviation from the norm. Those who argue in favour of the terms "womon/womyn" contend that they have the right to choose how a term referring to them is spelled, rather than be compelled to use words that evolved in what they see as a patriarchal society."

God on a pogo stick, could you find something more important to fuss about?

Answer 8

no, most gay people do not fit so rigidly into those stereotypes. There are a few that do, but just like the "preppy" "geek" and "goth" stereotypes, few people actually meet all of the standards to be the perfect stereotype.

Answer 9

Some are intimidated by it, and that is probably a sign of weakness or chauvinism. I am often annoyed with overly-confident women because they are always calling guys out falsely, and trying to "keep us on our toes" unnecessarily.

Answer 10

probably because you are a member of dykes on bikes. they prob think that you don't like them so why bother! and womEn is spelled with an E. ;)