please help: how do i stop thinking about bad memories from the past?

Question

I hate it so much thanks 4 the advice

Answer 1

Its called quilt, when you get over it or deal with it then you will be able to handle it.

It is something bad that happen to you that you can not get over then you need to find someone to talk to and they will help you deal with it.

Answer 2

put ur self in a good place in ur mind think of all the good deed's you've done in ur life,and try 2 make ur thought's as present as possible the past is the past u can't change the past though we all wish we can,and anothere thing work's best for most people is getting into a hobbie u like best for the time 2 pass by wit no problame,me personally i would take a book and start reading about usful information, peace out

Answer 3

I almost have the same problem but, I wish them upon other people. I can't stop myself from thinking it so, I told my mom and she said I should say Jesus answer the door. It really works too because all you have to do is say it a few times and the memory goes away temporarily.

P.S. if you believe in god this works.

Answer 4

If they're really bad, perhaps you need to seek some professional help. We can only give you our lay opinions that may not help you at all.

Answer 5

well maybe you should see someone about it. don't dwell on it. get a life coach they can help you out more than a psychologist. don't sit back and wait for change demand it!

Answer 6

well think off something big coming up and set your mind on it

Answer 7

Just wait for another wave...it will certainly come!Be patient...

Answer 8

keep yourself busy in the things you like the most or simply become busy . thats it..

Answer 9

well. you have o understand that the bad memories from the past cannot be changed and that whatever happened has happened. the only way to stop thinking about them is to accept the fact that they are in the past and to move on. thinking about them will only bring back painful memories and suffering but they will not change what has happened. the only way to come to peace with yourself is to realize that those bad memories are just what they sound like................memories. they are gone. no amount of worrying or regret will change what has happened. im not sure what kind of bad memories you have had. but some kinds of bad memories can be resolved or put to rest by fixing them in the present.

for example.....if those bad memories come from a relationship that did not go well due to conflicts or if you have lost a long time friend over arguing...............there is still a chance to change that. you could talk with them about it and resolve it. although that will not change the fact that you had conflicts in the past it will help things by allowing you to move on to the future without those bad memories because you know everything is normal again. but im not sure what kind of bad memories you are having. if they are bad memories caused by the pain someone has given you then in a way you are holding a grudge against them for what they have done. there is nothing wrong with holding a grudge. everybody has them every once in a while. but holding a grudge will not fix anything. it will just bring back memories......and along with those memories comes the pain that you had.

you will in a way be re-experiencing that pain by thinking about it. this type of pain is pointless. it will not change the past it will only stick with you through your future. you can make one of two choices. you can keep bringing back the pain by thinking about it.....or you can resovle those thoughts by confronting the one who caused you pain.......or by talking to a someone who will be able to help you.....i.e(counselor, psyciatris, or anybody who will understand what you are going through and can help you through it.) if you chose to confront the person who is the cause about these bad memories and they refuse to talk then dont push them. just tell them breifly how you feel then ask them why they would cause you this pain.

if they refus to talk to you then you will have to understand that you tried your best to resolve any bad memories and that they are not resolved. and the only way to move on is accept them and go on with your life without these bad memories weighing you down. but is easier for some people then it is for others to just let go of things that occured in the past. if you are one of these people you will just have to give it a little time....if that doesn't work then you need to talk to someone who will listen and try to understand what you went through.

i am not suggesting that any of the above examples are the cause of your bad memories. i am just giving explanations. holding onto the bad memories of the past is pointless. because they will only bring us needless pain or regret. we should only carry with us the good memories of our past life to give consolation and hope and to bring us hapiness when we do come across pain in the future. if you could explain more about these bad memories or fill me in with a plot i might be able to suggest something to help you. but there are all kinds of bad memories. death. regret. loved one cheating. bad memories could be caused by many things. and there are many ways to resolve the many diffrent bad memories. just try to realize those memories are only memories and you have to go on in life.

me i have alot of bad memories. i try not to think about them but every second that passes there is more that are forming. i try to think of good memories. and i have to realize that holding onto bad memories will not improve my present or future life. you cannot change the past......that is what i have come to accept.

oh yeah just remembered......i think of ways i can improve my life in the future. like....what kind of way i can become a better person. or ways i can improve my home. or ways to help out others in the future. you need to create good memories. and think about your future. and dont wait to try to become a better person or do something start as soon as possible. the sooner you start the more good memories you will have sooner.

Answer 10

you cant .Dont try so hard when you impress yourself to forget them so hard,it will react antithetical